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| Author: | Pinkfloyd123 [ Sun Aug 24, 2014 1:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | Being persistent vs needy |
So I been trying something new lately. Usually I'm not as persistent with a girl and I take no for an answer in an initial text convo when I ask a girl out. (Obviously if she says no the general thing is to say ok and hit her up another time). But I tried something different this time on one girl. I tried not taking no for an answer. Although there's a borderline between being dominant/persistent and neediness. I'm kinda please with my results even though she couldn't come hang out, at the end she didn't want me to leave - so I know there's more to this. At first she wasn't as interested so this looks like a power shift. The whole idea is that when she says stuff like "Maybe another time" I still persist and don't say "Ok, maybe another time" as quick as I usually would. I push it a bit before agreeing. What do you guys think? http://i.imgur.com/AEgxLPS.png http://i.imgur.com/Rk8cCHB.png http://i.imgur.com/nLzDBlu.png http://i.imgur.com/UlJe3BJ.png http://i.imgur.com/kXQzTZJ.png |
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| Author: | Pinkfloyd123 [ Mon Aug 25, 2014 6:20 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Being persistent vs needy |
Opinions? |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Mon Aug 25, 2014 6:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Being persistent vs needy |
I think that particular girl does not want to go out with you. I don't think any amount of pushing was going to get her out, but I didn't think it was too bad. As soon as you got into "but my schedule fills up pretty quickly" that seemed needy to me (for some reason)... like a "you'll be sorry you didn't say yes" kind of way... |
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| Author: | Pinkfloyd123 [ Tue Aug 26, 2014 1:08 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Being persistent vs needy |
I think that in someways she showed interest and in someways she's didn't. She's a bit different from other girls, she's like a square. Like she's becoming a nurse cause her family told her and she told me like she has no passion in life. Say what? lol. Previously though, I told her I flirt a lot and she said "That's fine as long as you're clear in your intentions." So, I'm sure it's possible she's just a bit odd lol. Although, I agree with you %100. I wasn't afraid to lose her so I tried different things. Feel free to pm me, I'd like to know what you thought of my text game! In general though when a girl resist your request to hang out, is it ok to be a bit persistent like or should I drop that and just go back to agreeing for another time ad I usually do. Lastly, how would you have done all this. I appreciate your response. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Tue Aug 26, 2014 12:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Being persistent vs needy |
As soon as she said "nooo, another time mister", I'd have said "Shame. No problem, though. Maybe another time" and probably left it. That was a hard no from her. Don't get me wrong - I don't think it's bad to push a bit as long as you're getting queues from her which aren't hard no's. And also - don't get me wrong again, I do not think your interaction was terrible either. It didn't convey the image I think you were trying to convey, though. |
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| Author: | Chief [ Tue Aug 26, 2014 12:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Being persistent vs needy |
Relevant: http://chiefpua.com/be-wanty-not-needy/ Though communicating persistence without neediness is MUCH easier face to face when you can actually use other things to you advantage like body language, voice tone, facial expressions, state transfer, etc. |
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