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| Author: | GKS [ Sat Aug 23, 2014 12:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Comparing myself to college guys |
Recently I've been comparing myself to college guys a lot. I didn't get into PUA until I was in my last year of college so I missed most of the opportunity of partying and easy laid. So now looking back, as I'm currently 27, I find how easy college game was. Just have decent reputation, can hold conversation at the parties and push for f-close. Simple enough comparing to gaming mid 20s or early 30s chicks. I can't help but finding myself wishing I could just jump right into those college parties and had it easy like those guys. It's an unsettling feeling. Any of you guys has experiencing anything like that in the past? And if I want to go for those easy lazy laid, what would be a good way to go about it being 27 and all? |
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| Author: | Marauding Pillager [ Sun Aug 24, 2014 12:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Comparing myself to college guys |
I understand where you're coming from, I've had these thoughts myself as well, and I'm 29. The thing is, you have to understand that when you leave college, you're pretty much on your own and yo have to find another social circle. Before anything, forget about the lazy college lay and move on. There are a few things you can do. 1. Keep in touch with college friends, but bearing in mind the fact that none of you are in college; 2. Be social, strike conversations with people at bars, cafés, public places, etc… 3. Travel, see new places, meet new people. Or any others you can think of. Gaming women in the mid 20s and 30s is not necessarily more difficult, it's just different. It's more subtle, you got to be attentive, show that you're an intelligent and interesting, and most of all, show interest. There's a good chance that these women are looking for something more than just sex (just a thought….). But don't go back to the college scene where you're already going to be the creepy older guy who doesn't want to grow up. You're at a period of transition where you leave college and enter the real world. I know it's daunting but embrace it. As Dr Kelso put it, "life is scary, get used to it." Understand that nothing in life is necessarily more difficult, just different. The only thing difficult is growing up and moving on. Hope this helps, and all the best |
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| Author: | atlaschugged [ Sun Aug 24, 2014 6:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Comparing myself to college guys |
This happens to everyone, and not just in pickup stuff. Don't you think the high school baseball star is shocked when he moves up to AAA ball and finds that instead of a superstar, he's just about average? The same will happen if he makes it to the majors; he'll imagine how great he could be if he had just another year down there. It's very easy to play the "if I only knew then, what I know now" game, but realize that it gets you nowhere. As you are 27 yearning to be 21 again, you are not concentrating on your late 20s, and then when you are in your early 30s, you will be yearning to be 27 again. The key seems to be embracing your current position in life, whatever it may be. Besides we tend to romanticize things once they are past. There are plenty of downsides to college too, namely, being broke, rampant immaturity, poor diet, throwaway housing, and cheap light beer all the time. You also have a chance to socialize with those you choose instead of those who were arbitrarily enrolled with you. So embrace it, it really isn't any worse or better overall, just another stage of life. |
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