Hi guys. Im a guy in my 30s who is currently dating a brazilian girl long distance. The history is long and complex. She is amazing, a 10 for sure, 29 years old. I met her for the first time 7 years ago so we go way back. I met her in a party in Brazil while on vacation and she came with a boy that she was dating and I instantly fell in love. I added her on FB and hoped for them to break up and they did a year later. I travel to Brazil twice a year on a regular basis. I spend all my vacation there. When I came back I visited the chlothing store that she works at and asked her out. She agreed and we went on a date. I took her to dinner and then later we went to my apartment to watch a movie. I kissed her but did not try to take her to bed because I wanted to appear serious with my dream girl (big mistake I know). I drove her home and she kissed me goodnight. I was in seventh heaven thinking it went perfect. I tried calling the next day but she did not answer.... Not to text either. I texted her for the reminder of my vacatin but no response. I was crushed.

Then we did not speak for 4 years. At another Brazil vacation I tried texting her again and got some responses but she did not want to date me. I did not try too hard though either. Couple of attempts. Another 2 years passed with no talking.

Then in March this year she posted a pic on FB and I asked her on PM if all was good. She replied that it was. We kept in contact at least 3 times a week and agreed to meet up when I came to Brazil in June for my vacation. It took a week into my vacation b4 we managed to meet, we were both busy and she worked every evening. We had a lunch date with her friend and it went well. She texted me shortly after saying that she adored the lunch with me and wanted to meet up after her work. I told her sure and asked her to call me when ready. She never called!! I was clueless... I almost gave up. Not texting her at all... A week later I decided to drop off the gifts I bought for her at her store. Some wine and chocolate. She loved it and wanted to go out with me again. We went to a nice restaurant and had a good time. We kissed at the end. I texted her again the next day and no damn reply again. Same story. I left her alone for another week and stopped by her store on the way to airport to say goodbye. She got chocked that I was leaving so soon and she seemed sad. Gave me 2 long hugs. I did not expect to hear from her again. That was closure in my eyes. To my surprise she did text me the day after my return. Said that she regretted her actions alot and that she misses me!!! I could not believe it. The day after I texted her to wish her a good day but no reply. I was stupid because I knew she would be busy that day. Business trip to Rio and all. It took her 5 days to reply though and said she was sorry and asked me to understand that she works alot. It made me pissed but I kept my cool, waited 2 days b4 I replied again. After that she has always responded to my texts. I contact her 3 times a week now. Sometimes wait 3 days btw texts. I always first. She has started to call me "amor", says that she misses me and has also given a small hint that she would like to move to my country, sending hearts. I havent done that back though. Playing cool. Except for one time when I got needy and said I miss her. Fortunately she said it back then as well. I asked her to Norway this week. She said she would love to but dont have any vacation left. Im going to see her in October. Today she has sent me more amore and missing me and hearts.

Question, should I still keep my cool or start saying it back? I mean we have been texting regularly for 6 months now but I am still afraid of messing up. We have planned a vacation together in Europe next year as well so we have future plans together. How should I play this guys? Im thinking of asking her to marry me at the end of next Brazil vacation if things go well because it is the only way I can get her to my home so I can spend time with her. She will never move here unless she knows it is serious because she takes a huge risk quitting her job. Not easy to get in Brazil.

Your thoughts are highly valued. Thanks in advance.

Thanks for your reply mate.

I totally know what you mean and it makes alot of sense. I would never in a million years do this with a local girl. The problem is that she will not get a visa to be able to live with me. I have to marry her for her to be able to stay here. If not then I have to move to Brazil and that is not an option. So what are my choices really?

This is rly weird I know. Never experienced somthing like this and I have been with quite a few girls over the years. I mean we havent even had sex but Im madly in love. She tells me that she misses me all the time. Im saying it back now, would be weird not to when I known her for this long right? It is bound to happen that we will have sex next vacation.

Kaley Cuoco married after 3 months right She probably had sex with the dude first though hehehe.

F*** it, not gonna work out anyway probably. I always mess up with 10s anyway in the end. Cannot handle them. I change my behavior too much. She replied to my message today. Wrote that she wanted me there. I wrote back but now she is not answering. So freaking unreliable in her texting. I should just give up.

It will be hard for her to get visa. Almost impossible and she dont want to risk her work to go 3 months and maybe come back without a boyfriend and a work. Without nothing. Would be disaster for her. Again, what choices am Im left with? None. Marry or give up. I dont want to text her for another year without seeing her...