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Author:  Zebra95 [ Tue Jul 22, 2014 12:14 am ]
Post subject:  How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Basically this girl is mad at me because she thinks that I called her beautiful in order to win some competition?! wtf?! Ive been an AFC my whole life and I still am one. Im trying to change it and If talking to girls on the street is not an acceptable way of meeting girls then FUCK ME! i dont know what else to do..

Facebook convo:

Her (out of the blue) : i think you think i'm some sort of stupid little girl..?
Me: huh? what are you talking about?
Her : how many numbers have you gotten so far?
Me : ?
Her : really? how many girls have you called beautiful in the last month?
Me : you and one more, why? I didn't know giving a compliment was a bad thing. :D Is it?
Her : of course it's not a bad thing, in fact it's a very good thing...unless it's because of a game or competition, then it's pretty disgusting if you ask me. (competition?? wtf?!?! I did honestly think she was beautiful...)
Me : lol what competition? what are you talking about?
Her : could you please delete my number off your phone and not try to get in contact with me again? my opinions of you are so ridiculously low i refuse to waste anymore of my time on you.

Me : Listen I don't know wtf you're talking about. I like you and even though the first date thing was awkward as fck I want to see you again and I've asked 3 times. You told me to add you on facebook instead and now you're just confusing me.

Her: ask your friends maybe..

Me : My friends?

Her: my cousin's boyfriend has a friend who knows you.

After that she blocked me, which is good i guess cause I was about to delete her. But thing is, this pissed me off quite a bit. I am 100% sure that I havent done anything bad yet she made me feel like I was a bad person. Anyway, in this convo im sure i've reacted wrong to what she was saying. How should I have reacted/ replied ? Any ideas?

Cheers.
Author:  Zebra95 [ Tue Jul 22, 2014 12:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Quote:

Her: my cousin's boyfriend has a friend who knows you.
This ''friend'' is a guy I've done day game with once. He has mentioned this to her cousin's boyfriend..
Author:  Versalis [ Tue Jul 22, 2014 1:44 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
First rule of fight club...
This friend of yours either needs an ass kicking or cut off. He's an idiot.
Author:  sugarwallz616 [ Tue Jul 22, 2014 1:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Quote:
First rule of fight club...
This friend of yours either needs an ass kicking or cut off. He's an idiot.
Agree, this so called freind of yours needs to be cut loose.

I have freinds that are terrible to have around women because (whether they mean to or not) DLV the shit out of me; so i learn to keep the two areas seperated.

I would have at first stood your ground with this girl, you should not have been as passive with her as you were with.

I would have responded with "Hold on! who do you think you are, you don't know me you don't know anything about me or my intentions with you"

This changes the frame and will establish you a "man with options". Seriously... who has the right to talk to you like that? Noone.. so establish it.

Learn to be nauchalant, you have nothing to prove to this girl except that you think she is attractive, is she has a problem with that? not the type of the girl i would think you would want to be around anyway
Author:  Zebra95 [ Tue Jul 22, 2014 12:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Quote:

I would have at first stood your ground with this girl, you should not have been as passive with her as you were with.

I would have responded with "Hold on! who do you think you are, you don't know me you don't know anything about me or my intentions with you"
Yes good point and tbh I knew I should have responded in a similar way but Ive had some bad experiences online (this is why I hate talking online with girls ive met outside..) so I guess I automatically went to AFC/pussy mode :D
Author:  Zebra95 [ Tue Jul 22, 2014 12:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Quote:
First rule of fight club...
This friend of yours either needs an ass kicking or cut off. He's an idiot.
Yes that's what I thought at first too. But I don't think him mentioning it is the problem. I think her reaction to it is the problem. She would have probably reacted the same way if she saw me approaching a girl on the street. I don't understand why, its not like we're in a relationship...This whole situation is weird.
Author:  Gunfighter28 [ Tue Jul 22, 2014 1:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Get rid of him. What he did was weak as hell intentional or not when my buddy brings a girl around its just an unwritten rule we don't talk about what we do... Simple as that!

I wouldn't say you acted 100% badly there are aspects of that convo that could have been better, but that's awkward as fuck to be hit with out of the blue. My rule is no matter how affected you may be don't show it and don't react emotionally.

You meeting girls on the street with your buddy disgusting?! That's weak on her part can she honestly say she never approached a guy in a club out of peer pressure from her friends? Has she never said hi to a random guy she found attractive? Has she never approached a guy on a dare from her friends? Those are all things you could have fired back at her if you decides to take that route.

As far as your friend goes deal with that in a calm cool manner, but make it clear your friendship is over.

Hope that helps good luck!!
Author:  Versalis [ Wed Jul 23, 2014 1:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Let me explain something: If your jackass little friend keeps doing this, MOST girls are going to react this way.
You're going to end up with a reputation as the guy who hounds after women, and they all reject him.

This is just about the worst possible reputation you can have.

When girls are like "I always see you talking to women!" - That is awesome and does great things for you.
When girls say "I hear you hit on everything that moves" - This is quite bad and leads to most women shutting you down without even giving you a chance.

Your friend should never bring up the fact that you go out to places in the daytime with the sole purpose of picking up girls. You need to tell him not to bring this up again, or stop hanging out with him.

Or keep doing this and watch it unfold just as you were warned.
Author:  Zebra95 [ Wed Jul 23, 2014 10:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
Quote:

When girls are like "I always see you talking to women!" - That is awesome and does great things for you.
When girls say "I hear you hit on everything that moves" - This is quite bad and leads to most women shutting you down without even giving you a chance.
I hadn't thought about it like that. But yes you are right. Thanks
Author:  Hint [ Wed Jul 23, 2014 10:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you deal with this?!?! (convo)
i would have threw her in the dirt
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