If a man is being a dick to you, he does not see you as being valuable. He doesn't recognize yourself worth, and if he doesn't recognize it, that is probably because it isn't there. With people it all comes down to what we're willing to put up with. If you're willing to let a guy be a dick to you and accept that by still giving him your attention; why on earth would he stop? Whether you're giving him negative attention for it or positive, attention is still attention. Its energy, its fuel that will further his actions.

The women in my life get my respect because I know that they will not accept anything less. If i disrespect them they will walk out the door; and if they disrespect me I will walk out the door just as fast. That works. And we all treat each other accordingly.

Its not wise to complain about something that you're still accepting. If you don't like it; and it won't change, get rid of it.

That's a good point. If I'm in a situation where everything's going fine, and he pulls a 180 on me, what's a good way to save face?

Eject.

Disappear without a word. He'll come running. And if he doesn't.. Is that someone you want in your life anyway?

If a man is being a dick to you, he does not see you as being valuable. He doesn't recognize yourself worth, and if he doesn't recognize it, that is probably because it isn't there. With people it all comes down to what we're willing to put up with. If you're willing to let a guy be a dick to you and accept that by still giving him your attention; why on earth would he stop? Whether you're giving him negative attention for it or positive, attention is still attention. Its energy, its fuel that will further his actions.

The women in my life get my respect because I know that they will not accept anything less. If i disrespect them they will walk out the door; and if they disrespect me I will walk out the door just as fast. That works. And we all treat each other accordingly.

Its not wise to complain about something that you're still accepting. If you don't like it; and it won't change, get rid of it.

Hi, Eddie! Not to necropost, but I wanted to let you know that this was a really good nugget of advice. It came at a timely moment in my life. When I first read it I thought, Whoa, country wisdom... But you nailed something. I let people get away with this all the time. I'm a junky for approval, and people use that to take advantage. It's difficult to go from gauging your success in terms of someone else to developing your own criteria, because as you're building something, people are tearing you down even more. But I'm glad you thought of that. Thanks again!

Awesome Animepic. Its always great to have a girl with a positive attitude around on the forums.

How do you handle a guy who goes beyond playful banter, like what you guys do, and is just being a dickhead, a la Nuclear Rejection?

Inform him he's crossed a line, let him know its unacceptable; this is called having boundaries. If he goes humble and offers a sincere apology, hopefully he'll know not to do it again, if not then he clearly doesn't respect you and you should next his ass.