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Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Sun Jun 29, 2014 10:31 am ]
Post subject:  She questions my masculinity. Shit test?

Hey guys. Help me figure this one out:

I've known this girl for quite some time. When we met I tried to hit on her in a very "cave man" and arrogant way (I was new to game), then tried honesty and told her how I felt and got an LJBF. Then I accepted being just friends although she knows I'm into her.

The thing is, recently she started questioning my masculinity. Once we were having coffee when we saw some fag with a purse. Obviously joking I said "wow, you have to give me one of those." She gave me a "I'm starting to question your masculinity", I answered with "Let's go to my place and I answer your questions" as I gave her my best eye fuck. Then, some two days later, she sent me a link to a humurous "are you gay" quiz and gave me crap for some of the answers.

Now, she knows I'm not gay. I've shamelessly hit on her, I've hit on other girls in front of her, I've told her about strip clubs and motels in the area, I've even used her as a wing once. Normaly, I would think she wants me to fuck her and wants me to take initiative, but she is already fucking some other dude and shuts me down everytime I make a move.

Any clues on what she is doing?

Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sun Jun 29, 2014 10:57 am ]
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You're projecting a lot of feminine traits.

Author:  Versalis [ Sun Jun 29, 2014 11:08 am ]
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Not a shit test, a shit quiz.

Author:  Bender1234 [ Mon Jun 30, 2014 3:42 am ]
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Usually if someone says something like that I go "I don't give a shit, I'm not scared to embrace my feminine side"

Because be honest, who you gonna date? A guy whose not scared of giving Tom Cruise a 8/10 rating or the guy whose balls suck up into his chest and goes silent with anything remotely gay? If you get defensive when gay tested, she will notice

...but you have a bigger issue. You're in the friend zone. You can remain friends with her...but if you're looking to date her 'eventually' you're just wasting your fucking time seriously. Either squash any romantic interests so you don't have problems in the future or start escalating things sexually with her

Author:  n2thevoid [ Mon Jun 30, 2014 3:44 am ]
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Show her your dick,

Author:  Moscow [ Mon Jun 30, 2014 3:50 am ]
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You're projecting a lot of feminine traits.
Expand on this please

Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Mon Jun 30, 2014 4:05 pm ]
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You're projecting a lot of feminine traits.
Expand on this please
Yeah, I'm also curious where he got that from.

I drive a sportscar, use black or neutral color clothes on a business casual style, the only jewelry I use is a watch and two rings and the only cosmetic I use is perfume (Invictus). I have spent some time training my alpha stance, sometimes people even find me arrogant and kind of a bully. My only "feminine traits" are giving my opinion when a girl asks about clothes or something like that and the ocasional "that's so cute" when we see a baby or small animal. And I thought chicks digged that shit.

@ Bender1234 I don't expect much with this one. If anything happens, fine, if not, she is my best friend and hands down the coolest girl I know, so I don't mind keeping her as a friend. It's not like I have oneitis or desperately try to get out of the friendzone. Sure, if I get to fuck her, great. I simple did not get why she tested me in such a way. I would expect that if she wanted me to take initiative, but why do it and shut me down when I try to escalate?

Also, Bender raised a good point: How to act when a girl coments on the looks of an actor or athlete?

Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Mon Jun 30, 2014 4:41 pm ]
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Yeah, I'm also curious where he got that from.

I drive a sportscar, use black or neutral color clothes on a business casual style, the only jewelry I use is a watch and two rings and the only cosmetic I use is perfume (Invictus). I have spent some time training my alpha stance, sometimes people even find me arrogant and kind of a bully. My only "feminine traits" are giving my opinion when a girl asks about clothes or something like that and the ocasional "that's so cute" when we see a baby or small animal. And I thought chicks digged that shit.
Feminine language is one. Here's an example: http://somethingshortandsnappy.blogspot ... which.html

The text in bold is feminine language while the normal text discussion is masculine language from a dude annotating the 50 Shades of Grey excerpt.

Guys in this forum say, "I want to fuck you right now." The equivalent feminine language in 50 Shades is, “I can’t wait to be inside you.”
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I've known this girl for quite some time. When we met I tried to hit on her in a very "cave man" and arrogant way (I was new to game), then tried honesty and told her how I felt and got an LJBF. Then I accepted being just friends although she knows I'm into her.
Women talk about feelings.

Body language is another as well as facial features.

Women's gaydar are sharp. One flick of the finger and they doubt your masculinity. Hesitate in your escalation and they'll broadcast to their friends that you're gay.

Get a body language expert to assess your movements. Poetic is a good choice. Take a video of yourself in your normal day-to-day routine and upload it somewhere where the body language expert can study the video.

Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Tue Jul 01, 2014 10:35 am ]
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Show her your dick,

x2

What's the worst that could happen? She'll either start blowing you or she'll tell you to put it away.

Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jul 01, 2014 12:11 pm ]
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Yeah, I'm also curious where he got that from.

I drive a sportscar, use black or neutral color clothes on a business casual style, the only jewelry I use is a watch and two rings and the only cosmetic I use is perfume (Invictus). I have spent some time training my alpha stance, sometimes people even find me arrogant and kind of a bully. My only "feminine traits" are giving my opinion when a girl asks about clothes or something like that and the ocasional "that's so cute" when we see a baby or small animal. And I thought chicks digged that shit.
Feminine language is one. Here's an example: http://somethingshortandsnappy.blogspot ... which.html

The text in bold is feminine language while the normal text discussion is masculine language from a dude annotating the 50 Shades of Grey excerpt.

Guys in this forum say, "I want to fuck you right now." The equivalent feminine language in 50 Shades is, “I can’t wait to be inside you.”
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I've known this girl for quite some time. When we met I tried to hit on her in a very "cave man" and arrogant way (I was new to game), then tried honesty and told her how I felt and got an LJBF. Then I accepted being just friends although she knows I'm into her.
Women talk about feelings.

Body language is another as well as facial features.

Women's gaydar are sharp. One flick of the finger and they doubt your masculinity. Hesitate in your escalation and they'll broadcast to their friends that you're gay.

Get a body language expert to assess your movements. Poetic is a good choice. Take a video of yourself in your normal day-to-day routine and upload it somewhere where the body language expert can study the video.
All I do is talk to women about feelings; its the only language they speak fluently. Weather its my feelings of wanting to sleep with them; or their feelings about where they're life is going. This is what opens the doorways for them to open their hearts to me.

I think the problem is that french doesn't actually believe he deserves this girl. He likes her; but its playing the role of the guy thats "waiting around for his turn" - hoping she'll eventually come around.

If you want friendship from the girl then by all means be her friend, but if you know that in your heart that is not what you want, then why on earth are you settling for that? That instantly reduces you in value/aura/ presence to her and everyone else around you. Stop hanging out with her and doing the friend thing if thats not what you want.. How is that benefitting you? You are subconsciously telling her that she can still enjoy the benefits of having you around without having you give you the things that would make you happy. How can she fully respect you?

Now if you just want to be her friend, thats cool. And if thats the case stop trying to fuck her. Pick a lane and drive on it. You're currently trying to play two roles and this is exactly why she doesn't respect you enough to take your sexually advances as anything other than a joke.

Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Jul 01, 2014 1:31 pm ]
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All I do is talk to women about feelings; its the only language they speak fluently. Weather its my feelings of wanting to sleep with them; or their feelings about where they're life is going. This is what opens the doorways for them to open their hearts to me.

I think the problem is that french doesn't actually believe he deserves this girl. He likes her; but its playing the role of the guy thats "waiting around for his turn" - hoping she'll eventually come around.

If you want friendship from the girl then by all means be her friend, but if you know that in your heart that is not what you want, then why on earth are you settling for that? That instantly reduces you in value/aura/ presence to her and everyone else around you. Stop hanging out with her and doing the friend thing if thats not what you want.. How is that benefitting you? You are subconsciously telling her that she can still enjoy the benefits of having you around without having you give you the things that would make you happy. How can she fully respect you?

Now if you just want to be her friend, thats cool. And if thats the case stop trying to fuck her. Pick a lane and drive on it. You're currently trying to play two roles and this is exactly why she doesn't respect you enough to take your sexually advances as anything other than a joke.
Every dude and woman is different. All men both have masculine and feminine traits. As a rule of thumb, the more feminine a woman is, the more will she prefer more masculine men.

When a woman says, "Are you gay?" despite OP sexually escalating heavily, then this woman thinks that OP's not masculine enough for her.

If you have very masculine traits, it works to your advantage to show more of your feminine side so you can attract a broader range of women. If you have very feminine traits, you'll need to show more of your masculine side.

It's all about calibration.

Author:  Mr_International [ Tue Jul 01, 2014 3:11 pm ]
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It seemed like you were on the right track with your first statement, but it seems like you blew it by attempting to prove you weren't.

I would likely respond to a woman who asked me that question with a straight face, "It's not gay unless you like it" or "It's not gay if you're on top."

Take it to the extreme and she'll give you a hard look and realize you're joking. You have now proven you're comfortable with your sexuality because it would be so far-fetched of an idea that you'd be gay that you're willing to toss a joke out like that.

Never the less, you need to drop it right there, not be like "No, really, I'm not... look!!"

Author:  NaughtyNapoleon [ Fri Jul 04, 2014 4:17 am ]
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You're projecting a lot of feminine traits.

Haha, agreed with you. Honeslt, no hard feeling, only a girl will keep talking like that and not taking action.

You should just lead her to your place and not keep talking about your masculinity there.

A strong man use action to show how strong he is, not words.

Hope this inspire you anyway
Naughty Napoleon

Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Mon Jul 07, 2014 6:53 pm ]
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Hey, guys!

Havn't had the chance to check the forum lately due to ISP trouble. Still, thank you all for the opinions on this matter.

I still have to "pick a lane", as EddieWOTP wrote, but still, thank you all for your insight.

Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Tue Jul 08, 2014 2:03 am ]
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You fucked up when you "honestly told her how you felt" .... why? are you even dating?

I'm guessing it's your delivery that made her actually suspect that you're gay. Maybe you didn't say it in the right tone.

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