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Author:  fosgate [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 5:20 pm ]
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I have had this really hot friend for 3 years now. She doesn't date a lot. We hung out last night and got pretty drunk. At one point we were in the same chair, all over one another, but every time our faces got close she would always turn her head away or down. We always have fun when we hang out. She even said we need to do this again, but I'm pretty sure she only sees me as a friend. I confessed my crush to her last night when we were extremely drunk, and she said she never knew I liked her(she's hot but not real smart) Should I tell her I want more than a friendship when we're sober? I know she doesn't remember me saying it last night. HELP!!!
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 5:49 pm ]
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Should I tell her I want more than a friendship when we're sober?
Sure, if you want to kill any hope of banging her!!

You may have blown your only chance.
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At one point we were in the same chair, all over one another, but every time our faces got close she would always turn her head away or down.
Why would you not make your move then? Escalate from shy dry-humping to the real deal when she was ready and willing, and completely submissive. And she could have just excused it with the booze!

Why would you ask for help to get out of the friend zone, when your so desperate to stay in it?!?
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 6:11 pm ]
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Should I tell her I want more than a friendship when we're sober? I know she doesn't remember me saying it last night. HELP!!!
If you say this, you're done. Do not ever, ever, ever do this to her or any other girl.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 8:19 pm ]
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Hey man,

I want you to understand that seducing a woman is just like anything else.


Lets say you had a weight lifting competition coming up and you wrote on a forum saying " HELP!! I NEED TO BE ABLE TO LIFT 750 LB by friday and I can only list 200 "

What would the advice you would be given be?

Reguardless of what you want to be able to do; you're currently not at the level where you'll be able to make that weight in just a few short days.

You have to work out and development your social muscles so you'll be able to perform better the next time you find yourself in this situation.

So heres your challenge... The next time you see her, look her square in the eyes and say " I want to fuck you" and then smile.

Do that, whether it works or not and you'll be lifting 500LB by monday.

I'm serious. How bad do you want it?

Let us know how it goes.
Author:  Versalis [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 11:35 pm ]
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Never tell her you have feeling for her.
You can express sexual interest.
Have you been flirting this entire time?
Author:  detox75 [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 11:44 pm ]
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She is somewhat conflicted...thus

Don't say shit to her when you are sober confessing any tacit amorous feelings, that gives her reason to set you straight in a way you wont like.

Next time you are both drunk, and she is being flirty, then be more dominant and move in for the kill, this gives her plausible deniability which she will certainly need in this circumstance.

Your chance of success is mid to low, but I assume you dont care to much about making your friendship awkward so grab some sack and go for it. Also you are completely naive if you think she doesn't know that you like her, girls are good at figuring that shit out, and IQ has very little to do with that innate ability
Author:  Jlyn Nicole [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 1:50 am ]
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She's probably genuinely worried she might lose a good friend, either way she feels..
if she remembers, and hasn't said anything yet. You could just ask if she remembers anything and say it in a joking context.

"Shit, we were so smashed that night! Did I piss on myself or say anything stupid?"
Author:  Versalis [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 2:06 am ]
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I also want to point out there is no such thing as the friendzone. It's a made up thing. There is either attraction or there isn't. I've slept with girls I've been just friends with for years. But only with attraction.

I do NOT suggest going straight for a kiss even if you think there is subtle attraction there(only if it's very obvious). Instead, test the waters by giving her a sexually charged compliment and see how she responds. I prefer ass compliments, but it's up to you. If she seems a little weirded out, there's no attraction. If she responds well.. it doesn't prove attraction, but it does make it more likely.

This is just different than random girls you just met. If you do try to kiss her, give her advance warning, something like step up to her and place your finger under her chin and draw it up. Then she'll either choose to kiss you or if she's not up for it, it gives her a much less awkward way to pull away.

Btw, I'm assuming your goal here is to test the waters and if you can't get her, to stay "just friends". If the goal is just "date me or fuck off", then you can totally go about this like some random club chick. At that point, failing soft doesn't matter. It's win or go home.
Author:  fosgate [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 4:18 pm ]
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No guys, I definately don't want to stay in the friend zone, but Im pretty new to this so I don't know as much as most of you do! Some. Of u are saying I should have just went for it. Some of u say to give her a heads up before I tried to kiss her(finger undrr the her chin) I like the finger under the chin idea btw and will definately try it. Do u really want me to lokk at my friend and say "I want to fuck you"? That's sems to be a very good way of loosing a female friend completely! BUT... I obviously don't know what the hell Im doing, so maybe it is a good idea? I guess it all comes down to confidence and I don't have a whole lot right now. Thanks for the responses and keep them coming!
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 4:24 pm ]
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No guys, I definately don't want to stay in the friend zone, but Im pretty new to this so I don't know as much as most of you do! Some. Of u are saying I should have just went for it. Some of u say to give her a heads up before I tried to kiss her(finger undrr the her chin) I like the finger under the chin idea btw and will definately try it. Do u really want me to lokk at my friend and say "I want to fuck you"? That's sems to be a very good way of loosing a female friend completely! BUT... I obviously don't know what the hell Im doing, so maybe it is a good idea? I guess it all comes down to confidence and I don't have a whole lot right now. Thanks for the responses and keep them coming!

You have to be willing to lose everything to be successful with women. Sure its risky, but nothing good comes without risk.

And if you want get out of the friend zone that means that you currently aren't satisfied with the friendship; because you want more out of it. And i don't understand why someone would stay in something they aren't satisfied with. So you have to make up your mind.. Are you going to remain the friend? Or become the seducer who occasionally loses out because of his boldness.
Author:  Versalis [ Thu Jun 19, 2014 1:52 am ]
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No, by expressing sexual interest, I mean things like looking her head to toe when first see her and saying "Damn!" or something, you know?

I don't think "I want to fuck you" is going to work in the vast majority of cases.

One of the reasons I'm never %100 in the non-attracted "friendzone" is because I always express basic sexual interest in all of my friends. Married, single, doesn't matter. Not directly by saying "I would totally eat you out, fuck the shit out of you and cum on your pretty face :) ". Several degrees lower than that. Usually just telling her she's hot in some sexual way. And I don't do it constantly or even every time I see her.

Earlier today my friend Meagan said "I think I just need to bite my tongue". To which I said "No, if anything you need to use your tongue more. I have only imagined you putting it to very good uses :) ".
Now, is that tame? Yes! But then I'm not really actively trying to get her into the FWBs category. I'm friends with her because I want to be her friend. I just like her as a person. But she's cute, so adding sex is only a plus. If the opportunity arises - bonus! But one thing it is does say is that I think of you in a sexual way. I don't think of you as a barbie doll lacking genitals. You may think that's obvious, but it isn't to women, because they absolutely DO think of many of their male friends as ken dolls with nothing downstairs.

Are you trying to come up from a neutered position, or do you two talk about sex? Do you sexually flirt or flirt at all?
Author:  fosgate [ Thu Jun 19, 2014 3:37 am ]
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I will definately be more sexually agressive the next time I see her and make sure to make some kind of sexual complement. We talked about sex he last time we hung out(not with each other) Im not happy with the current situation, so its definitely worth taking the risk of loosing the friendship. Ill let u know how it goes. If u can think of anything else, Im all ears!
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jun 19, 2014 4:52 am ]
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You friend zoned yourself.

Stop being such a fucking pussy and make a move next time.
Author:  fosgate [ Thu Jun 19, 2014 5:10 am ]
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That's helpful! ^^^ lol Im sure your absolutely perfect at everything you do...
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jun 19, 2014 12:02 pm ]
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That's helpful! ^^^ lol Im sure your absolutely perfect at everything you do...
Perfection, is in the eye of the pussy holder.

The 'Friend Zone' is a choice, not a sentence.
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