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| Author: | MaverickLondon [ Sun Jun 15, 2014 9:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | K close on first date but spurned f close, what to do next? |
Hi guys I met a cute Chinese girl from street game, We went on a date on Friday evening and because it was sunny we had a bottle of wine in the park together talked about stuff had some banter and had a lot in common, this led to some kino and we were lying down and massaging each other then we kissed. We were walking back and I thought it would be a good idea to try and bounce her back to my place like I did with another girl a couple of years ago after the first date, we slept together and were in a relationship for a year. Her station is a different station to mine and it is closer so she said she was going there, I tried to convince her to come back to my place but I failed and she said maybe next time which is usually bad isn't it. I said 'where I live there is lot's of nice countryside and I have some cool music videos, let's go and check it out' something like that, this didn't work on her but it worked with three other girls in the past for me all of whom I had kissed closed (two on the first date, one on the third date). They all turned into relationships as well which is kind of what I was looking for here. Maybe I should have worded it better or sounded more assertive, I'm not sure how exactly. I realise I might have blown things so I went out after that got some more numbers and an instant date although I had to leave and get my last train otherwise I would have a very long journey home two or three night buses. These numbers didn't turn into anything completely non responsive so I was out of options at the weekend anyway, so it would have been nice to have closed this girl and then spent some time with her over the weekend because we had a lot in common and she was very cute. A lot of times it has been from experience too good to be true you can have what seems like a great first date and never see the girl again whether you escalate/kiss close or not. That's why I always go for the lay whether or not I am looking for a relationship at the time. I am still texting back and forth with this girl a little bit of banter and decided not to meet her today because I was too tired from going out on Saturday night after the football and getting absolutely zilch no numbers or anything, I was trying to keep my options open so much for that I did a bit of daygame as well still nothing and those other numbers haven't responded. All of this does seem ridiculously hard sometimes and I am not a bad looking guy and go to the gym have a good job, etc. It does get very frustrating, I only enjoy this if I am consistently getting the results. Anyway this girl is still messaging me talking about the football and bantering and I did message her to say that I was going to show her a cool bar with some great cocktails but couldn't today because I was too busy/tired which is true because if you leave it too long then the moment is gone she will forget and move on as I have lost so many girls in the past that way. Then again I didn't want to seem too eager especially as she declined my offer to come home with me last time and said thanks for the invite maybe next time. So it was kind of difficult for me to decide when to have the next date as leaving it too long is a no no but also is setting it up too quickly and being too eager about it can seem needy. I am going to text her tomorrow and try and set up the date for Tuesday evening as I have gym tomorrow evening, that's if she accepts the date though now and doesn't have cold feet or buyer's remorse from the kiss close, does that mean there is no hope then? As I hope not because it is rare to find a girl who I connect with that well, I would be disappointed if it was. Then again I had a date with a girl in the past kiss closed first date and a bit of groping each other too she wouldn't let me come back to her place but did on the second time and agreed to the second date so you never know. But then again there have been so many girls in the past who I kissed closed on the first date and whether or not I tried to get to their place or mine they were either non responsive or wouldn't agree to another date. It sucks but that's life. So I am thinking if I do get the date on Tuesday I would take her to a bar have a couple of drinks then say I have to be at work early the following morning and we go our separate ways, as it is going to be harder to bounce her back during week because I live quite far out and she would need to go to work the following morning. But then again I don't want to leave it a week because that is too long the moment would be gone so I will have another date on Friday not sure where to take her perhaps to another bar in a part of town nearer to where I live for logistics and try and bounce her back to my place with either the same or a better excuse. Only problem is it doesn't have the same vibe as say the south bank or the west end and there isn't as much cool things to do there. That's my plan at the moment could I play it out better? Providing she is game for the second date. This isn't a oneitis if anyone is going to say that, this girl is a great match and I feel I have been doing game for far too long and my game isn't that great still so time to quit and settle down with a nice girl who is reasonably attractive as soon as possible. I am really tired of game and girls playing games, I would much rather chill with someone nice, go on nice holidays and get regular sex I miss that and would much rather have a nice girlfriend again than keep running up and down the street and clubs talking crap to the same old airheads. I am in my 30s now not my 20s anymore, I am never going to be a superstar game isn't for everyone. |
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| Author: | detox75 [ Sun Jun 15, 2014 11:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: K close on first date but spurned f close, what to do ne |
your basic problem is scarcity not game. What you are doing as a matter of PUA sounds fairly OK, your problem is you care way too much as clearly demonstrated by your lengthy post about some random, inchoate meet up with this chick. You need to get more woman in your dating piepeline so you are not so unreasonably invested in some girl you haven't even fucked yet. Once you are juggling a few decent prospects you are going to not give two shits less about this specific one. Having some abundance is also going to help your game by unconsciously not acting in such a thirsty manner. |
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| Author: | MaverickLondon [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: K close on first date but spurned f close, what to do ne |
Problem is it is difficult for me to get numbers and options. A lot of girls still are non responsive whose numbers I get and it is rare for me to get a girl who is into me and wants to make out potentially go home with me, my game hasn't improved in years I am just not good at this so I need to end this and find a nice girlfriend like I did before. I am wasting my time doing PUA stuff and getting nowhere fast. |
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| Author: | detox75 [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 9:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: K close on first date but spurned f close, what to do ne |
You have an inner game issue so unless you address this problem your never going to have much success. Ill PM you one very helpful, easy recommendation, do with it as you will. As far as "fixing this one girl issue", thats not a sustainable solution. |
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| Author: | MaverickLondon [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 11:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: K close on first date but spurned f close, what to do ne |
Thanks but she is keen to see me again and if it works out I am quitting game. Accept that not every guy wants the same thing, I have slept with quite a few women in the past and now want a long term girlfriend and this girl is a good match for me so it would be silly to continue to try and bang lots of women just because that's what PUAs want to do it's not what I want I want a girlfriend nothing to do with scarcity I like it better life is much easier and sex is more regular and I am appreciated more and I don't have to put up with silly games from silly girls. |
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| Author: | MaverickLondon [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 8:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: K close on first date but spurned f close, what to do ne |
Maybe I was getting annoyed because it seemed so hard to pull women I would like a break and it to be easier. Anyway I have had success in the past so can do it again if I am less needy and keep my options open so maybe you are right. |
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