Guess that is in part my falt. First pua material i read says "be sexual and let her know you have lots of girls". In a newbie mistake i took that a bit too much
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| Author: | TheMatrix [ Wed May 14, 2014 3:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Shit testing me? |
I made some mistakes with a girl. Was needy after an LJBF, and reacted poorly when she told she spent the night with some dude. Then I discovered game and now she is single again. This are the suposed shit tests: First, she sometimes coments on the looks of guys, like "look at that ass", and such. I either ignore or go with "yeah, sure if you say so". But once I replied "I'm not into guys, why are you asking me?" and she said "Just wanted to see what you'd say". Is this a test? How do I pass it? Second, she tells stories about her past sexual experiences. Guess she wants to see if I still show neediness. I either act like I couldn't care less or amp it up to build the tension. For exemple, once we were browsing a magazine rack in the mall, she picked one of those girl magazine and went straight to an article about quickies. It was about quickies in the car, parks, restrooms. She said "that's pretty basic", I replied "yeah, sure. I bet you are on a level above". She started laughing and said "you beat me with that one". Finally, although she tells this stories anytime I mention a girl I've been with she sais she do not believe, that I'm exhagerating or tries to lower my value in some other way. Are this shit tests? How am I doing? How do I pass them? |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Wed May 14, 2014 4:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
They're sorta tests. She seems like an attention-seeking bitch to me. The correct way to pass any shit test it to pretend it didn't happen. Ignore and change the topic. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Wed May 14, 2014 5:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
Your still in LJBF, she's treating you like a girlfriend, not a potential mating choice. They are indeed shit tests, they will shit test orbiters, just to stay sharp. The standard game advice is to remain unaffected, agree and amplify. This is fine and works… the most of the time. Quote: It was about quickies in the car, parks, restrooms. She said "that's pretty basic", I replied "yeah, sure. I bet you are on a level above".
I would have amplified to "I think you likely have no idea, lets sneak into the broom closet." Of course she's seeking attention. Attention is her currency, to be collected all night and jammed into her purse alongside her orbiter’s (your) balls. Quote: anytime I mention a girl I've been with she sais she do not believe, that I'm exhagerating or tries to lower my value in some other way.
Giving back a smarty/bitchy/girly reply will only result in more shit testing. A girl whose flirt of choice is a slam or insult must be given a hard takeaway. Ignore her, turn from her, walk away, it doesn't matter as long as you stop paying attention to her. DON'T go acting all butt-hurt about it. Quote: Second, she tells stories about her past sexual experiences.
"Who's interested in the slut show?" “Talk to me when you’re ready to be a grown up”, followed by a skillful takeaway may even result in the rarest moment on this precious earth, a hot girl’s apology.Take away her attention, take away her power. It is only after being discarded and ignored and replaced that she can you give her the best gift of all, the opportunity of winning back your attention. |
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| Author: | Melodical [ Wed May 14, 2014 6:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
Sounds like she has low self esteem to me. Her issues aren't your problem and you'll end up a validation monkey if you continue in the same vein as you are. A bit of push/pull will disorient enough to get out of the rut you're in. |
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| Author: | TheMatrix [ Thu May 15, 2014 4:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
Thanks for the replies. i am still a bit confused about push-pull. You mean alternating complements with ignoring her, right? |
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| Author: | Melodical [ Thu May 15, 2014 4:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
Sort of, the pull part is generating a positive emotion in her which you only do at first when you're getting the behaviour you like and want. The push can be by the negative emotions of either ignoring her or indirectly getting her to feel even lower self esteem for her actions. Once you have got a bit of momentum you mix everything together and ignore bad behaviour and most importantly appear uninterested in good behaviour ( but not quite ignore it) then switch again. Eventually she will say "I don't know where I stand with you?" Once this stage is reached then you draw your boundaries of what's acceptable and what's not and she will stick with them just to end the confusion. This method is actually derived from a military interrogation manual on how to break a subjects will power, but works in the same respect of creating confusion then getting rid of it by a compliance hook. |
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| Author: | TheMatrix [ Tue May 20, 2014 3:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
Sounds intersting. i'll give it a try. Thank you |
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| Author: | Case_sin [ Tue May 20, 2014 7:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
I'm in the same exact situation with this girl, but I've only known her for 3 weeks. I think by getting in shape and not acting, but behaving like an alpha male, will result in her noticing YOU as her man. That's what I'm going to do. |
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| Author: | Case_sin [ Tue May 20, 2014 7:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
But mine doesn't talk that bad mouth like yours. I'm just getting to know her and she tells me just a little of her past, which has sex, but she knows to keep it vague. |
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| Author: | TheMatrix [ Wed May 21, 2014 2:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
Guess that is in part my falt. First pua material i read says "be sexual and let her know you have lots of girls". In a newbie mistake i took that a bit too much
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| Author: | TheMatrix [ Wed May 21, 2014 2:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
Quote: indirectly getting her to feel even lower self esteem for her actions
Can you give exemple?Quote: then switch again.
You mean again reward good behaviour, then again ignore it, right? Excuse me, my english is not very good...Quote: This method is actually derived from a military interrogation manual on how to break a subjects will power, but works in the same respect of creating confusion then getting rid of it by a compliance hook.
Do you know the name of the manual or technique? I like military stuffThank you |
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| Author: | hopeforthebest [ Thu May 22, 2014 6:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shit testing me? |
uggghh to the first one it sounds like attention seeking and trying to make you a bit jealous since she is taking note of other men. But don't lie, girls know when other girls are hot, and ya'll know when men are handsome. For the other ones that is her weird way of flirting. We are indirect creatures. Honestly I don't even get it sometimes. -Lindsay |
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