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I would react by saying "that's not true", because it isn't. I would continue with something like "there are lots of good guys, but maybe you are attracted to douchebags? if you are, you can only blame yourself". And if I want to give her a subconscious suggestion I would say "maybe one day he will be standing right in front of you, without you knowing it".
No, this is too obvious, and very weak.She isn't attracted to "nice guys", or "good guys" (in her view, "doormats"). This we know.
Telling her, "Well, maaaaaaybe you can find a guy right in front of you who will respect you (by that, I mean MEEEEEEEEEEEE regardless of your current attraction level towards me!)" only makes you come off as self-serving and deceitful, and not really interested in her at all.
It basically says to her, "I'm a douchebag just like those other guys, except I don't have the balls to fuck you!", when you actually want to say, "I'll fuck the shit out of you, and still call you afterwards. If you're good."
To demonstrate my point:
I once met up with a girl I had been pinging for a few months off and on after getting her number/fb off a dating site (NB: don't invest this much effort in one girl. But I was still new. She also turned out to be not as attractive in person
). She invited me to a bar, and she had two orbiters there - I think she expected me to become an orbiter too.She complained about men, and her two orbiters fawned over her. I did not. I interacted with other patrons, occasionally jumping in to crack jokes when it added value, but I was mostly silent, doing my own thing. One of the two orbiters said something like, "Well maybe you would have more luck if you looked at a guy right under your nose." He looked pointedly at her, very obviously suggesting he meant himself.
At which point I started LAUGHING really, really loudly.
It is the most utterly beta move ever.
It's basically saying, "Woman, you have the agency in this situation, not me. You lead, not me. You choose, not me. I am merely here for your happiness and serve at your pleasure."
Fuck that attitude.
She's attracted to "douchebags" (i.e., confident guys with options), as is every other girl.
Be that guy, or be irrelevant to her sex life.