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Author:  FaceAche [ Thu Apr 24, 2014 3:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
My first and only pick-up (so far) lived in my area and I suppose that was the only advantageous motive that got me to approach her. But I see her pass all the time and I still think about her on and off! How do I get over this?

I think I need to just get out there and meet new girls. Have you been in this position and any tips?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Apr 24, 2014 7:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
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My first and only pick-up (so far) lived in my area and I suppose that was the only advantageous motive that got me to approach her. But I see her pass all the time and I still think about her on and off! How do I get over this?

I think I need to just get out there and meet new girls. Have you been in this position and any tips?
How did the pick up turn out?
She shoot you down?
Or did you nail her?
Author:  GamesSN [ Thu Apr 24, 2014 7:27 pm ]
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I'm guessing she shot him down?

Anyway, I found a while back that it wasn't the amount of women you got or gamed/successfully gamed it was the fact that I realised women aren't anything special. I always thought I didn't put them on a pedestal but it turned out I actually did which, in the past, would make me too attached to any one woman. I learned that beauty genuinely is easy to come by and it's very hard to be ugly. Even those ugly men and women I see I can see how easy it would be for them to look stunning it would just require some time(Losing weight). When you get to grips with this and realise not one woman is anything special from the next you'll get over them in no time.
Author:  FaceAche [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 7:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
It was my first pick-up and I got the number. We texted but I saw the signs that she wasn't that interested but I still tried. After about a week, she just ignored my text. I didn't start crying and all that bull - LOL! I immediately thought 'fuck it' but the only problem is that I still think about her from time to time.

I suppose you are right too, I just need to get to grips that girls aren't special - more experience is essential for this as I lack the experience. This may be why I think this way.
Author:  AFCToTheMax [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 8:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
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It was my first pick-up and I got the number. We texted but I saw the signs that she wasn't that interested but I still tried. After about a week, she just ignored my text. I didn't start crying and all that bull - LOL! I immediately thought 'fuck it' but the only problem is that I still think about her from time to time.

I suppose you are right too, I just need to get to grips that girls aren't special - more experience is essential for this as I lack the experience. This may be why I think this way.
In your case the solution is simple. Do what you are doing. Keep getting numbers from girls. Normally when a girl doesn't respond to texts is when you fuck up your approach in the first place so work on that. Most importantly:
- get hobbies
- have some goals
- get a social life
I made assumptions here, but if you are obsessing over a girl who you haven't even fucked I think you are lacking a bit on the above.
Author:  dhir [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 8:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
Yah man. .give her up,move on.you know,i faced same problem. Bt finally something helped me.
Im a little bit stubborn so that i couldnt also forget some girls who ignored me several times. As more as they ignored me,as more as i got addicted to them. . But finally realized, thats what turns me on,makes me weaker,ruins everything i learnt,i did. . Then i use to act like a total AFC needy guy.fuck. . . I really hate that feeling. But once i just fucked that matter,let it go. .and you know what ? She got mad at me :-D . May be it was just a test or technique to take all the powers from me. . But i didnt let her. . . To forget anyone./break one-itis/heal the broken heart ;) .
*delete all her messages,pics that you picked together,contact or anything that reminds about her(it also help u believe she is gone)
*make your subconsious mind believe that itz over
*stop listening sad/romantic songs
*stop daydreaming/fantasizing
*stop going places that u used to went together
*most importantly,sarge other girls,
*hang out with friends.
Author:  FaceAche [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 11:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
Quote:
In your case the solution is simple. Do what you are doing. Keep getting numbers from girls. Normally when a girl doesn't respond to texts is when you fuck up your approach in the first place so work on that. Most importantly:
- get hobbies
- have some goals
- get a social life
I made assumptions here, but if you are obsessing over a girl who you haven't even fucked I think you are lacking a bit on the above.
I definitely have my own hobbies, interests and goals and I have my own style (girls do seem to notice me and gaze) but I think I just lack the social life. All I want is a girlfriend really, and I don't want to go out partying and so forth every week.
Author:  BITmixit [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 12:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
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It was my first pick-up and I got the number.
Done well.
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We texted but I saw the signs that she wasn't that interested but I still tried.
First of all, good that you still tried.

Second of all GET SHIT LIKE "signs" and "i noticed she" OUT of your head NOW! Thinking, analyzing or trying to understand why a woman does one thing one second and then something else the next is IMPOSSIBLE. You need to adjust your mindset to be less reactive towards her behavior. Here's why.

Sometimes a girl will act like she isn't interested to see how interested you are. Sometimes she'll act overly interested but is just being friendly. Sometimes she'll, sometimes she'll, sometimes she'll etc...Do you get my point? there are far far far too many variables to try to respond in the "perfect" way so what do you do? ALPHA IT BRAH just be yourself and keep yourself in the same frame. She tries to knock you out of the frame? put yourself back in it.

The most attractive thing to a woman is when her behavior (outside of being sexy) doesn't effect you. ONLY EVER REACT when she gets naked.
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I immediately thought 'fuck it' but the only problem is that I still think about her from time to time.
Go out, get more numbers. Her face will be replaced with some other girls soon enough.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 1:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
Your 'problem' is not difficult, you have to put yourself out there to meet someone.

You did it! Good job!

Approach more girls.

This is the absolute most important part of approaching a girl in any situation. If she is not interested back off.

Remember, different girls have different tastes in guys, or no taste in guys. One girl might just feel that you're not her type. However, there might be another girl out there who will think you're awesome
Author:  FaceAche [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 1:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Still can't stop thinking about this girl?!
The last two replies were very enlightening! Thanks for the advice.
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