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Author:  Lumberdog [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 4:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
Well Im 18 years old and I did not have a relationship that lasted more than a week.. I always want the chick so bad, but when I know that this could be a relationship I get nervous just like I am now. I know this girl few months and there was something between us for the whole time. She was kissing with me multiple times while she was in relationship with someone else.. ofcourse now she is free.
So yesterday I was home alone and I invited people so we can have fun. As time passed there was 5 of us,4,3 and at 2am finally just two of us. I was so excited. We had great sex and after some time she went home.

Should I just call her out for some food or what? I am also worried about conversation.. I used to be a shy boy but thats another story. Maybe I think I am not good enough for her or Im afraid.. I dont know Im just nervous about relationships. I want it but i need help..
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 5:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
A relationship is a mutual thing.

Seems like you got laid and have fallen in love with her.

This isn't the avatar movie, what makes you think she wants a relationship???

If you plan on having relationships with girls you have had sex with only just the once, then you're going to be having these one side brief 'relationships' your whole life.

Please take some alpha pills. Relationships takes a massive chunk of time.....and lots of lots of sex before you decide.
Author:  Lumberdog [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 5:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
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A relationship is a mutual thing.

Seems like you got laid and have fallen in love with her.

This isn't the avatar movie, what makes you think she wants a relationship???

If you plan on having relationships with girls you have had sex with only just the once, then you're going to be having these one side brief 'relationships' your whole life.

Please take some alpha pills. Relationships takes a massive chunk of time.....and lots of lots of sex before you decide.
No I did not fall in love with her + did I mention that we were making out almost everytime we were out? We just never went out only two of us.. We were in groups and in the end there was always just 2 of us. I said there was always something between us and that is what i mean. And maybe this makes me think that she wants a relationship.. because she likes me,compliments me often and now also fucks me. She also mentioned future sex soo this is my response.
Author:  Vlads [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 6:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
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Well Im 18 years old and I did not have a relationship that lasted more than a week.. I always want the chick so bad, but when I know that this could be a relationship I get nervous just like I am now. I know this girl few months and there was something between us for the whole time. She was kissing with me multiple times while she was in relationship with someone else.. ofcourse now she is free.
So yesterday I was home alone and I invited people so we can have fun. As time passed there was 5 of us,4,3 and at 2am finally just two of us. I was so excited. We had great sex and after some time she went home.

Should I just call her out for some food or what? I am also worried about conversation.. I used to be a shy boy but thats another story. Maybe I think I am not good enough for her or Im afraid.. I dont know Im just nervous about relationships. I want it but i need help..
you desperately want this chick because you are inexperienced with women, your self esteem is low, you afraid to lose her, therefore you try to bind her to you, it's like a safety zone, our default mind set is to think if we are in relationship then we are holding the girl close and therefore we unlikely to lose her (society propaganda).

what you need to do is get used to lose girls and gain new ones, and everything will become fine.
Author:  Lumberdog [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 6:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
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you desperately want this chick because you are inexperienced with women, your self esteem is low, you afraid to lose her, therefore you try to bind her to you, it's like a safety zone, our default mind set is to think if we are in relationship then we are holding the girl close and therefore we unlikely to lose her (society propaganda).

what you need to do is get used to lose girls and gain new ones, and everything will become fine.

Yeah I might be afraid to lose her, but thats why I am pretending that I dont care that much. For the whole 3 months I did not tell her anything like i love you (which I dont) or nothing about me and her being together.. I was just having fun with her. And I dont know if it leads somewhere, and If it does, I am worried that It wont last long. I can be funny sometimes, but also boring. Thats what I am afraid of.. nothing to talk about. I strugle with conversations for my whole life...
Author:  Vlads [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 6:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
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you desperately want this chick because you are inexperienced with women, your self esteem is low, you afraid to lose her, therefore you try to bind her to you, it's like a safety zone, our default mind set is to think if we are in relationship then we are holding the girl close and therefore we unlikely to lose her (society propaganda).

what you need to do is get used to lose girls and gain new ones, and everything will become fine.

Yeah I might be afraid to lose her, but thats why I am pretending that I dont care that much. For the whole 3 months I did not tell her anything like i love you (which I dont) or nothing about me and her being together.. I was just having fun with her. And I dont know if it leads somewhere, and If it does, I am worried that It wont last long. I can be funny sometimes, but also boring. Thats what I am afraid of.. nothing to talk about. I strugle with conversations for my whole life...
it's a problem that need to be taken care of, you got to start doing things you want, choosing goals, conquer them, girls it's just a support.
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 7:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
Me and Vlads post's practically mean the same thing and yet I get the defensive reply LOL


did I mention that we were making out almost everytime we were out?

Woop de do, I make out with my fuck buddy too, doesn't mean we are married.
Author:  Vlads [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 9:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
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Me and Vlads post's practically mean the same thing and yet I get the defensive reply LOL


did I mention that we were making out almost everytime we were out?

Woop de do, I make out with my fuck buddy too, doesn't mean we are married.
there are people that like the unequivocal way.
Author:  Lumberdog [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 12:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
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Me and Vlads post's practically mean the same thing and yet I get the defensive reply LOL


did I mention that we were making out almost everytime we were out?

Woop de do, I make out with my fuck buddy too, doesn't mean we are married.
oh dude.. I mentioned that just to let you know that I am not that kind of person you think I am.. I asked something differend.. am i defending? good I am improving :)
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 3:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Why am I so nervous when it comes to relationships?
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Well Im 18 years old and I did not have a relationship that lasted more than a week.. I always want the chick so bad, but when I know that this could be a relationship I get nervous just like I am now. I know this girl few months and there was something between us for the whole time. She was kissing with me multiple times while she was in relationship with someone else.. ofcourse now she is free.
So yesterday I was home alone and I invited people so we can have fun. As time passed there was 5 of us,4,3 and at 2am finally just two of us. I was so excited. We had great sex and after some time she went home.

Should I just call her out for some food or what? I am also worried about conversation.. I used to be a shy boy but thats another story. Maybe I think I am not good enough for her or Im afraid.. I dont know Im just nervous about relationships. I want it but i need help..

No you aren't desperate. This is what you want. The point that should be made is that you decide what kind of relationship you want after sex. If you're thinking relationship before you have sex with the girl then it would be troublesome, however, after you have sex with a girl you can decide what kind of relationship you want to take. If you want a long term relationship with this chick then so be it. Go down that route, just keep in mind that it might take awhile before you guys are bf and gf. Don't jump in too quickly, even if you really like her because you're jumping way too early before she would want you to. Don't try to guess what the girl wants because usually girls don't know what they want. Go out on dates, have sex, have fun and it will eventually lead you to a relationship because that's what boyfriends and girlfriends do.
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