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I think it seems as if your girl doesn't respect you either, probably because you don't have any boundaries and accept that shit from her. If my girlfriend said that to me, I would remind her that she already knows where the door is. With an excessively calm voice I would tell her "please leave and don't come back". When she has left, make sure to lock it firmly behind her before you groom yourself for the club night you have just planned
for yourself.

Laughed when I read this because I agree she doesn't respect you either. When a girl disrespects you and you ignore it, she doesn't say "I shit test [your name] and he passes it..." she says "I treat [your name] like shit and he takes it."

Birds of a feather dude. Your gf's friend treated a guy like shit and dumped him. Have standards. Do you want a girl who associates with a bitch like this? Do you want a girl who disrespects you? If my girl had said this to me, it would turn me off of her and I'd judge her. Yes judge. Because if my gf is exhibiting behavior I find stupid I lose something for her. Have standards.

Calling her out is one step. But having standards, REAL standards mean that you lose attraction for someone over their actions.

Author:	Heavylifter [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 3:32 pm ]
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My girl said the following: "your legs would look skinny compared to (insert her friend's ex boyfriend)" "apparently (friend's ex boyfriend) has a monster cock" "supposedly (her friend) keeps complaining about (friend's ex boyfriend) big penis, I kinda want to see just to tell if she is exaggerating like she always does. It's disgusting to even think about" I didn't react. Just ignored. Keep in mind this guy is a beta who the friend dumped.

Author:	Zirk13 [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 4:03 pm ]
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think this guy is beta? all her friends are talking about him sexually

Author:	Heavylifter [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 4:29 pm ]
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Quote: think this guy is beta? all her friends are talking about him sexually The girl dumped him because she was treating him like crap and didn't respect him, and my girl knows this. I am thinking my girl is throwing this out there to get me to show insecurity

Author:	hugge [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 8:31 pm ]
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I think it seems as if your girl doesn't respect you either, probably because you don't have any boundaries and accept that shit from her. If my girlfriend said that to me, I would remind her that she already knows where the door is. With an excessively calm voice I would tell her "please leave and don't come back". When she has left, make sure to lock it firmly behind her before you groom yourself for the club night you have just planned for yourself.

Author:	Heavylifter [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 8:42 pm ]
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But if I reacted to it wouldn't it show I was jealous? Wasn't she fishing to see how insecure I was or something? I have called her out on: -any type of insult -snide comments -rolling eyes whenever she has done them in the past...but this stuff I shrug off because I saw it as a shit test to see if I reacted. If I did i think she would be like "oh are you jealous???" and smiled sort of thing

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Author:	Heavylifter [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 9:11 pm ]
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these were all seperate times not all at once. what the hell man.

Author:	Heavylifter [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 9:52 pm ]
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If I have good boundaries on other stuff but I let these slip am I screwed? I just think that these are more like shit tests. My girl is very crude and I told her her friend was "shapely" later on that night. She got jealous. But the thing is, why should I tell her to shut up if she tells me her girlfriend said her bf had a big cock? And the skinny legs thing was clearly a shit test to me.

Author:	neo87 [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 2:09 am ]
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Quote: I think it seems as if your girl doesn't respect you either, probably because you don't have any boundaries and accept that shit from her. If my girlfriend said that to me, I would remind her that she already knows where the door is. With an excessively calm voice I would tell her "please leave and don't come back". When she has left, make sure to lock it firmly behind her before you groom yourself for the club night you have just planned for yourself. Laughed when I read this because I agree she doesn't respect you either. When a girl disrespects you and you ignore it, she doesn't say "I shit test [your name] and he passes it..." she says "I treat [your name] like shit and he takes it." Birds of a feather dude. Your gf's friend treated a guy like shit and dumped him. Have standards. Do you want a girl who associates with a bitch like this? Do you want a girl who disrespects you? If my girl had said this to me, it would turn me off of her and I'd judge her. Yes judge. Because if my gf is exhibiting behavior I find stupid I lose something for her. Have standards. Calling her out is one step. But having standards, REAL standards mean that you lose attraction for someone over their actions.

Author:	Heavylifter [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 2:57 am ]
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Quote: Quote: I think it seems as if your girl doesn't respect you either, probably because you don't have any boundaries and accept that shit from her. If my girlfriend said that to me, I would remind her that she already knows where the door is. With an excessively calm voice I would tell her "please leave and don't come back". When she has left, make sure to lock it firmly behind her before you groom yourself for the club night you have just planned for yourself. Laughed when I read this because I agree she doesn't respect you either. When a girl disrespects you and you ignore it, she doesn't say "I shit test [your name] and he passes it..." she says "I treat [your name] like shit and he takes it." Birds of a feather dude. Your gf's friend treated a guy like shit and dumped him. Have standards. Do you want a girl who associates with a bitch like this? Do you want a girl who disrespects you? If my girl had said this to me, it would turn me off of her and I'd judge her. Yes judge. Because if my gf is exhibiting behavior I find stupid I lose something for her. Have standards. Calling her out is one step. But having standards, REAL standards mean that you lose attraction for someone over their actions. What the hell do I do here? Is this just the way she is? I've called her out before on those other things and she has changed her ways for the most part if not totally. She says she respects me, we have talked alot about respect and stuff. Sure she has had issues with me in the past regarding respect too, says I dismiss her often or don't thank her enough, or not as attracted to her as she is to me. She says she feels like a leech who wants to jump my bones all the time and feels I am much less so attracted to her. I've read that women will often try to cause jealousy or insecurity in a man's body (because that is how women try to get to each other) in order to even the odds when they feel insecure about the relationship. Maybe she is trying to do that here and not thinking of it as disrespectful? Keep in mind the sex is great and often, she futures the two of us with vacations and such and jokes that she wants to move with me, ect If a woman disrespects you, she wouldn't want sex right (not true in my case)? She wouldn't say she loves you (she always does)? She wouldn't give me a card for getting a new job (she did)? Should i walk away now and ignore her for a bit then when she comes back tell her why and give her another shot if she apologizes

Author:	Heavylifter [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 3:11 am ]
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she recognizes that I don't tolerate being late, name calling, or raising her voice if she has a concern in the relationship she sees me as decisive and confident, and I just got a new job so I am making moves in my life. the sex is constant. wouldn't these things not be true if she had no respect for me?

Author:	In$tinct [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 5:49 pm ]
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Your girlfriend is busting your balls with Mjolnir itself, man. When your girl is talking about other dude's dicks that's not something I'd consider a shit test. She is either extremely immature and is doing it because she is socially retarded and doesn't know that she's not supposed to, or she doesn't have the slightest respect for you. All those other things you list doesn't fucking matter at all. Are you happy in this relationship? Can you be happy if this continues like this? If the answer is yes then just ignore. If the answer is no, then fucking do something about it. Maybe you should remind your girlfriend that you don't talk about how dripping wet your bro's gf get compaired to her for a reason and if she starts drama over this then ditch the bitch...

Author:	neo87 [ Wed Apr 23, 2014 12:39 am ]
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I just reread the first post and realized your gf is telling you she wants to see another guy's cock?? Where the hell are you dudes finding these girls.... As Inst said, if you're happy continue. If you're not, walk. If you have had to keep calling her out you 2 aren't on the same level. But don't act like you're walking if you can't back it up.

Author:	jeffyp [ Wed Apr 23, 2014 3:50 am ]
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Lol so much anger from everybody. Just chill and have a talk to her about. No need to play the passive-aggressive walking-out-on-people game. After all, your relationship isn't so flimsy you'd ditch her after one or 2 comments, right?

Author:	In$tinct [ Wed Apr 23, 2014 12:05 pm ]
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@jeffyp This is not anger. There is a line... I find it absolutely cute when my girlfriend is trying to make me jealous or playfully tease me with other guys or anything like that and I just don't react. It's lovable. But this is not cool. The girl literally told him she wants to see another dude's dick. And she keeps comparing OP to this guy constantly and berating him. I mean, there has to be a point where it is no longer her cute way of testing his frame but she's outright shitting on the relationship itself, and this is way beyond that point. At least for me. Of course, as I've said, if OP is happy as things are then just continue the relationship and forget about it.

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Author:	recci [ Wed Apr 23, 2014 9:22 pm ]
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When she says something like that just say "Why dont you go tell somebody who gives a FUCK!" And if she gets bitchy at that response simply tell her if she not happy she knows where the door is...