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| Author: | notepad [ Sun Apr 20, 2014 9:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Has she lost attraction to me?? |
It's a long story so I'll make it short. I'm 19, the girl is 16.5 (yes, it's legal here). An important detail is that about 2 weeks ago she said she's looking for a relationship and not just sex. 6 days ago, she was at my place, stroking my Johnson while I was licking her nipples and making out with her. She used to send me tons of hearts and kisses on SPAM. Now I feel like she's lost attraction to me. We took a walk at the park. I wanted to hold her hand and she said she doesn't like the feeling because her hand gets sweaty. I stroked her hair and she told me to stop and that she doesn't like her hair touched. When her cleavage gets too exposed, she makes it less visible. I put my hand on her back, and she doesn't put her hand on my back. If I want to kiss her, I need to lean forward and kiss her, but she wouldn't lean forward into kissing me. Today at 8 PM I texted her "Hey". The last time she was online was 3 PM, so I didn't expect her to answer immedietly. I called her at 9:35 PM, and she didn't answer. Later I saw that she connected at 10:45 PM, so I figured she should be near her phone. At 10:52 PM I sent her "what's up?" and got no reponse. At 11:04 PM I saw she is connected to SPAM, and I said "I'm calling" - note that she can't make calls out of her phone. I called her, and she didn't answer! I don't get the deal with this chick. Is she just playing games or what? What should I do next? For now I just won't contact her at all and wait for her to explain herself. And by the way, I don't think she's girlfriend worthy, I think she's a bit dominating and I hate that about a girl. Now I'm just into banging her, or being bang-friends with her for all I care. |
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| Author: | cerebralassassin [ Sun Apr 20, 2014 9:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Has she lost attraction to me?? |
i think more information is needed, how long have you known her? and how long between meeting and you getting to the stroking and sucking? the reason i ask is because if it is a very short period of time it could be buyers remorse, and it may be because of her age due to sexual inexperience on hers or yours part, but there is something i would never do, dont keep calling and SPAM a girl, if she hasnt responded to one dont keep pushing it can come across as creepy, if she doesnt answer leave it a day or two dont keep messaging hoping she'll reply because she wont |
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| Author: | notepad [ Sun Apr 20, 2014 9:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Has she lost attraction to me?? |
I met her 6 days before the night we made out. It was at a vet, she looked at me a few times, I looked at her a few times, than we shaked hands and I made an introduction, we started talking, then she took out her phone and wrote my number. And texted me the next day... Say that she texts me tomorrow, should I respond immedietly or make her wait for a few hours? And ignoring her for a bit would basically fix this "buyer's remorse"? |
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| Author: | cerebralassassin [ Sun Apr 20, 2014 9:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Has she lost attraction to me?? |
ok if she texts you leave it a bit to reply at first, the thing is if you reply straight away it means that youve been waiting by the phone for her to reply and have had nothing to do otherwise, ok ill explain about buyers remorse if youre not sure about it.. buyers remorse is when you met a girl and things happen.then she decides to change her mind. so for example lets just say you meet a girl in a bar you then make out with her, you arrange to see her again. but in that time shes changed her mind and decided nope i dont want to see him again or things moved too quickly or my hormones were rushing or whatever reason and shes decided she dont want to see you again or sticks you in the friendzone...... thats buyer remorse, i would say leave it a couple of days then message her once ask if she wants to see you again if she responds and says yes then you still have a shot, if she says no you have an answer, if she doesnt reply yet again you have your answer |
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| Author: | notepad [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 4:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Has she lost attraction to me?? |
What if I called instead of texted her? Would that make a difference? |
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| Author: | BITmixit [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 12:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Has she lost attraction to me?? |
Quote: What if I called instead of texted her? Would that make a difference?
You'd lose attraction as her texting you = you call her = you're reacting = clingy/needy.If she texts you just casually text her back an hour or two later. 4 hours max. By the way, take a step back. Fix your brain and you're starting to get oneitis for her. Also only ever call a girl on your terms, when you want to talk not because she's text you or whatever. |
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| Author: | notepad [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 1:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Has she lost attraction to me?? |
So this is the 2nd day in which I didn't contact her, nor did she contact me. I think she has a crush on some other guy, according to her FB activity. I won't get oneitis with her, she's attractive and I only want to bang her - I've never felt anything forwards her. So, option 1: text her and ask if she wants to meet. 2. Call, if she doesn't answer then just forget about her. |
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| Author: | BITmixit [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 3:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Has she lost attraction to me?? |
Quote: So this is the 2nd day in which I didn't contact her, nor did she contact me. I think she has a crush on some other guy, according to her FB activity.
So you have no feelings/oneitis for this girl yet are facebook stalking her and counting the days till she contacts you again?Quote: I won't get oneitis with her, she's attractive and I only want to bang her - I've never felt anything forwards her.
You obviously don't understand what oneitis is. It's not really anything to do with feelings. You experienced "something" with this girl and either want something else to happen, have feelings or just want to escalate to pounding her in. Oneitis is when you focus far too much on ONE girl which should only happen if you're fucking her on a exclusivity/relationship level.Quote: So, option 1: text her and ask if she wants to meet.
Neither. You've messaged her and she hasn't responded thus she's demonstrated that currently she isn't interested. Her interest level will only increase if you stop giving her attention. Option 1 & 2 will 100% lead to you NOT fucking this girl.2. Call, if she doesn't answer then just forget about her. Option 3: GO out, get numbers, pull, improve your game, fuck girls. If you don't have feelings for her then who cares. The reason her interest has dropped is because 16.5 years old, you're older yet she has higher value. You're older, you should be out there getting as much pussy as you can not sat at home staring at your phone waiting for her to text you/counting the days. Due to your past interactions your investment is higher then hers thus you've lost attractiveness. Only way to get it back is to demonstrate higher value. Do thus by doing exactly that, GET higher value. Increase your social/fun value by going out, improving your game and such. Another thing is that if you have a girl NAKED and she is RUBBING YOU OFF. Go for the FUCK, FUCK HER SENSELESS. Persistence is attractive & alpha. Allowing her to take control aka "we're not having sex" is unattractive. p.s. wait 10 days if she doesn't contact you then she wasn't interested. |
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