I've wondered for a long time why I do this and why I feel this way. I finally think I have the answer, and I blame RSD.

For obvious reasons I choose to post this here and not at rsdnation. I want to share some insights with you guys.

First a brief history to give you some background... I became a single in the late 2011 after a 10 year long relationship and ended up in the PUA-community. I was active gaming for 3 months only, learning every theory there was, and was just about getting the results I was looking for when I met my current girlfriend. I still wanted to develop my skills, so I kept gaming "with limits" (no kissing, just trying to make the girls hook and chase me). I finally got skilled enough to compare myself to people we like to call "masters".

I continued writing posts in forums like this to help people out and as pastime, and I continued watching clips on rsdnation. However, everytime I got out nowadays I get a bad feeling as if I'm not good enough. It's some kind of performance anxiety, blaming and criticizing myself everytime I'm not in a superhappy state. It makes me feel bad, and I've wondered for a long time why I do this and why I feel this way. I finally think I have the answer, and I blame RSD.

The reason is simple, and it is the same reason why people who spend a lot of time on facebook become unhappy (it has been scientifically proven I think). The reason is that you only see a perfect facade of people's lives. All the bad and boring things never gets posted. When you see all this perfection you start comparing yourself to this, and there is not a chance that you will ever be able to live such a perfect life, and that's the reason why you become unhappy.

The same applies to RSD. Especially Tyler and Julien give you this impression of being "perfect". They never show you any of their insecurities, never anything but maximum confidence and happiness. Instead of having the intended effect - giving you positive emotions and inspiration - it will start consume and drain your mind. Now when I've finally realized this, I will never go back to their site again. I'm happier without it.

What do you think? Is it only me, or do you feel the same way?

I gotta disagree. While I dislike RSD and agree it can make guys weird, your point is just not true. Tyler and almost every instructor ALWAYS talk about their shortcomings, how they have bad nights, how they are NOT perfect physically etc, so i can't say that if they made you feel like they were perfect it's their fault. I'll give them that; they send the message that they're happy and having fun, but they also show that they're human as well.

lets be honest wouldnt you feel happier if your wardrobe was outfitted with gucci or armani i know i would, but i cant so it depresses the shit out of me but it makes me want it more, so when you actually can get it you buy it you get your momentary buzz then guess what you find something else, people arent satisfied with what they have they crave what they desire

You are a little bitch.

And you are saying stupid shit. Tyler and Julien are normal dudes like you who hustle all the fucking time and are working their asses of while you are complaining. All the shit they are showing and that you percive as perfect is just there to motivate you and to show you what's possible if you deal with all the boring and stupid or unperfect as you might say.

Grow up and be the fucking man or stay a little bitch.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3r-KvakUzU

For obvious reasons I choose to post this here and not at rsdnation. I want to share some insights with you guys.

First a brief history to give you some background... I became a single in the late 2011 after a 10 year long relationship and ended up in the PUA-community. I was active gaming for 3 months only, learning every theory there was, and was just about getting the results I was looking for when I met my current girlfriend. I still wanted to develop my skills, so I kept gaming "with limits" (no kissing, just trying to make the girls hook and chase me). I finally got skilled enough to compare myself to people we like to call "masters".

I continued writing posts in forums like this to help people out and as pastime, and I continued watching clips on rsdnation. However, everytime I got out nowadays I get a bad feeling as if I'm not good enough. It's some kind of performance anxiety, blaming and criticizing myself everytime I'm not in a superhappy state. It makes me feel bad, and I've wondered for a long time why I do this and why I feel this way. I finally think I have the answer, and I blame RSD.

The reason is simple, and it is the same reason why people who spend a lot of time on facebook become unhappy (it has been scientifically proven I think). The reason is that you only see a perfect facade of people's lives. All the bad and boring things never gets posted. When you see all this perfection you start comparing yourself to this, and there is not a chance that you will ever be able to live such a perfect life, and that's the reason why you become unhappy.

The same applies to RSD. Especially Tyler and Julien give you this impression of being "perfect". They never show you any of their insecurities, never anything but maximum confidence and happiness. Instead of having the intended effect - giving you positive emotions and inspiration - it will start consume and drain your mind. Now when I've finally realized this, I will never go back to their site again. I'm happier without it.

What do you think? Is it only me, or do you feel the same way?