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Author:  Tändelei [ Tue Apr 08, 2014 2:57 pm ]
Post subject:  How to deal with approaching friends?

You see a girl in daygame in the supermarket or trainstation. By herself. You talk to her. Then some female friend, male friend, boyfriend, w/e arrives and stands there awkwardly. She looks awkwardly at her friend, smiles at you with an insecure smile as if she wanted to say: "Please do something". The girl you talked to becomes uncommunicative.

I tried:
  • Saying "hi" and returning to my target. She still stands there awkwardly and is kind of annoying. "How in the world do you think your friend will ever get to know a guy if you stick together all the time and try to ruin the mood" is what I think sometimes then.
  • Saying: "I just saw your friend arrive, it seems that you have to leave". She always says yes, smiles and leaves. Then if we see again, she smiles again and leaves cause her jealous friend drags her away.
  • Ignoring the friend, not even looking at him/her. I have limited data about this, but thinking about it, this seems best. Only problem is that she becomes uncommunicative for some reason.
  • Telling the friend what I was talking about with her. Trying to make her part of the conversation. Trying to be as calm as possible. IME they always dragged the conversation down. Which makes me favor ignoring her friend again.

Author:  R.C [ Tue Apr 08, 2014 3:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to deal with approaching friends?

No no , these won't work. You have to acknowledge the friend in a friendly way yourself. Say hi or whatever , maybe compliment the friend (if it's not a dude) on her earings or something related to her tastes , not her looks , after which simply state:

"I was just talking to your cute friend over here , I promise I won't (kidnap / keep / whatever) her long. Is that cool with you ?"


Basically , what you're doing is:
-letting the friend know you intend to continue your private conversation with the target
-by using the word "cute" you state interest in the target
-the kidnap version sends out a playful vibe
-you're asking for the friends' permision to continue. Well , not really , you're actually enforcing it , no one will ever reply with "No , that's not cool". However you need that "Ok" from them , because once you get it your target won't feel awkward , the friend doesn't feel awkward and most importantly she won't become uncommunicative because she has her friend's blessing.

-also you make a great impression on the friend , which will only work towards your advantage


Hope this helps dude.

Author:  Zirk13 [ Tue Apr 08, 2014 3:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to deal with approaching friends?

want to state, stay away from the word kidnap if the conversation is new. if at all you feel creepy saying it it will come of that way

Author:  GamesSN [ Tue Apr 08, 2014 4:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to deal with approaching friends?

"Hey there! Your friend looked lonely so I decided to introduce myself to her. I'm Games. *Smile*" Blah, blah, blah.

You engage the friend and don't stick to your target. You need to make the friend feel comfortable with you around his/her friend to possibly leave you alone or be okay with you hanging around. Befriend the friend and starve the target of attention for a few minutes then switch back to her. Once you've gained rapport, comfort and interest between them BOTH you can either suggest meeting up again and n-closing("You've been fun/Interesting -- Who would have thought! We should meet up again sometime.") or if they want you around or are comfortable enough with you go for an instant date but show a clear interest in your target without brushing the friend aside. It's like a balancing act.

Author:  Tändelei [ Tue Apr 08, 2014 5:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to deal with approaching friends?

Quote:
"I was just talking to your cute friend over here , I promise I won't (kidnap / keep / whatever) her long. Is that cool with you ?"
This is just perfection. How do I memorize it?

Author:  Tändelei [ Wed Apr 09, 2014 8:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to deal with approaching friends?

One addition. How would you treat the friend if she's already there, a 2set? Start with "I was just seeing your cute friend over here , I promise I won't (kidnap / keep / whatever) her long. Is that cool with you ?"?

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