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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Tue Apr 01, 2014 6:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Living With Brother and His wife |
Living with my brother becomes a problem for me when it comes to picking up women. I don't have an issue talking to attractive women, but when it comes to thinking about bringing them into my life I run into the "living with my brother" excuse. My brother and his wife are slobs (in my mind) and I don't want to bring a girl around the mess because I feel like she'll associate the mess with me even if I explain that its my brother. My room stays clean and organized so I guess I could "retreat" into it, so I need some advice on what to do about this situation. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Tue Apr 01, 2014 6:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Find a new place then. |
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| Author: | Zirk13 [ Tue Apr 01, 2014 6:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
have you never been to a party where the house is thrashed. even in that circumstance if moving out isnt an option find a way to make the time spent with her entertaining. chill with her outside the home, like in the lawn backyard or street things get hot then take her to your room. doings so may kill lmr. cause technically shes still in your domain |
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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Tue Apr 01, 2014 7:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Been on two dates with this one girl, and was thinking about inviting her over to keep me company while I work on my brothers car. She's already been here and I scared her off with some comments I made, so I'm thinking getting her more comfortable being around me will kill the LMR even though I think shes a virgin? Also, I see her 3 times a week since I have a dance class with her, and we don't have a text/call relationship but she seems really into me every time I'm talking to her in dance class. Kinda confuses me...thoughts?? P.S. I might want to mention its not financially possible for me to move out on my own right now. |
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| Author: | Brawndo [ Tue Apr 01, 2014 8:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Sucked when I lived with my parents but I made it work. You could also try a hotel room, public spot or her place. If you're after long-term, ask your bro/wife to go out for a few hours. |
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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Wed Apr 02, 2014 5:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Ok, so I think things between me and this girl are done. She responds to me great in class, but when I asked her if she had anything planned for the weekend, she told me she had a thing with her friends. I told her well, that's too bad because I was going to work on my brothers car this weekend, and I was going to ask you if you wanted to keep me company. Then asked her if she had anything going on that Saturday night, since I was going this dance performance at 7:30. She told me that's the time her friends were going to a baseball game. So wtf? This is the second week in a row she's used her friends as an excuse. |
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| Author: | Brawndo [ Wed Apr 02, 2014 8:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
She's either legit busy or doesn't want to watch you work on a car. Ask her when she's free and coordinate that way. I personally am only free 1 day a week so I can understand how she's always busy. |
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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Wed Apr 02, 2014 8:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Wouldn't asking her when she's free come off as "try hard"? The first week she blew me off (in my mind), I asked her when she was free and she said Saturday. So i asked her to come over Saturday night and then she decides to tell me her friend just contacted her and wanted to hang out Saturday. She didn't offer to hang out a different time that weekend, or this weekend when I asked her to hang out. This is why I don't think she's interested in hanging out again, because she won't offer to tell me when she is free instead. |
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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Thu Apr 03, 2014 4:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Thoughts anyone? |
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| Author: | Brawndo [ Thu Apr 03, 2014 2:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
If you didn't commit to Saturday (which you may have) then she probably took the offer with her friend since nothing was solid. She should have suggested another date if she were really interested. For now, ask her when she's free this week. If she gives you a couple days, say "I can do x day at x time". That way you're letting her give you a list of days and you're coming off as picking the day that you're free. It shows that you have less time than she does (theoretically). |
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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Thu Apr 03, 2014 7:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
What if she uses the excuse that she has to check her schedule at work? (she's did this two weeks ago when I took her home after I think I scared her off with my insecure comments). |
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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Fri Apr 04, 2014 1:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Anyone have any tips on what to say if she says she has to check her schedule? When she made that excuse previously i waited 2 days for her to let me know her schedule and she never did, so I texted her and that's when our whole conversation turned into the excuse that her friend was coming and she was going to hang out with her. I'm thinking I should just move on and forget about asking her out. Anything I do now to try to hang out with her seems like I'm trying to hard. I just wish I knew the real reason she's being shady so I can fix it for the future, wether it be the insecure comments I made, or the fact that I live with my brother, or the fact that he's a slob. |
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| Author: | prince_prince [ Fri Apr 04, 2014 2:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
Yea I would try and find A new place as well man. |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Sat Apr 05, 2014 2:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
A. get your own place ASAP B. Be direct with her... your obstacle is common. C. Motel. |
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| Author: | EssenceofPassion [ Sat Apr 05, 2014 2:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Living With Brother and His wife |
What do you mean be direct with her? And right now its not financially feasable to get a hotel, or move out on my own. |
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