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Author:  Joe817817 [ Mon Mar 10, 2014 8:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Help me diagnose/figure this girl out

So here's the rundown. This girl has been a good friend that I'm sort of interested in, but obviously has some "issues".

In a nutshell

-She is attractive , but not superhot. I would give her maybe a 7. More sexy than cute. But she does not take kindly to people saying she is attractive. She wants to be viewed as more than that so it sets her off very bad if people say this.

- she only seems to date bad guys with as much drama. The good guys don't seem to interest her. I'm not the bad guy type and I would want something more than that.

-Divorced single mom. Didn't marry the dad until the kid was like 2.

- Major family issues. Mom is a psycho that is basically jealous of her daughters success and has created rumors in the family about her to get back at her. Dad is in the picture but he seems like a lazy redneck bum. Bad credit so the girl had to buy him a car with her credit. Very Close to her step brother which seems odd since his dad was a rapist.

- Parents divorced and mom remarried a guy that raped her sister with this girl in the same room. He went to jail but eventually the sister couldn't deal with it emotionally and backed down from it. But it did happen.

- she is unstable to the point of crying a lot about her childhood and her life. I would say she's pretty unstable.

With all those horrible things said for some reason she's peaked my interest. I know I'm crazy for thinking that, but it's something I can't explain. She is fun and seems to be someone that just needs someone good in her life. Maybe I'm thinking that's me? Either way drama had followed her her entire life.

So - anyone care to psychologically diagnose her or have any advice for pursuing this? I feel like I want to even though as I said it makes no sense. I'm pretty set on that, so I would like to hear both sides of the argument.

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Mon Mar 10, 2014 8:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help me diagnose/figure this girl out

Not sure she needs to be psychologically diagnosed... She obviously sounds like she has her issues.

While I'd tell you to stay away -- You're aware of her issues at least... and don't seem to care (not sure why... but hey - it's your life)

Don't go into things thinking you're going to be a white knight for her. It doesn't work like that. She'll use you as an emotional tampon and fuck another guy who treats her like horse shit... It's really up to her whether she wants some good in her life, as you put it.

Game her like you would any other girl... Don't neg though. She sounds fragile enough... You're already friends with her so you'll need to make yourself look like a romantic option and not just a friend. Gauge her interest and use lots of kino - see what she does.

I'd still advise you to stay away. Or at least be safe with the chick so you don't accidentally knock her up and end up a baby daddy to a psycho.

Author:  hugge [ Mon Mar 10, 2014 8:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help me diagnose/figure this girl out

Interesting... I'm going to guess wildly here. Please let me know if I'm not totally wrong. :)

I suppose you are interested in her just because you find her exotic? If this is the case, you must come from a "better" family (higher income, education, less drama, etc), and you are probably bored with people of the same "kind". You are now looking after someone "across the border" so to speak.

She on the other hand is dating "bad boys" because that is what she is used to, and she identifies herself with that kind of people, since her entire family is bad. She is looking for guys within her social circle, and that is where your problem lies. You are not her kind...

You have three options here. One is to forget about her alltogether. I suppose you don't like that one. The second option is to become one of her "kind". I wouldn't recommend that either. The third option depends on whether she wants a better life or not, if she is willing to become "your kind" so to speak, and if there is even the smallest chance that she is capable of doing it.

What you need to do is to invite her to "your kind of people" and make her comfortable in their presence. At the same time, try to show her things that you maybe think are common, but that she might find exotic, new and interesting. It is important that she always feel safe around you, and that you provide her with new sensations. Don't hit on her, don't try anything unless it is obvious that she wants it. Just be her friend. The only sexual thing you should work on is your vibe. Watch Julien's PIMP videos at rsdnation, and you will know what I mean. There is a risk with all this - that she will feel uncomfortable and run back to where she feels at home. If so, the game is lost.

If you spend enough time together, and you succeed in introducing her to a better social circle and better life, there is a chance that she will fall for you. And as a final touch to this all - I say all this because I once was in this exact situation myself, with a mentally broken girl in my bed.

Author:  DemonKaz [ Tue Mar 11, 2014 3:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help me diagnose/figure this girl out

And I thought my mark has issues...

Still, some of Hugge's advice may be useful in a situation I'm at.

There are two PIMP videos there. One 4 minutes, another 1 hour. Is that it or there is more? If so, do you have youtube links?

Author:  JakeP [ Wed Mar 12, 2014 11:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help me diagnose/figure this girl out

Run away.

You're not that desperate that you're smart enough to realize she has SERIOUS psychological issues and yet still think that you can "help her" or have any kind of positive, sexual relationship come of it, do you? Good. Now run.

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