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| Author: | Pinkfloyd123 [ Fri Feb 28, 2014 9:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | My brother AMOGS me |
So my brother is 24 I'm 22, he's a total D bag. In front of people he ENJOYS embarrassing me, putting me down and DLV'ing me. Whatever he says comes from the mindset of, I'm BETTER then everyone else." He tries to order me around like I'm a little idiot. Gives me commands and expect me to do it. I usually don't put up with it but sometimes don't stand up for myself. If you disagree with him or shame him in public he whines, moans and screams - he always has to get his way. He thinks he's the best but in reality he's 300+ Lbs and only met 2 girls in his life and he's needy with them and just tries to buy things for them. His strong points are money. He gots it, has a great credit score and a new truck. I feel I have nothing. I'm unemployed, don't hv a lot of money, no car or anything. And I'm very shy. But hv more experience with woman then he ever will. But I hv no idea how to handle the put downs, the fact that he's my brother, I did a huge favor for him and ended up paying $500 for it, wasnt his fault but he didn't help me make it back. I'm a very nice person, I can't adopt the mindset that I'm better then everyone else. He always runs everything in my face, I still care for him but want nothing to do with him. I could never bring a woman near him cause I can't trust him, he'll cause me problems, DLV me and won't care. He's very hateful. He does things for a sick Ego boost in my opinion he's a COMPLETE narsasist. How do I handle him? |
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| Author: | Damien Cash [ Fri Feb 28, 2014 9:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
Why the fuck do you hang out with him? I see my sister's once every couple months. If he's such a prick, stop spending so much time with him. If he asks why, say it's cause he treats you like a piece of shit. Dude, you're 22, there's no reason you have to hang with your brother all the time. |
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| Author: | Pinkfloyd123 [ Fri Feb 28, 2014 11:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
My family is old fashion, were taught to stick together - I realized that he's not worthy of that. We live in the same house and he also stalks me too find out what I'm doing all the time to tell my family what I'm doing? I don't want to hang with him, it's just hard to believe my own family does this. How do I handle him when he does this in front of me or tries to put me down. |
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| Author: | Damien Cash [ Fri Feb 28, 2014 11:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
Look down on him like an ugly puppy and chuckle. Don't engage him or argue, just roll your eyes and smirk. Say something demeaning to the person you're with, like "This one (pointing at your brother) was always in need of attention..." and then smirk. If he blows up, stay calm, ask him why he's so upset. Don't break character, don't fight with him. If you do it right, everyone will think he's just a sad, angry man and will think you're the bigger man for not taking the bait. This will infuriate him, but after a few times, he'll get the picture. I'm basically teaching you how to be a smug, cocky, bully-type. You should NOT do this to people who don't deserve it, but the best way to shut people down is by being the coolest person in the room and laughing at their attempts to bring others down. Don't shrink, don't blush, don't wince. Look people in the eye when you talk shit and make it loud enough that everyone can hear it. If you do it right, he'll back down. |
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| Author: | Pinkfloyd123 [ Sat Mar 01, 2014 1:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
That really helped, I always get mad and DLV. Very insightful! So my issue is this: To feel less insignificant I'd like to get a car and apt so he can't tease me about it. And actually be better then him. How could I do that? Also I don't DHV so ppl always believe him when he says bad things about me (he's jealous of me). How can I DHV so they won't believe him |
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| Author: | Damien Cash [ Sat Mar 01, 2014 4:04 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
Honestly man, get a better job? I can't really tell you how to get a better place and a car. I CAN tell you that it doesn't matter. Have you seen those skeevy fuckheads who sponge off their gorgeous girlfriends, refuse to work and smoke pot all day? Let me reiterate--HOT GIRLFRIENDS. You can still pull girls if you live in a pizza box, you just need the confidence and skill. As for higher value, back straight, talk slow and low, take a moment and pause before you answer, shoulder down, look people in the eye, work on a firm handshake and think before you speak. Talk highly of yourself (don't boast), don't talk down about or to people unless they're being dicks and be positive, lively and fun. These are good first steps to showing you are worth a damn. |
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| Author: | Mr_International [ Sat Mar 01, 2014 6:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
You just have to learn how to roll with the punches and keep a poker face. Also, since he's always dogging you and you know he's always going to do it, come up with some funny/witty insults for him ahead of time. That way, when he clowns on you, you have something up your sleeve when he rags on you and it will seem like you're shooting from the hip. Make sure it's funny/witty, not something serious otherwise you'll wind up looking like the bad guy. On the other hand, these little "tricks" are just on the surface, you need to feel good about yourself and build up your confidence. As far as your financial/living situation, you need to take that negative energy and convert it to something positive. Don't let that negativity bring you down, that's a hater's plan. Let those words motivate you to take action and don't stop. If you do so, you'll leave these haters in the dust and they won't even be an afterthought. Your situation is a bit different because that's your family, but believe it or not, family can be toxic as well. You need to keep your distance from people who bring you down or try to at least spend less time with them, and I don't mean locking yourself up in your room playing video games. Use that time to work on the things that will build you up. |
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| Author: | Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 01, 2014 9:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
1. Raise/save up some cash that's equivalent to 6 months rent and 3 months living expenses. This will be your cash buffer. 1.1 Sell anything you own of value that you're not using or don't need. Even if it's just 30% of its original value, SELL it. 1.2 Spend at least 10 hours a week looking for a job. If you have to mow the neighbor's lawn, get up early in the morning and mow those lawns. If you have to get two day jobs to raise some US $5,000 to $6,000, do it. 1.3 Open a savings account and get a secured credit card. Secured credit cards start at around $200. Start fixing your credit score NOW. Always pay on time and after 6 months to one year of the high fees secured credit card, get a low APR non-secured credit card from one of the credit unions around and dump your secured credit card. Unsecured credit cards from credit unions have lower charges and fees than credit cards from established banks. 2. Get an apartment that you can afford with an extra room or two. 2.1 Find roommates and rent out the extra rooms to cover some 70% to 80% of the monthly rent. For instance, if the monthly rent is $800, rent out the two rooms for $300 each. If you can rent those out for $450 each, you'll be rent free with a $100 profit. 2.2 Stock up on some basic necessities and have those for sale to your roommates. Get a lockable fridge in your room and stock up on some 6-packs, ready-to-eat meals, sodas or any other items that your roommates need quick. You can sell those at 5% to 10% mark up to help pay for your electric, water and gas bills. 2.3 You can also rent out television sets, fridge and other basic appliances that your roommates need. A good credit score will enable you to purchase some of these items through your credit card. If you purchase wholesale or refurbished, you can break even within 6 months and make profits henceforth. 3. Improve your job market skills. If working at Walmart pays $8.50 an hour and a work-at-home website development job pays $15 an hour, invest some time, money and effort on that skill set and learn it. Always upgrade to a better high paying job by developing yourself. 4. Get a team of girls to help you. As long as you fuck them good, girls will help you in a lot of things in so many ways. |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Sat Mar 01, 2014 6:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
First of all, in my opinion, do not in any way DLV him. After all, he is your brother and you should take that into consideration. Try to talk to him at home and tell him that it's bothering you. If you do it correctly, he will stop. Remember to be serious about the topic and know what to say. Don't nag, that's all. If this doesn't work out, you can't say you never tried to fix it between you and him, so it's his fault now. If it doesn't bother him and he doesn't change, just try your best to make new friends and hang out with them. It's not that hard, everyone wants to meet someone new and there's nothing wrong about it. Just remember not to be clingy on people. I say it again, he's your brother. Just ignore what he says and do what you think is right. If it's true that he doesn't have any experience with girls and you do, then it's impossible to get AMOGed by him. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Sat Mar 01, 2014 11:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
Quote: So my brother is 24 I'm 22,
He's your older brother dude. He's gonna be tough on you... Either don't hang out with him.. Or strive to be better than him. You should be happy that you have a male in your life who's a little tough on you. Most guys don't have such a thing. They get babied by their mothers until they are 28 years old. Man up bro 
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| Author: | Monsignor Crisanto [ Sun Mar 02, 2014 8:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My brother AMOGS me |
Chart your own course from this point forward. Leave your fucking house when you're ready. Although he is your brother, he is not exactly a good masculine influence. He's an effeminate, wussy influence. Just give him a Cohiba and a Cerveza Negra on his birthday; keep things civil. Bring meat loaf for the whole family on Christmas. Bring mom a big Turkey that she can cook on Thanksgiving Day. And once in a while, drop by on a weekend and grill some lamb chops for mom and dad. If you can convince your brother, you can piggy back on his good credit score so you can build up your own better, hopefully, excellent credit score. Stake your flag as an independent, masculine man, NOW. |
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