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| Author: | GrayJay [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 9:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | oops.. too forward |
after a number close I followed up with a brilliant text but then inadvertently mired it at the end with overtly sexual innuendo. We engaged around a pair of boots she was wearing... she mentioned her leapord boots as well and that they look hot. My opeing text was something like: "Hey Boots! (uh oh, looks like you earned a new nickname). We need to meet on thursday so you can show me your leapord prints." Ok.. having typed that again im lol'ing at how balsy i was Now, i havent heard back (it was around 6pm and im going to bed now) and assume 1 of two things is happening: 1) She was attracted but her anti-slut defense has engaged and she has to wait for a certian length of time to respond. 2) It was just way too forward and she's cut loose. Do I need to regain the convo? How good of odds you give #1? I have three ideas: 1) Just wait for 24 hours and perhaps she'll have waited long enough to feel good about respondig. 2) Wait till tomorrow evening and write back saying something like "Hey Boots. 3) Just wait for a week and retext her with something random and dont even mention the past. what you think? |
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| Author: | jane28 [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 10:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: oops.. too forward |
i guess she does not like the way you said things. i think the best choice is the number 2. goodluck. |
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| Author: | BITmixit [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 1:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: oops.. too forward |
First of all your text isn't that balsy. Don't big yourself up from what you do (classic mistake) big yourself up from the positive responses you gain from women. Which at the moment is nothing. Here's what was wrong with the text from my point of view: "Hey Boots!" < Good, giving her a nickname, a bad one at that and vague if you remembered her name or not. "(uh oh, looks like you earned a new nickname)." < Too cutesy and slightly needy. To me this screams out "LOOK I GAVE YOU A NICKNAME, REACT! REACT! REACT!!!" Which she'll notice in a second as women do that shit to each other all the time. You want to make her HAVE to react not be TOLD to react. We need to meet on thursday so you can show me your leapord prints." < Nothing wrong with this but you did it WAY too early if its the first text. She's not invested yet and you haven't given her any reason to want to meet up with you. All you've got is some stuff about boots and that you want to see her leopard print boots (gay much?) Essentially your message screams "LOOK IM TRYING TO GET YOUR ATTENTION AND GET A REACTION OUT OF YOU!!!" Also you're doing classic overthinking. Typical AFC signs. You need to condition yourself NOT to care if a woman responds to you or not. "1) Just wait for 24 hours and perhaps she'll have waited long enough to feel good about respondig." - Why Wait? You're talking in a "im gonna look at my phone for the next day or two in the hope she repsonses" "2) Wait till tomorrow evening and write back saying something like "Hey Boots. - Definitely not. All this shows is that you've had time to think about her (you're not busy) have overthought about the text and are now reacting to something she hasn't even done. In her mind if you send that text she's thinking "lol I could be busy, I could be on holiday, I could be doing anything but he's assumed he's in the wrong lololol." "3) Just wait for a week and retext her with something random and dont even mention the past." - THIS is what any PUA would do but don't "wait a week" spend that time going out, getting other girls numbers and practicing your game. Get laid, have fun, don't single out one female or overthink any texts you send any of them. It damages your game. |
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| Author: | GrayJay [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 6:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: oops.. too forward |
and there lie the prob with texting - advice is too subjective. How do you define man up? is being a man taking control of the situat and maneuvering it in the direction you want? or is it being the biggest who cares mother f*cker and out waiting a chick? and the problem with they myriad of advice on the topic Youre supposed to get her to react with her your message... but wait, not someting that says "React". and lastly: there leaves no room for being anything but douchey Alpha. While a steady attitude of douchebaggery may get you laid im not convinced it means "Alpha" persay. Re: this interaction, here's my takeaway - the boots were a point of sexual interest on both of our behalf and I overplayed it. Telling her to wear her leapord boots was not gay but rather Alpha by giving her an opportunity to display for me. By using the term "prints" it sounds like i mean her panties .. which i was implying but ..... Since i played this off in such strong character Im gonna have to finish it out that way.. otherwise there will be discrepancey in character. |
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