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HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
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Author:  cronin [ Mon Feb 03, 2014 5:57 pm ]
Post subject:  HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
OK guys I'm in some serious need of professional pua help here. I fucked something up and lost rapport and don't know what to do! Here's the premise:

About a week ago an absolute 11 just moved into my house to stay with my family for a total of 3 months from Europe. Her parents are family friends with my family and so she wanted to see America so she's shacking up with us. I don't normally practice serious PUA techniques but I knew from the start that if I don't keep up with my game she would eat me alive. I'm a relatively attractive guy and have had pretty good success with women but 9's and 10's absolutely destroy me because I get so easily infatuated and obsessed and I completely fall apart. On so many occasions with 9's and 10's I can start with a really good rapport but every fucking time I somehow end up dropping the ball and they fucking RUN away. I can't seem to maintain confidence long term and I end up showing my "feelings" and fuck-it-all- it goes to hell. So you can imagine I was EXTRA cautious to try and make sure that didnt happen but goddamnit it did.

So what happened you ask? Well lets remember at first that this girl HAS to live with us so we are pretty much going to see each other every day so it is imperative that we have at least good rapport. So for the first week I did a pretty decent job keeping up with her compliance tests and congruence test always making sure that I didn't buckle under at whatever she said. I maintained as much of a male role (which I now realize how hard that actually is for me) as I could muster and surprisingly enough she was responding pretty well. She was giving me positive attention, lots of compliance tests, wasn't afraid to make body contact while sitting next to me, a bit of hair twirling, etc. Essentially her body language was in my favor.

Now this is where it goes south. So I'm laying down on my bed and she gets home from being out. She walks by my room and I call her in to tell me how her night went. She's sitting next to me and proceeds to tell me about her day in the city. Now I was home all day and I told her that I made some amazing chocolate chip cookies (I love to bake) and that she should go downstairs and get some. She says "I bake when Im bored too" and idiot me says "Oh I didn't bake them cuz I was bored, I made them out of love" and in retrospect I completely forgot to add "love FOR FOOD" because then the conversation turned somehow awkward, because she very soon after got up, I followed and somehow in the midst of that conversation I could noticed an instant break in rapport. Next thing you knew she retreats to her room and started asking when one of my family members was going to be home. Since then no more complience tests, no more congruence tests, I completely sense the lost rapport and I have no fucking clue what to do!

So for all you pro's out there. She is so goddamn gorgeous that I am absolutely infatuated with her, and she is incredibly sharp and absolutely quick. I'm way too chickenshit right now to even consider hooking up with her because if it gets awkward I still have to live with her and I seriously wont survive if it turns awfully awkward. But for the last 2 days I could tell that something was very different from the first week in the way she behaves towards me. Now my confidence has taken a serious shot because I'm mortified of being ostracized and I don't know what to do to REGAIN her rapport. Is it even possible. I know once you fuck up with a hottie the game is pretty much over so what the hell do I do?? Please help me before I turn this into one motherfucker of an awkward living situation!!
Author:  n2thevoid [ Mon Feb 03, 2014 8:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
Find a new place to live.

No but seriously who knows what's going on in her head. I'd go have an ernest talk with her and if there was any misunderstanding then clarify. Problem solved.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Mon Feb 03, 2014 8:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
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Find a new place to live.

No but seriously who knows what's going on in her head. I'd go have an ernest talk with her and if there was any misunderstanding then clarify. Problem solved.

That COULD work - if you can hold it together long enough/well enough that you don't make things worse. Personally I would purge that event from my memory and never bring it up again if I were you. Maybe she'll forget about it.

You're gonna need to get a grip and realize she's just a girl. Her shit stinks too and she's not perfect. Do whatever you have to do to get her off that pedestal in your mind so you can engage her like would a 6 or a 7.
Author:  Zack Ripley [ Mon Feb 03, 2014 9:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
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You're gonna need to get a grip and realize she's just a girl. Her shit stinks too and she's not perfect. Do whatever you have to do to get her off that pedestal in your mind so you can engage her like would a 6 or a 7.
^This.

You say she's an 11, this is a designation that I use for "unicorns." The girl that will never be found. 11s are goals, not actual women.

If she truly IS an 11, don't let her know it. Treat her like a 6.
Author:  cronin [ Tue Feb 04, 2014 12:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
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You're gonna need to get a grip and realize she's just a girl. Her shit stinks too and she's not perfect. Do whatever you have to do to get her off that pedestal in your mind so you can engage her like would a 6 or a 7.
^This.

You say she's an 11, this is a designation that I use for "unicorns." The girl that will never be found. 11s are goals, not actual women.

If she truly IS an 11, don't let her know it. Treat her like a 6.
That's the worst of it. I've known for a long time which qualities i like in a woman but never had i really met one that had so many of them... And very rare ones at that (being from the same small country for example). It's like god showing you a bar of gold and then bitchslapping you with it. But that's not even the problem. The problem is the clear awkwardness now. It's so obvious that the rapport is a complete 180 from what it was 3 days ago. And it's fucking killing me not because she is so hot but because i can't escape the situation. And i can't treat her like a 6 when i have to make this relationship work somehow. It would suck beyond belief for both of us if she now feels she has to ignore me just because something clearly isn't right. Nothing is killing me more than seeing the awkwardness and not being able to do anything about it. She just shut down and now there's no more laughing and teasing. Now there's just avoidance and weirdness. I would love to pretend that nothing is different but I'm a reactive type. I give the energy i receive. So if she's playful and testing i know how to handle myself and be the same. But if she's being weird it's next to impossible for me not to be as well. And that goes for anyone not just hotties. At this rate i can't play it like nothing is weird. I will try and have a heart to heart and tell her i see she's not the same and tell her that if we are going to live together we are going to have to be honest with each other and she needs to be honest with me regarding how she took whatever she did from our fallout conversation. This is the only thing i can think of doing that might rebuild side rapport lest we end up being like a fucked up married couple forced to live with each other while hating each other.

Stop me now if you have any better ideas.
Author:  Gunfighter28 [ Tue Feb 04, 2014 1:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
Dude you're thinking with your emotions cut that shit out seperate the 2 and think with your thoughts!! I've been in a similar situation this is not as hard to deal with as you think. Here's what I did girl was acting awkward not smiling around me I was like awe muffin are you gwumpy?? Said it jokingly she didn't react, but cracked a grin I pushed from there I was like turn that frown upside down I kept teasing her until she was like you're such an asshole, but jokingly 2 second later we were making out. If you want to take a more serious approach start light, but then be like we haven't really talked that much lately just wondered if everything is ok? You gotta back pedal and build comfort.

Hope that helps good luck!!
Author:  cronin [ Tue Feb 04, 2014 2:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
I want to be able to tease and poke fun a little bit but you have to be in the right mindset to do so otherwise I'll overdo it and make shit even worse. The real question is how do i get out of THIS mindset into one that's more relaxed and not concerned about her so that teasing comes naturally and i don't end up being a heartless asshole?
Author:  Gunfighter28 [ Tue Feb 04, 2014 3:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
Just take a deep breath and relax your emotions are what's making you needy and panicky right now. I've been in situations like this more than once the key is getting some sort of humerous reaction out of her that will get you further than a heart to heart. I tried to have a heart to heart one time it went horrible. Now what I do no matter how mad the girl is, is just go for humor. I'm just like is somebody gwumpy? And I'll stick my lip out and do the puppy dog eyes. 9 times out of 10 that works. You don't have to be in a special mindset for that just relax and realize that all you're trying to do is make her laugh.
Author:  cronin [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 3:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
Ok......so i took your advice and did nothing except just relaxed and ignored all the crap that was in my head. Luckily it worked a bit because at least i avoided making things even more awkward. Now the conversations are superficial and banal but at least i don't feel like she is deliberately avoiding me. Haven't even had much opportunity (or taken it) to talk to her so now here's the next golden question. How do you be humorous with a girl? If you go from having good rapport to having very little, could teasing be taken the wrong way?
Author:  Gunfighter28 [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 4:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
I was in this exact same situation yesterday try this I used it and I worked golden. When you see her just be like Hey!! Funniest thing happened today! She say oh ya what's that? I was in Wal-Mart today and I saw this picture I liked so I asked an employee how much for this picture of the sexy man? He was like uhh sir that's a mirror. She replies with LMFAO!!!!! You are RIDICULOUS, but I love you anyway :) that was a girl that I had lost pretty much all rapport with a couple days earlier and we're going out tomorrow night. Just make sure you deliver it in a light funny manner.
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 5:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
There is no such thing as an 11 or even a 10. Every single "10" I have ever fucked has had at least one fault, either with her personality or just upon closer inspection of her appearance after fucking her.

What happens when these "10's" walk into your life is you believe her personality is also a "10" because you have been so brainwashed by her beauty that you believe her shit tastes like strawberries. When really she is most likely a 10 in looks and a 6 in personality.

You're not commanding or challenging enough. When she stormed out, you could've said something or grabbed her arm, just let her feel your masculine energy somehow. Right now she has you by the balls. You're a pushover. Grow some balls, stop following and start leading.
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 6:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
you need to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal. Chances are you're making this a huge deal in your head... but she's only acting like she is now cause you're giving off a strange vibe from that one screw up.

You need to stop treating her like she's a treasured 11 and she's the only one that exists in this entire universe... stop making her bigger than life.
Author:  cronin [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 10:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
Ok guys... Clearly im having issues with my inner game here first and foremost. As much as i appreciate all you guys trying the bitch slap snap out of it approach to help me out of it here we all know that's just not s particularly effective method to get me thinking straight. So let's do this. To all of you reading give me your favorite/best/successfully tested material (article/post/ebook) regarding bettering your inner game. As is obvious that's where my problems are starting so let's start there. I know there's alot of material on here already but i want to know what actually helped YOU out.
Author:  Gunfighter28 [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 10:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
www.badboylifestyle.com he has a really good free ebook on inner game. www.wayoftheplayer.com there's another really good article on inner game on there too. Check them out.
Author:  Dragula [ Wed Feb 12, 2014 10:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: HELP! I have to live with an 11 and I lost rapport!
Just think..

There is a guy out there ,that is probably bored of fucking this 'HB11" that you like... HAHA
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