So dumb.

by agreeing and amplifying you are sarcastic and saying that what she said is ridiculous and it doesn't phase you that she thinks that

OR

do you call her out in a calm way but show that it bothers you every time


Hakuna's old posts say that when a girlfriend insults you, you should "think it's cute" and come from a state of amused mastery....

however if it becomes a problem then tell her you expect a girl you are in a relationship with to not call names ect and show you do not tolerate it

What is disrespect really? It's an evaluation on what another person is doing to us.

Now that said, if someone spits in your face, the vast majority of people will take that as offensive. How you frame the person's behavior, however, will determine whether you become reactive or responsive. Naturally this will vary on the relationship and the context of the situation itself. If, for example, somebody hurls a perceived insult your way you will respond very differently if you see them as a hurt person acting-out versus somebody you globalized as an A-hole to which you'd become purely reactive (emotional) and punitive.

If you're perceiving someone's being disrespectful why not come to them with an attitude of curiosity at first. Maybe she was just being jocular (perhaps she grew up with brothers who she rough housed with) and to her its a sign of endearment. Or, maybe she is just trying to tear you down. Either way if it bothers you simply tell them that "when I hear you call me that name, I feel frustrated and a hurt because I have a need for respect" for example. So you're doing this out of compassion, not out of retribution.

Now the other thing is if they don't respond in kind, they may very well be upset about something they'd perceived you as doing, in which case just empathize with them unit their need is met, and then you can deal with addressing your needs.

I recently read the levels of disrespect from a chick. I don't know if I agree with such a strict system but:

1.Combativeness (chick argues just to argue..."We are getting chinese tonight"..."I don't want chinese I want tacos!)
2. Slick comments ("I want to write a book!"...."yeah right")
3. Insults
4. Insults/making drama in public
5. Insults when you aren't there
6. Infidelity

I agree neo but what has always confused me is, what if you say "oink oink where is the farm" when your girl says you are such a pig in a disrespectful way or even with a smile. Or you are so dumb after you make a comment to her and you go dur hur!

Did i shoot myself in the foot doing that? I pretty much try to stay unaffected

If a girl is bitchy and says " oh yes because everyone wants you lionheart" after you say how a girl hit on u, and you say yup damn straight pimp and agree with her bitchy comment unaffected, does she see comfotable guy or doormat who doesnt care if she says crap to him?

Why are you telling her a girl hit on you?

When a girl knows that you can walk away from her and easily find a replacement, she is more likely to modify any bad behavior that you don't like. The takeaway is one of the most effective seduction and compliance tool around.

Girls are emotional creatures. Talking to them about things that you don't like will not get you anywhere. Show them what you don't like and demonstrate that you're going to leave her cold and dry if she doesn't shape up, then you'll trigger very intense emotions that lead to better behavior.

Of course, when a girl lets you walk away and doesn't chase, take that as feedback that you need to improve yourself in one weak area or another.