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Author:  JTQatar [ Sun Feb 02, 2014 12:02 pm ]
Post subject:  How to continue after "screwed up" date now?
Hey guys...So i had a date with this girl 2 days ago. It went pretty well actually. She was all sweet and everything was just perfect...BUT i screwed it up once again by not making a move. I didnt kiss her!! We were cuddling the whole evening, she was okay with me touching (EVERYWHERE!) It was romantic as fuck but i still cant overcome my kissing anxiety....Even though she made it real easy for me, by letting me come real close to her face and stuff like that...But thats not the question. My question is:

So i know it was a great date overall,and she was all over me, and we had a fantastic time but the fact that i did not kiss her (again!) will most likely cause her to back up again, because she will think "god...he still did not man the fuck up"...
Now my question is how should i behave now? Should i contact her again first after a few days? Should i wait for her to contact me again (which im sure could take quite some time now) When i call her should i try to set a new date right away?

I usually know what to do especially with this girl, but now im a situation where im really not sure what to do next.
Again the date was 2 days ago and i did not do anything yet. Because i feel like contacting her again that soon will come off as being needy.
I dont know how she will react this time, but a few month ago we were in the exact same situation and she backed away massively last time (plus i was beeing super super needy back then) so i assume she is going to do or feel the same way this time. Maybe not....But i just wanted your opinion.
Author:  anthonypham [ Sun Feb 02, 2014 12:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to continue after "screwed up" date now?
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because she will think "god...he still did not man the fuck up"...
Hi mate
Yes, she will definitely think why you still do not make a move. Depending on the girl, there is a few windows of opportunity (=to kiss). If you miss this window, then you are gone.

I think the problem is that you give yourself too much pressure: you feel like that you HAVE to kiss her. And you do have to, but relax :) As you already indicated yourself, the girl is into you and let you touch her. So she will not refuse your kiss. Does this help you to get over your fear of kissing her?

And yes! You definitely should meet up with her again. Tell her you have to tell her something important. This will give her an extra excitement-boost. Then during the night, hold her hands, look her into the yes, smell her neck and kiss her.
Author:  JTQatar [ Sun Feb 02, 2014 12:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to continue after "screwed up" date now?
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And yes! You definitely should meet up with her again.
I know that i will meet her again. We (officially :roll: ) are "just friends" for about 1,5 years and ever since we are always on the edge of being a couple but its my fault because i never make a move. But she always comes back again and again and lets it get really really romantic when we are together. So yeah...I will see her again thats for sure.

But to be honest i dont want it to be in 3 or 4 weeks or some...I want to see her again so badly and asap! Of course im not telling her that but i tell you guys. So thats the question, how do o continue after that date and WHEN and HOW do i contact her again. What would be needy and what is the right balance now? On one hand i thing over pursuing her now would be bad, but on the other hand not texting or calling anything at all could come off as not caring.

EDIT: Update: She just send me a text with hearts and kisses and what not. She is sick at the moment (bladder infection). She asked me what i was doing this evening, i said "just chilling" she said she too, so i said i´d come over later....She agreed, so yeah...lets do this... :D
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