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| Author: | THΞ GΞNΞRΛL [ Thu Jan 23, 2014 7:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
G'day gentlemen. I'm new, and I'm not sure how stuff works here, so here's a shot in the dark. I had always been a PUA until I met this girl and started a monogamous relationship. I was faithful and treated her with absolute respect, care and consideration. She pretended to be faithful and to be madly in love with me, but recently I realized she had been cheating on me the whole time. All her expressing emotions were completely fake. Don't particularly want to get into her personality now which was an unbelievably nasty one btw, as it's irrelevant to my current struggle) Needless to say I broke up the relationship, and I'm alone now. Don't particularly need advice about the relationship, as it still hurts a lot. Maybe after a little time has passed, I'd be able to reflect on it and improve, but it's just too painful right now. What hurts most is that I sacrificed a lot. I can count at least 50 situations in which I could have sex with gorgeous chicks, but I tried real hard to be faithful at least once in my life. I tried my best to be understanding and caring, which is really difficult when your partner is a complete psychopath. I guess I was trying to prove to myself that I could step up when circumstances call for it. I'm starting to harbor an immense amount of resentment towards all women. Right now, I'm just depressed and have lost interest completely, in that the wound is still fresh and hate flares within me. I think them all cheaters and dishonest, if nothing else. I can't even summon the enthusiasm to arrange a one-night stand, and reject chicks I encounter at work with a bitter scorn which seems to radiate from me. I feel I should snap out of it, but I'm stumped. Any advice is appreciated provided it's based on reason. I have accumulated enough hate for all of us against women. |
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| Author: | Hunter_Foxe [ Thu Jan 23, 2014 8:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
True love is a myth. It's 2014 not the 1950's. I'm not saying don't ever get feelings for women, but the key mistake you made here is you listened to what she said instead of what she did. You listened to her logic instead of emotions she sub-communicated to you. If a girl shows you signs she's not girlfriend material, don't get too attached. If the sex is good, why let your emotions get in the way? For me, the way a woman treats me is more important than how faithful she is. I am seeing a few girls, my situation is different, but the principle is the same. Strangely, your girl's level of interest in you would've remained higher if you had taken every opportunity to fuck every hot girl you met. Always wait for the girl to push for a relationship. Generally speaking, you should let the woman push for monogamy. It's ok to refuse. A girl's interest in you is directly linked to how wet you make her pussy, not how strongly you commit to her. If you are a driven ambitious guy who is in high demand from other women, her pussy will remain with you. Her heart always follows her clitoris. Use this as an opportunity to improve yourself. Ground zero is the best place to be. Nothing to lose. Hit up all those chicks who wanted to fuck you before. You're the man now! |
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| Author: | Gunfighter28 [ Thu Jan 23, 2014 9:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
hey mate I was in the exact same fucking boat as you that's when I got into the game and learning how to improve myself. Like Hunter said ground zero is the best place to starttake some time to get past your current issues then get back into the game and rebuild yourself into the player you were before. Good luck! |
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| Author: | THΞ GΞNΞRΛL [ Thu Jan 23, 2014 10:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
Sure do appreciate the response gentlemen |
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| Author: | Semimembranosus [ Fri Jan 24, 2014 2:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
Sorry for you. this sucks. |
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| Author: | osyn [ Fri Jan 24, 2014 4:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
Speaking as a female, I'm sorry you had to pick one of the bad ones. Just like I have a tendency to harbor hatred and anger against males at times, men harbor hate towards women. Feel free to PM me. I can help show you that we aren't all the same. One of the times I ended up on the streets was because of someone I dated. A male. Love is a battleground at times. |
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| Author: | RyanJ11 [ Fri Jan 24, 2014 5:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
Quote: True love is a myth. It's 2014 not the 1950's. I'm not saying don't ever get feelings for women, but the key mistake you made here is you listened to what she said instead of what she did. You listened to her logic instead of emotions she sub-communicated to you.
This. 100 times this. If a girl shows you signs she's not girlfriend material, don't get too attached. If the sex is good, why let your emotions get in the way? For me, the way a woman treats me is more important than how faithful she is. I am seeing a few girls, my situation is different, but the principle is the same. Strangely, your girl's level of interest in you would've remained higher if you had taken every opportunity to fuck every hot girl you met. Always wait for the girl to push for a relationship. Generally speaking, you should let the woman push for monogamy. It's ok to refuse. A girl's interest in you is directly linked to how wet you make her pussy, not how strongly you commit to her. If you are a driven ambitious guy who is in high demand from other women, her pussy will remain with you. Her heart always follows her clitoris. Use this as an opportunity to improve yourself. Ground zero is the best place to be. Nothing to lose. Hit up all those chicks who wanted to fuck you before. You're the man now! Speaking as someone who just got out a messed up (and I mean reallllyyy fucking messed up) long term relationship, just run with it. Seriously. At this point you just have to realize that she was in the wrong. Only her. Just remember to be the man and not give a fuck about what any woman thinks. Although you got a bad one, there are a metric shit ton of other women who you can fuck and/or find another relationship. Don't lose all respect for women, but also remember that they are also humans. They are equals. Do not supplicate. Much like this poster said, use it as a time for improvement, I know I am. Best of luck. |
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| Author: | THΞ GΞNΞRΛL [ Fri Jan 24, 2014 1:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Advice - cheating girlfriend post trauma |
Semimembranosus, Osyn, RyanJ11 many thanks for your input and generous offers |
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