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Author:  robertfoster [ Sat Jan 18, 2014 10:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Big problem with winning her over because of her 'boyfriend'
Hey

I hope someone can give me some solid advice cause this is really killing me. So I met this beautiful girl about 3 months ago. We started talking all day long and every day and after a few meetings we kissed.. everything was going great until after a few dates everything fell down. After a movie she started crying and told me straight into face how much she likes me and enjoys spending time with me and also that she do wants me but doesn't know what to do.

So.. Where's the problem? The problem is that her 'ex', or whatever, had an car accident and was in coma for 4 months and now they woke him up and she is feeling lost, she thinks she's the worst person on the planet, sometimes she says that she wants him back (which will hardly happen because he encountered a severe brain injury), but just after that she says she is not closing the door for me, just braking because we are moving too fast. She told me about that guy after our second date and she said that she hopes I won't leave her because of this.

Now I have such a problem you can't imagine.. And the thing that she told me into face that she somehow wants me is just devastating. After all what she has said to me I should just kick her right in the *** several times but no, I'm still hoping for her and she appreciates my patience but again... you can tell from her look when we are together that she would just like to jump on me any moment but her mind is on such a rollercoaster you can't imagine.

She wants me, she wants him back too?? Where the heck are we heading cause I don't see anything nice ahead. And I think I love her so much that I will never ever let go. I'm a born fighter and I hate losing. And she is worth a fight cause you can hardly find a girl like her.

I don't think she actually really likes him so much as she is trying to show and tell because she wouldn't start anything with me at all then. It's more the quilty she feels I think.

What I've tried so far is telling her that I don't like her acting and that every other guy would probably already kicked her in the a** and she did started writing more often again, using more emotions again, she wants to meet again etc.. things she hesitated before so it looks like this is working somehow for now.


Any idea?? Please no advices like dumb her, I only need advices that could help me getting her on my side.


Thanks a lot! I really need help
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Sun Jan 19, 2014 3:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Big problem with winning her over because of her 'boyfri
just be understanding of the situation... pull back a lil bit and still build attraction with her. Attraction isn't a choice so even though she feels bad about this dude... you can still be the one she's attracted to. Just don't smother her with neediness... be there when she needs you but don't try to be too pushy and self sabotage
Author:  xBaByBx [ Sun Jan 19, 2014 3:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Big problem with winning her over because of her 'boyfri
She wants to be with you bro but you have to take a step back for a moment. I'm not saying dump her but you have to in some way put the idea in her subconscious that she could lose you. If she knows you're always going to be there she'll continue to play this game with you. Try ignoring a text message or cancel a future date but make sure she thinks it's because you we're busy or had something more important than her to do. You don't have to do this for long. After all that time of not seeing or hearing for you she'll be all over you the next time you meet.
Author:  robertfoster [ Sun Jan 19, 2014 11:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Big problem with winning her over because of her 'boyfri
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She wants to be with you bro but you have to take a step back for a moment. I'm not saying dump her but you have to in some way put the idea in her subconscious that she could lose you. If she knows you're always going to be there she'll continue to play this game with you. Try ignoring a text message or cancel a future date but make sure she thinks it's because you we're busy or had something more important than her to do. You don't have to do this for long. After all that time of not seeing or hearing for you she'll be all over you the next time you meet.

This is exactly what I'm trying to do but it's hard with her because she is taking life like nonsense. She says I don't wanna live, I lost everything etc.. then the other day she is all happy. I just wonder what she is going to do if that dude makes a miracle full recovery which probably won't happen but you never know.

When we were on a drink lately and she mentioned him I just took my jacket, paid the coffee and bye.. I left the place but did wait somewhere to see her reaction. She called, I didn't pick up, she sent a message where I am, I didn't reply. Then she sent another long one saying how sorry she is and blahblah.. then I wrote see?? nothing can last forever and she started crying when I came back to her telling me again how difficult this situation is for her...
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