I know I'm doing things all wrong. Oneitis, putting the pussy on a pedestal. Whatever. But I'd appreciate feedback.

Anyway, I reestablished contact with this girl a little while back after finding out that she wasn't seeing her man anymore. Planned on meeting up, but she was out of town for the Christmas holidays. We got talking while she was away and it turned very sexual (pics etc.). We met up once she got back, things went well. We didn't seal the deal, but she was all over me and we kissed and whatnot.

However the next day she tells me she's not over her ex, and that she's a wreck because it ended badly (he cheated). Can we be friends etc. Being the newbie I am, I acted the nice guy, treated her as a victim and was like "cool, let's be friends". Wrong move, I know.

It's also worth noting that she's stressing out incredibly regarding her future/education, which I personally don't think is helping the situation.

Now comes the part where I'm confused. She calls me the same night, we laugh a little and then the conversation goes sexual and I get her off on the phone. She then proceeds to send me more things the days after.

I like this girl. I know there are millions more out there and I shouldn't concern myself too much about her, but I can't change my feelings overnight, I'm just not made that way. And the mixed signals I'm getting are leaving me confused as to what I can expect out of this "friendship".

I've been told by others to play it cool, go with the flow, be her "friend", keep the sexy stuff up and hope for the best. Whilst one person has told me to lay it on the line, be upfront, tell her to get her shit sorted and come back to me when she's of the right frame of mind because she's missing a great opportunity.

Any idea's? I know one that the majority will probably say: Game other girls. I'm trying. I'm learning. But I want to know what to do with this specific situation and girl. It's surely going to help me learn.

Cheers.