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| Author: | itisme [ Sun Jan 05, 2014 11:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | So let us be friends |
Ok, so I blew it today being too pushy (and probably also insecure)... We went to the theater, we started cuddling and everything actually went fine until I started to become insecure (heaven knows why....) When I drove her home and leaned in to kiss her, she broke the "Let's be friends" to me. I mumbled something along the line "Yeah, you're probably right, it's not a good idea" and then drove off into the night; - thing is, I'll have to see her again next week. How should I go about seeing her again? Should I apologize about being too pushy / and ask her whether we're ok? (And please no "Move on" / "There's other fish in the sea" -- just heard that one once too often; - I know that, so no need pointing it out) F*** |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Mon Jan 06, 2014 2:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
don't apologize for shit... why? because she cuddled with you and you wanted a kiss? pshhh! how did you become insecure? Do you have any more details.... how do u know this girl? Were you on a date!?! |
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| Author: | itisme [ Mon Jan 06, 2014 2:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
Quote: don't apologize for shit... why? because she cuddled with you and you wanted a kiss? pshhh!
Hi, and thanks for replying.how did you become insecure? Do you have any more details.... how do u know this girl? Were you on a date!?! Yeah, we've known each other for a while, I used to tease her all the time, she used to get mad at me and poke me and then starting to give me a massage when I complained about my back one moment later... She's really beautiful, so she has of course plenty of men after her... she even said something along the line: "I have to do this really often, you know, SIGH" ...?! I think this might be one of those chicks that gets a kick out of rejecting men... I'm obviously in the "done HIM" box... |
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| Author: | itisme [ Mon Jan 06, 2014 10:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
Hm... So I have to see her (at my workplace) and could REALLY use some input on how to act around her... It's just gonna be weird / ...just want to get this over with... |
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| Author: | anthonypham [ Mon Jan 06, 2014 10:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
Quote: Hm...
She feels this tension too. And as mentioned earlier, do not apologize! You did nothing wrong.It's just gonna be weird / ...just want to get this over with... If you deal with this tension/situation well, you are back in the game. So there was attraction in the beginning, she kissed you but now she feels guilty....It could be that you did create attraction, but there is just not enough trust yet. |
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| Author: | itisme [ Mon Jan 06, 2014 10:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
Quote: Quote: Hm...
She feels this tension too. And as mentioned earlier, do not apologize! You did nothing wrong.It's just gonna be weird / ...just want to get this over with... If you deal with this tension/situation well, you are back in the game. So there was attraction in the beginning, she kissed you but now she feels guilty....It could be that you did create attraction, but there is just not enough trust yet. we didn't kiss. I mean, she's already willingly lain in my arms and let me touch her pretty much everywhere, but she wouldn't kiss me. When I tried to go for it, she gave me the "Let's be friends" - BS I'd honestly like to know how to act next time we meet at work to make the whole situation as bearable as possible for both of us (it'll only be once anyhow). Thanks. |
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| Author: | cmd [ Tue Jan 07, 2014 1:04 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
Be exactly like before. Tease / make fun of her, just do the same stuff. Why would you act any other way? If you act different than before your theater night, she will sense you can't handle the situation. So yeah as before, if at all slightly ignore her. |
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| Author: | cliffthehanger [ Tue Jan 07, 2014 10:04 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
I'm very new here, only my second post and even I sniffed out that apologizing was a poor choice. |
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| Author: | anthonypham [ Sat Jan 18, 2014 9:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
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I'd honestly like to know how to act next time we meet at work to make the whole situation as bearable as possible for both of us (it'll only be once anyhow).
No need to make the whole situation bearable for. If you neutralize the 'tension', then you will be in the friendzone forever. If you keep the tension, then you still have a shot. Just use the tension to create attraction.
Thanks. |
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| Author: | Versalis [ Sat Jan 18, 2014 4:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: So let us be friends |
Never go for end of date kiss. Either kiss her while you're out, or forget it. Also, a girl who lets you touch her everywhere, but doesn't want you kissing her, is often a sign of a girl that may be open to fucking you, but does *not* want to be your girlfriend. |
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