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Author:  Xoved [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 10:59 am ]
Post subject:  This is what too much does to you, right?

Some might say that it's a dream come true, but it really isn't...

I live in the capital of my country where all the hot chicks and night life exists. I managed to make way too many friends before I graduated from university. I built up many strong relationships and became a man of value whom everyone recognizes and knows. I'm always with the hot girls, and I'm always hooking up and kiss closing every girl that I go out with. So now you're probably wondering: What is the damn problem?

I've landed this good job at a large firm and continued gaming. Inviting my girlfriends and their friends. Then gaming their friends, and then gaming their friends' friends. So basically, I think I just got the "player" title on my back right now. Straight to the point: When I'm on a date, I always see the previous girls who I kiss-closed earlier, and it's eating the shit out of me.

Every single time I go on a date, I see other girls who I hooked up with, and they just start to run away from me when I ask them out again, thinking that I'm a player who can't properly commit to a girl. I'm starting to lose a lot of girls because of this issue. I know that I'm getting some of them jealous and wanting it more, but I can't even date properly without losing one or two girls per day when I kiss close the girl I'm with.

I cannot go out to another place, because the small city is where all life is, plus I live there (5 minutes walk from my apartment).

I'm asking for advice, as I cannot find any. I know that I'm a man and that I shouldn't "worry" about it and that I should game more girls, but this has reached a point where all girls think of me as the one-night-stand-guy and I feel that I'm going to run out of girls soon.

Author:  Chief [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 11:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: This is what too much does to you, right?

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I know that I'm a man and that I shouldn't "worry" about it and that I should game more girls,
That advice ain't for you. It's for the guys who don't have abundance in the first place.

That being said, it still doesn't seem like you really have a problem here. It looks like you're a single man enjoying the single life staying single and being with women with no strings attached.

And some girls are running away from you because of it. Why? Because that's not what they're looking for. Fortunately, a lot of these girls AREN'T running away. Why? Because that's what they're looking for.

All you're doing is filtering out those who don't align with your lifestyle. That way you don't waste anyone's time and they don't waste yours. I don't see the problem.

Author:  Xoved [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 11:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: This is what too much does to you, right?

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I know that I'm a man and that I shouldn't "worry" about it and that I should game more girls,
That advice ain't for you. It's for the guys who don't have abundance in the first place.

That being said, it still doesn't seem like you really have a problem here. It looks like you're a single man enjoying the single life staying single and being with women with no strings attached.

And some girls are running away from you because of it. Why? Because that's not what they're looking for. Fortunately, a lot of these girls AREN'T running away. Why? Because that's what they're looking for.

All you're doing is filtering out those who don't align with your lifestyle. That way you don't waste anyone's time and they don't waste yours. I don't see the problem.
Thank you for the post.

I do acknowledge that some of them aren't running away, but another problem is that some of them were good friends of mine, some even mentioned that they are good with FWB, yet they still ignore me when they see me hooking up with other girls. They go so cold that I lose hope in trying to settle for JUST friends. I've already lost a good amount of girls that way.

Author:  Chief [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 12:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is what too much does to you, right?

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but another problem is that some of them were good friends of mine, some even mentioned that they are good with FWB, yet they still ignore me when they see me hooking up with other girls. They go so cold that I lose hope in trying to settle for JUST friends. I've already lost a good amount of girls that way.
Ah, sounds like you might not be managing expectations well enough and some of those FWBs are getting too attached. You should also be actively encouraging them to date and fuck other guys since you'll be doing the same thing. Gotta keep the scales even for FWB relationships.

There's a lot more to this FWB thing. I should write a book just on FWB shit.

Author:  Xoved [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 4:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: This is what too much does to you, right?

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but another problem is that some of them were good friends of mine, some even mentioned that they are good with FWB, yet they still ignore me when they see me hooking up with other girls. They go so cold that I lose hope in trying to settle for JUST friends. I've already lost a good amount of girls that way.
Ah, sounds like you might not be managing expectations well enough and some of those FWBs are getting too attached. You should also be actively encouraging them to date and fuck other guys since you'll be doing the same thing. Gotta keep the scales even for FWB relationships.

There's a lot more to this FWB thing. I should write a book just on FWB shit.
This was the case with one of them. She woke me up at 3:00 am one night and wanted (eventually forced) me to SPAM with her, so I did what she asked because she was a really good friend who turned into a FWB. She literally started crying on SPAM saying that she got too attached and that she wants to stop everything. This is when things started getting awkward with her. I tried my best to be casual and friendly, but she kept becoming more ignorant until everything faded and our friendship seemed to end badly.

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