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Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Wed Jan 01, 2014 2:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Try again or wait it out
Been gaming this girl. Worked with her on a summer job for two weeks last July. At the time she had a boyfriend (don't know if they are still together) but still I gamed - hard! She was acting all interested, good kino and all, but never agreed to meet up. Probably a combination of she having a BF and one too many alpha male threads I read, wich made me sound kinda arrogant.

Tried text gaming her a few times after that but interest died quickly. Early September I sent her a text wishing good luck in school, she replied with a simple "thank you ;-)" and that was it. Mid September, early October I tried sending a "You gone missing or what" kind of text, but she never replied. She also never added me on fb.

But last night as I was leaving home for the new years eve I bulk sent a "Happy new year!" for a dozen of my closest friends and thought I might as well give one last shot, so sent it to her as well. She promptly responded. We exchanged a few texts catching up, she always replied a few seconds after I texted her until I stopped replying (I was at the club by then and didn't want to spend the night texting).

Now, should I wait it out and see what she does, send her another fb friend request, invest in text game, or what?

Thank you!
Author:  JTQatar [ Wed Jan 01, 2014 3:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Try again or wait it out
Text is only there to set up a date dude! Dont dance around the fucking bush...
Ask her out! Text her something along the lines "Hey great to hear from you again (well you texted her first so thats kind of stupid) lets grab a some drinks next week, when are you free?" Boom there you go.
If she is interested in seeing you again she will agree. If she doesnt agree or offers you any other date to meet up, walk away from her again and just do nothing.
Your not going to attract her through the phone...
Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Thu Jan 02, 2014 3:19 pm ]
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She is currently out of town and as I said, I over-gamed her hard last time around, so asking her out now would be pointless (because she obviously can't) and would just drive her away since I would just be reverting to old patterns. It would be stupid to do the exact same thing and wait for a different outcome.

Right now I need to build more confort, that is why I asked what is the best way to show interest and keep in touch without apearing needy or sleezy.
Author:  JTQatar [ Thu Jan 02, 2014 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Try again or wait it out
You do a mistake most guys tend to do...You think
"I got to keep in touch with her, i have to keep pursuing i have to show her how much i care how much im interested" NO! Dont to that! The more you pursue the more you push her away. Women need time to miss you and you´re not going to get there by blowing up her phone or keeping in touch all the time.
At this point there is nothing you can or need to do. Just chill and sit back and do nothing.
When she misses you, thinks about you, or wants to see you she WILL reach out to you!
And thats what i was talking about. Next time she reaches out to you, you set up a date. But again get to the point quickly and dont dance around the bush for too long by texting shit chatting for hours.

You wont attract her, or build comfort through the phone...
Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Thu Jan 02, 2014 4:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Try again or wait it out
I'll wait it out then.

Any more opinions are very welcomed.
Author:  Versalis [ Thu Jan 02, 2014 10:11 pm ]
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If she's out of town and currently interested, then DO send her a couple of ping texts until she gets back.
Then when she's back, ask her out.

Freezing girls out only works when she is actively interested in you and has recent physical contact with you. "Freeze outs" when you haven't seen her in months does fuck all for you two meeting up.
Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 4:00 pm ]
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Great. Could you give some exemples of "pings"? I assume something cocky or funny, but what?
Author:  Versalis [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 7:19 pm ]
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Text her in a way that is normal for the two of you. But be brief. No more than 4-5 texts sent to her.
I am silly with some girls, flirtatious with others, sometimes totally vanilla. Some girls only seem to want "boring" texts.

I'll give you two examples from yesterday and Wednesday of pinging:

Me: "I just ran into Mary. She said to tell you hi, :)"
Girl1:"oh ok. did you say hi for me back"
Me: "She isn't here :p"
Girl1: "haha i know."
Me: "I took your advise for lunch today. You were right."
Girl1: "I told you!"
Girl1: "XD"
five minutes later
Girl1:"I had lunch with a friend. we had mexican"
Me: "I just ate and now you're trying to make me hungry :/ Are you trying to fatten me up?
Girl1:"haha np. you are good right now"
Me: ";)"

That was it. It was highly boring, but with this girl, that's what you do.
On the complete opposite side of that I sent

Me:"Bureaucracy... An hour I've been here...
If I kill myself, will you wear a sexy black dress when you visit my grave?"
Girl2:"Of course! Thigh highs or little strappy number to round it out?"
Me:"Surprise me."
Girl2:"Btw, I am not offering any post-life 'services' in case that was what you had in mind"
Me:"Only if I become a zombie. Which is always possible, since I'm pretty sure you're a witch"
Girl2:"Witches can't raise the dead. You want a necromancer."
Me: "Why do I feel like I'm suddenly at Hogwarts?"
Girl2:"Watch out for Dumbledore. I think he likes yu ^.^"
Girl2:"*you"
Me:"This is what I get for dealing with magic people :("
Girl2:"And to think it all could have been avoided if only you were more patient"
Me:"Speaking of which, I'm next! Talk to you later :D"
Girl2:"Bye bye"

Believe it or not, Girl1 likes me more than Girl2. I'm seeing her next week. Girl2 was "busy" a few days ago.

I don't know this girl you're dealing with and I don't really have "general" texts. I try to guess when I first text her. Then I gauge her reply.
Author:  TheFrenchConnection [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 12:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Try again or wait it out
Thank you, that was actilly really insightful.

The summer job where we met was absolute rubbish, for both of us, so I would assume some callback humor from back when we met, like "bored to death, but still, beats dealing with those crazy fucks". Also, she texts a lot when she is at school, so something like "*name*, seriously, put down your phone and pay attention to class. That's why your grades suck ;)"
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