I think that joke is hilarious, and is something that I would say.

I just wouldnt say them alot, as it makes you seem like youre only after pussy. You just gotta be unassuming. But a good sexual inuendo is harmless and a good thing if you guys are already vibing.

She got upset ("I'm not going to tell my fetishes to someone I barely know"), I said sorry. I feel like a real dumb ass...

Hi

One question to some of the honourable gentlemen of the forum on a subject that I tend to get burned too often

I tend to make jokes from time to time. I'm not a fucking clown or Jerry Seinfelt so not all jokes hit the target, and that's ok. C/F and what have you.

I sometimes thou get into trouble because I make a joke with sexual undertones. In the past I have off course gone too far on one or two occasions. The girl is offended. And I am struck out of luck. The reason that I have these kind of jokes is to not come of as some mamas boy or Teddy bear, dull and uninteresting. I've had both successes and failures with this. It's a two edged sword so to say. She must be interested in the first place, and I can't come of as sleazy.

From time to time I make a joke with some sexual undertones to someone I know is interested in me, and she acts insulted. Perhaps she is. How to handle this?

Should I stop making these kind of jokes altogether?. Not mention anything on the subject of sex? And perhaps get myself neutered.

If I crack a joke that is relatively harmless but with some sexual undertones, and she acts insulted, how should I react? Is it a shit test to see my reaction to her being "insulted" or is it just me gone too far too early?

How to handle it!!!?

Your problem is proper calibration and weak frame. The former will improve with more in-field experience, the later may take some more work.

I think you have a point Neo87

It is not that the joke it self is bad, but it's an unknown factor that I don't need. Early on in the game it's unnecessary to take these kind of risks. The plus side is small and the downside is potentially fatal. What if she's in a bad mood already and you throe some joke in her face that she's not ready for? What then? I should go a bit easier on these kind of stuff and rather show my cockiness in other ways when the time comes. If you are more established and have ravished her once or twice it's safer.

Girls are different. I once met this girl who was originally from Russia. She went completely mad over this kind of stuff. She couldn't get enough. She turned out to be a bit crazy thou (what Russian aren't, I should have known), but a great lay. I primarily want to get in contact with "normal" girls, and normal girls may be offended and I may not be able to salvage the situation. So, to sum it up, perhaps something I should do less of altogether.

When it comes to apologising for the affront, wont do that again EVER. That's not the way out. I'll stick with my gun even if it's not loaded.

Your frame is how you perceive your role in the interaction, so whilst dealing with woman your frame should be that of the attractive selector who takes the lead and is used to getting what he wants (or something like this). With a strong frame you shouldn't fail shit tests by trying to adjust your answers based on impromptu tactics or over-thinking your answers.

Weak frame is what you currently have, you are unsure of what woman are attracted to and you are trying to analyze and personalize each reaction based on her verbal ques and your own inaccurate perception.

That explained a lot. Strong frames comes from an inner knowledge that you are the prize and that you don't get confused by any sort of actions or behaviours she throws at you. Not overcomplicating things and not overanalysing things. Basically alfa behaviour.