Hi!
This is my first post after maybe more than a year reading the forum. I will be asking for advice on a specific situation were I have been doing everything absolutely wrong since day 0. I tend to mess things up with the girls I really care, and this seems to be one of those situations.
Basically the story is the following. I came back from a trip around the world. I spent more than 10 months traveling by myself and when I got back my ex coworkers (all girls) organized a launch to hear my stories, etc.
For my surprise there was one new girl (yes, she is the reason I am writing this lines). I wont bore you with the details about her because I am sure we all have a "perfect" girl. Only in case this info helps I have to say that she is somehow 'popular'. She worked on some popular TV shows here, had also done some modeling and TV ads for big brands. She is the kind of girl that will post something on FB and will get 500+ likes instantly from losers trying to pick her up with a FB like or a stupid comment.
Anyway after the launch was over I walked with her to her place because 'my house is in the same direction'. We talked a lot during the walk and she even started doing some kino on me, touching my arm, etc. On that walk I talked about doing some 'project' together and she looked super interested. Short story, I added her to FB, we talked more and yes...we started a project together... We even got on the news for that! wtf! I just wanted the girl! :p
Since then we post messages on our 'project' group almost every day, talk almost 2 times a week on the phone and we see each other at least once a week with the excuse of working on the stupid project I created. To be honest we do 60% chat 40% work.
She keeps telling me things like "she adore me" or that I am the best, etc, etc. When we met we give each other big hugs and she is alway heavy on the kino..(yeah I know what you are thinking
. She is also a super 'kind' girl that is why I am not sure how to interpret the kino.OK, now the issues. She has a boyfriend.
OK, now the good and stupid part. The other I was at her place (she is younger than me and own a luxury apartment!) and she told me something like "... yes I do have a boyfriend but if someone appears who is worth it I am all open to give it a shot"... since I am writing this you already know I left that big opportunity go away as a looser.
The bad part also is that I never could escalate during a chat or a phone/real conversation to anywhere. She will say something like "you are the best" and I will reply with something like "look who is flirting with me" and then she will never answer back or will change the subject.
If you are asking yourself why I haven't been direct yet about my feelings is because (don't kill me for this) but I think that if she is not interested in myself I will really hurt her confidence with herself. She has many insecurities regarding her job skills and if she thinks all this was made just to get to her it will harm her and I really don't want that (I know this is wrong but is the way it is)
So, basically...I am freezed (It has been almost 3 months since we met!) , I don't know how to let her now I am interested in her without her feeling I scammed her if everything goes wrong. And although everyone thinks she is giving me clear signals that she is interested I still don't feel 100% confident about that.
Wow this is was long, sorry about that and please, please excuse my bad english.
Anyway If you arrived to this line I have to say thank you for taking the time! and any little advice will be really appreciated.
Thanks a lot!
