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| Author: | Adonis_Complex [ Wed Dec 11, 2013 7:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | How to respond after Freeze Out |
Usually Im pretty good at this, but I need help. Long story short, about 3 months a ago, a girl that liked me invited herself over to my place. We did everything that night besides having sex. I went for it, and she was giving legitimate resistance, and ended up leaving my place. After that night we were talking for about a month and saw each other a handful of times. I was trying to take it slow for a few weeks. Two months ago, She sends me a text saying that she thinks I'm the greatest guy in the world...blah...blah...blah, and that she hopes we can just be friends. I didn't respond and froze her out for two months. I decided to text her day, the exchange went something like this: Me: how are finals going Her: good. I didn't think you would ever talk to me again. Me: I have been busy, and didn't have a reason to. Her: what's your reason now? Me: I felt like it. Her: I'm not a piece of trash, you cannot just pick me up and then throw me away because you just "felt like it" I have not responded to the last text, and I am not sure if I should, or just freeze her out again. Usually my freeze outs and reconnects are pretty casual. This particular one seems to be charge with a lot of emotion, which I didn't really except from a Lets just be friends talk two months prior. What should I do, and if it is in my best interest to respond, what type of message should I send? Also would it be a better idea to call or text if I respond? |
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| Author: | Darth Dragoon [ Wed Dec 11, 2013 7:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
I'd teach her a life lesson :'D Definitely text instead of calling for this. You:"Since you know so much tell me how this feels. Remember 2 months ago, when you threw me away?" Bam!-> you get Drama, enjoy :3 Don't forget to set your mind to "She friendzoned me, ergo -> she threw you away" Might not get you into her panties, but it's so much fun to play this drama trust me. Freeze her out in case after finishing the lesson, it's worth a shot. (I call it emotional escalating with a rocket launcher) |
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| Author: | Adonis_Complex [ Wed Dec 11, 2013 8:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
^that was essentially my default, because that is how I feel. That type of response obviously makes a statement, I'm not sure it would be in the right direction. Although, I feel like our exchange could be a shit test and perhaps that is the type of response she is looking for, since I was treating her like a princess before. I'm going to give my response some more thinking time, but as of now I am leaning towards: "Now you know how I felt" after that immediate freeze out |
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| Author: | Darth Dragoon [ Wed Dec 11, 2013 9:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
Quote: ^that was essentially my default, because that is how I feel. That type of response obviously makes a statement, I'm not sure it would be in the right direction. Although, I feel like our exchange could be a shit test and perhaps that is the type of response she is looking for, since I was treating her like a princess before.
This is the direction you want to go, stand your ground, they'll respect you for that. There's no magic trick line that will get her to just crazy fall in love with you, let go off that. It'll make you grow on the inside and that's what will get you better with women, nothing else.Quote: I'm going to give my response some more thinking time, but as of now I am leaning towards: "Now you know how I felt" after that immediate freeze out
If you just want to be done with do it, it's your choice. But this is game over bro. And I mean O.V.E.R. not coming back!I'm not so sure if you understood the concept of my tactic here, if you just plain and simple say "So now you know bitch >:( " It's way too easy to dodge as you aren't attacking vital spots. You are way better off to relate her to being the one with the "pick-up" mentality here, as in my example. This sparks her need to reassure her self-image. Play Drama! You want her to respond to that, you want her to engage. Don't scream I hate you and then run away like a child. If she doesn't respond to a piercing shot at all however, just let go, you are wasting precious time :3 There's a thin line between a rejected dog barking at his mistress and a man growing up to stand for his believes. Just my two cents. Best of luck to you brother. |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Wed Dec 11, 2013 12:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
I believe she initially sent the LJBF thing because you didn't initiate a reconnect soon after the meetup. As you know ASD and LMR are totally normal and expected. Link up with the next girls again soon after not closing the deal on a date. You obviously still want to have sex with this girl. By letting her know your feelings were hurt by her LJBF text you are fucking yourself for no reason at all. Call the girl, be in an upbeat mood, don't apologize for your absence, tell her you've been super busy, fluff talk, segue to scheduling another hangout. |
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| Author: | Adonis_Complex [ Wed Dec 11, 2013 8:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
So if call her, and she starts asking defensive question, should I avoid them and continue, or address them? |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Thu Dec 12, 2013 7:07 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
With this girl and the way the situations have played out it's like a minefield. The chances are better to just meet other girls but with this one, can just be like (said in a totally relaxed, almost jovial manner), "nah I've been crazy busy" and go from there. Don't let her drag you into a lower state/lower vibe. Just remember the lessons from this overall situation (LMR/ASD etc.) for the future with other women. |
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| Author: | Adonis_Complex [ Fri Dec 13, 2013 8:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
I contacted her again, I figured I give her some time to cool off. Well in short, after calling prideful asshole who is unable to see or care about who he hurts, she fizzled out. I didn't argue with her, I just said that if she wants to talk to me face to face she can. Well the next day she made an excuse to text me, and brought up the face to face thing again. She seems to be cooling off, and is to eager to meet with me and talk. Idk, I think it's about time I stop trying to understand women. |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Sat Dec 14, 2013 12:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
Quote: I didn't argue with her
...which is the reason she is responding like this:Quote: the next day she made an excuse to text me, and brought up the face to face thing again. She seems to be cooling off, and is to eager to meet with me and talk.
Women are mirrors bro. They reflect everything about us. Quote: Idk, I think it's about time I stop trying to understand women.
It's superweird shit, I know. But you played it cool, so she's down to potentially continue things. Good job man.
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| Author: | Adonis_Complex [ Thu Jan 23, 2014 7:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to respond after Freeze Out |
Strange Update: Turns out we are in the same class again for this semester. We didn't make eye contact the first day, but I'm sure she saw me and I saw her (its larger class). I didn't want to seem eager so I left class without approaching her. She chased me down as I was walking back home. She's flirting around with me, and asking what my schedule is, and telling me hers. She invited me out the bar for her roommates birthday this weekend. It's like she wasn't even mad at me in the first place. I don't get it, did I pass on of her tests? Thoughts? |
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