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Author:  Lumberdog [ Sat Dec 07, 2013 9:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Finally i approached my first girl.. how do I improve?
So i were at the train today with my friends and i say this really good chick sitting alone as we were finding a place to sit. I broke the rule of 3 seconds because my friends would be distracted and kept asking me wtf wtf :D.. So after we sat down i got up and sit next to her. I have totally screwed it at the beginning XD I said : I´ll sit for a while. I actually have place to sit but.. and then i didnt know what to say so after like 4 seconds i said.. I am kind of shy guy.. Unfortunately she laughed and said its cute.. Then we kept talking for like 15 minutes. I did know what should i do except talking about life and those things.. I made her laugh sometimes but when she left i just close it with bye and a smile. Any tips for what to do in the middle of conversation to make her feel more confortable with me or how to build rapport and closing.. I dont think i failed, i just want to improve. I am really happy that i convinced myself to sit next to her..:)
Author:  ConfidenceMatters [ Sat Dec 07, 2013 10:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Finally i approached my first girl.. how do I improve?
Good job man. Takes balls to do what you did.

Notes:
-The best thing you can do is to feel more comfortable around others. By seeing your sense of security they'll follow suit.
-Memorize one good, true story about something that has happened to you for you to recite. Or, if you're not great at memorizing just tell your target about the stuff you did that day. It's small talk.
-Another category of basic conversation is to talk about the scenery.
-There's a very basic rule of thumb for having a decent conversation with strangers. Make two statements for every question.
-If you want others to feel comfortable around you then tell them lighthearted things about yourself. Where you work, a movie you just saw, some music you've been listening to, etc.
-Master good body language.
-Be an involved listener- ask involved questions.
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Sun Dec 08, 2013 2:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Finally i approached my first girl.. how do I improve?
Good job. Hey who cares if you told her you're shy? What's wrong with a little honesty?

It may be cliche to say but be yourself.

Get out of your head and stop trying to be safe in your conversation... express yourself. Focus on questions that require convo rather than a "Yes" or "No" answer... something to keep the convo flowing, something to make her think...

Things I like to talk about

- "if you had all the money in the world.... what would you be doing right now?"
then dig deeper.... find out what makes her tick.

- "what's your most embarrassing moment?"

- " have you ever considered being a stripper" .... "Would you be a stripper for 100,000$?" she says no... "how about $500,000" ... "What about 1 million" ... "Seriously you wouldn't do it for a million!?!"
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Sun Dec 08, 2013 7:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Finally i approached my first girl.. how do I improve?
GREAT job man! You've got the ball rolling now keep it going!


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Any tips for what to do in the middle of conversation to make her feel more confortable with me or how to build rapport and closing.. I dont think i failed, i just want to improve. I am really happy that i convinced myself to sit next to her..:)

All I'm going to suggest is that you keep going out and talking to more girls. You're shyness comes from the fact that you aren't used to interacting with girls. Once you become more comfortable around them, you will feel more natural. You're gonna fuck up alot more but that's okay... because you will learn :)

Keep up the good work man!
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