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| Author: | zwiggelbig [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 7:07 am ] |
| Post subject: | Hot girls in stores make me uncomfortable |
'm in pickup now for like 3 months. When going out I already approach more girls then I ever did and I even did 2 daytime direct aproaches on really nice girls. I changed my entire look of clothing (see profile pic) wich makes me feel like I have alot more confidince. But when ever I go in a clothing store for example and their is a older lady working or a guy I have no issues.. I can have fun, be myself, joke around, fit clothes alone. But as soon as their is a hot girl working all of sudden she gets to stand ABOVE ME by alot! I feel so uncomfortable. Or when I am in a store and like 2 really hot girls are their as well shopping. I have the same exact thing. I'll feel ashamed when I stand at certain spots of the store. For example a grocery store I would feel that when I would stand at the candy part..... Now on the streets I notice that this problem is getting alot less and that I can reframe it in a way that the girls should be uncomfortable and not me. Their beauty may not make me feel uncomfortable and I am diffrent then all the other guys out their and I give absolutly no shit what they think of me. But in the stores... I tried working a little bit on this by going to a few clothing stores alone and get a small talk with girl working their or just fit something myself and ask her opinion. The most stupid thing is that a while ago I went to a clothing store with alot of cash and went to buy alot of clothes. I was with a friend but he was at a diffrent floor and I was alone. I asked a girl working their who was really hot ( I even missed a fucking front tooth at this time!!) to help me find great clothes that would look nice on me. So she was walking around with me the entire time looking for clothes, then went to the dressing rooms waited outside, asked her opinion. Fooled around alot with her, had alot of fun. And she told me she never had this much fun in the store because their was never a guy who would do this with her. Asking her to help him find nice clothes that look good on him. So in that way I was already diffrent. But if I would be their alone.. ( even thought he was at a diffrent floor ) I would hardly even dare to fit clothes! (If someone is bored please let me know what kind of spelling errors I make so I can change it and never make that one again!) |
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| Author: | southern_gentlemangq [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 7:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hot girls in stores make me uncomfortable |
idk what it is but some people just have that person or item that gives them more confidence, i know my homeboy used to carry around a lighter (he never smoked) whenever he wanted to talk to girls. its the same thing as being unable to go out unless you're dress right.....it could be because subconciously you want to look cool infront of your friends and seeing he might be watching you he might say something like "____ get's all the girls" stupid i know lol but alot of people subconsciously think alot of stupid things....... |
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| Author: | Hammerofdawn [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 2:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hot girls in stores make me uncomfortable |
OP I think this is quite a normal thing, basically women who work as shop assistant, cashier or even the chick who works on returns have an element of control over the interaction within their job role in their workplace. I used to fall at this hurdle at times - just like with anxiety with an approach (AE) you've got to overcome it, try nibbling away at it rather than trying to take one large bite. Pick up a couple of good shirts which suit your style and find the HB in question, just ask her for a female opinion on something, "I'm going on a date tonight and need something nice to wear, which do you think would look better?" Get some pre-selection going on and take little more control over the interaction. Just try this now and again to reassure yourself because I know you can could do it. Quote: I'll feel ashamed when I stand at certain spots of the store. For example a grocery store I would feel that when I would stand at the candy part.....
This may be a little more complex, such as social compliance or a self esteem issue - But if you're doing shopping and stroll through the candy aisle, just remember you're entitled to be there just as much as anybody else is.I will note, if you're planning to pick up a girl in a grocery store, when you're talking to a woman for a little while expect you're basket/trolley to come under a little scrutiny - Its unlikely she will call you out or intentionally embarrass you about it, but she could determine a bit more about your lifestyle from what's in there. |
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