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| Author: | okina [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 12:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Housemate Issues |
Hi, I'm at Uni and live in a house. This one girl I live with, I've never liked a girl like her. I hate to admit it, but it's true. Now being in the whole house situation, I'm a huge fan of 'you don't shit where you eat', i.e. you don't get with your house mates. However, I can't get over this girl and I really hate that is how it is. About 6 weeks ago we had a night together where it was just me and her in the house, and she came back after a few drinks and got in bed with me (this had been building, but nothing had happened prior to this). We started kissing and I could tell she wanted to take it further, but I didn't because of the whole house situation (I've still got another half year at Uni with her). So we slept the night together but didn't f-close. My issue that night was I opened up and told her how much I liked her - huge mistake no doubt. Now since then we've both slept with other people, and just the other night at our house party I took a girl up to my room to find two of my house mates (2 girls, including her) already in my room, partly asleep (she was semi-drunk). In the time between sleeping with her (6 weeks ago) and now we have been very on and off with each other. I don't have a clue what to do, as I'm still gaming other girls, but have very little interest in them. I massively regret not sleeping with her, even if it was the right thing to do. About her: she isn't an emotional person in front of anyone. She always puts on a happy face and reading her is just beyond me. Basically, I want her, what do I do? |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 3:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
For every "rule" (such as 'shit where you eat') there are exceptions. Your problem isn't scarcity like 99% of guys in this situation. You genuinely want and like this girl. Go for it or you may regret it the rest of your life. Obviously the relationship or whatever you want to call it could end on not a great note and since u live in the same house, that wouldn't be cool. But if the reward is greater than the risk, why not. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 4:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Forget about her. Don't shit where you eat. Exactly that. It will end badly, really badly unless you get with her and it actually works but even then it's a massive risk dude. Your mistake wasn't telling her you liked her, it was sleeping with her. You might not have f-closed but you did worse! Instead of a meaningless fuck you made it more emotionally tied and presumably cuddled the entire night. |
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| Author: | vicparkguy83 [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 5:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Look sleeping with housemates is hit'n'miss it either goes brilliantly or disarsterously or anything in between. Next time you isolate her escalate make her pussy wet, don't worry about minor past events, just escalate. |
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| Author: | vicparkguy83 [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 5:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
And as ocean said risk/reward ratio. If she's nothing special and can't see your self being interested after more than a few lays, forget it, if she hot yep reward is high go for it. |
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| Author: | okina [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 2:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Yeah, it's risky, which is why I've made no effort for the past 6 weeks or so, in hope the attraction would just fade away. However, for whatever reason, it hasn't and I still like her. Let's say I'm going to take the risk and play this one. Baring in mind I live with this girl, how should I play it and act around her? She knows I talk to other girls and after taking a girl to my room at the house party she seems pretty pissed off at me. What sort of terms should I get on with her before trying to move things forward? |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 5:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
This may sound strange but... Go out with her, be her wingman and set her up with someone. You won't feel as bad about it as you have some power over the situation and unconsciously feel it was you who made her do it, not her doing it despite you. It's easier to move on and feel less attracted to her when you act up in yourself not to want her so much so you're willing to help her find someone. It's a double edged sword. It's like the ultimate DHV, shows confidence, you're fun to be around, you're showing a lack of interest and all this culminates to an intense attraction to you. Meanwhile you're actually forcing her out of your head which makes you less interested. |
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| Author: | okina [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 12:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Quote: This may sound strange but... Go out with her, be her wingman and set her up with someone. You won't feel as bad about it as you have some power over the situation and unconsciously feel it was you who made her do it, not her doing it despite you. It's easier to move on and feel less attracted to her when you act up in yourself not to want her so much so you're willing to help her find someone.
I'm with that as it's something I did prior to getting with her on a night out (although she didn't get with anyone).It's a double edged sword. It's like the ultimate DHV, shows confidence, you're fun to be around, you're showing a lack of interest and all this culminates to an intense attraction to you. Meanwhile you're actually forcing her out of your head which makes you less interested. As it stands she's being off with me, hardly talking and being really 'nice' with the other guy housemate (something she often likes to do, as I once said I thought she liked him). I'm guessing this is because I got with another girl last Friday and took her to my room. I'm not going to try and make amends, but any suggestions? |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 1:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Just seems like she wants to get at you, dude. It's girl drama... Just ignore it and move on. Let her do what she's going to do and act normally. You have no control over it, the only control you have is your direct involvement: Will you or won't you be involved? I would say don't be involved at all. Let her carry on and wash your hands of it. |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 4:00 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
The question is how long are you gonna be living in this house? If only temporarily (most likely a year or less?) why the hell not? If shit goes sour it's not like it's gonna stick with you for the rest of your life. I'd do it... if you genuinely want to do it. These are the types of things you regret down the road. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 5:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Quote: The question is how long are you gonna be living in this house? If only temporarily (most likely a year or less?) why the hell not? If shit goes sour it's not like it's gonna stick with you for the rest of your life. I'd do it... if you genuinely want to do it. These are the types of things you regret down the road.
Except he's in college and will need to study for his finals. I dunno about you but i'd rather not have household drama during study time/exam time. Would get nasty.
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| Author: | okina [ Sat Dec 07, 2013 5:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
She slept with this guy again that she has seen before last night. It's nearly the Christmas break (we have 1 week left), what should I do/how should I act? |
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| Author: | Darth Dragoon [ Sat Dec 07, 2013 5:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Quote: Just seems like she wants to get at you, dude. It's girl drama... Just ignore it and move on. Let her do what she's going to do and act normally. You have no control over it, the only control you have is your direct involvement: Will you or won't you be involved? I would say don't be involved at all. Let her carry on and wash your hands of it.
Do that, get your shields up, you're the better man. Don't play drama, you're not a queen.
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| Author: | Xoved [ Sat Dec 07, 2013 6:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Why are you even discussing this? You're a man, keep your standards and act as if nothing happened. If your interested in her and you can see she's worth it, keep sleeping with her. If not, then just be friends and never think about the topic again. It's really that simple. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Sat Dec 07, 2013 6:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Housemate Issues |
Stop giving advice. We've told him time and time again what to do. The advice won't change. |
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