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Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Wed Nov 06, 2013 9:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Is any of this beta behavior?
in a LTR:

A. I made plans with my gf, she had a bitchy attitude when I saw her (PMS) so I told her I was going out with my friend, she said "you told me you were hanging out with me you are going to flake on our plans!" so I said she was in a bad mood. I said I would go out with him, then come see her afterwards (I DID promise her I'd spend that whole night with her). I did just that and she kept joking when I saw her that I flaked on her a bit and I was a asshole

B. We work at the same place. We had to get rid of our shifts. She found someone to take mine for me.

C. We are in the club with my sister. Jokingly through the crowd she slaps some old ugly guy's ass and runs away. I act unphased, talk to her friend a bit later on that night.

D. If she is ever bitchy or complains, I generally make the "wah wah" face to her and joke, but if it is a serious issue I console her

Finally, how often should I pass up sex if she wants it in order to show that I don't NEED it from her? The other night I turned her down (after she said she was tired, then got horny), she was mad and horny, next time I saw her she asked "are we going to have sex tonight?" Generally speaking I start foreplay via text and we both are horny, then when I see her we have it. Should I tone down the sexting before I see her. Am I being too easy, or should a man ALWAYS be horny to his girlfriend, as long as she isn't using sex as a bargaining chip
Author:  GamesSN [ Wed Nov 06, 2013 9:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is any of this beta behavior?
Why would you make sex a reward for her or you? That's just stupid. If a chick turns sex into a game you set her straight right there and then. If you're both horny and want it don't play stupid games. Just fuck. Yeah, tease and all but don't let it get to the point where either you or her can/will use sex as a weapon, that is AFC in itself. It's also very immature.

Set her straight if she tries to use sex as a weapon. You shouldn't use sex as a weapon.

If you're a good fuck you won't need to try any of that rubbish anyway, she'll want your dick anyway.
Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Wed Nov 06, 2013 9:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is any of this beta behavior?
It has always been for both of us and she has never used it as a reward. But stuff like this bothers me. Today I had good news, and only told her some of it. She kept asking what the other news was, and I said she can't make me tell everything. She said "I'm sure I could figure out a few ways for the most part."

So I said "oh no, it doesn't work like that..."
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Thu Nov 07, 2013 3:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is any of this beta behavior?
I don't think you show beta behavior... but I think you worry too much about being beta that you over-do it. You shouldn't have to hold out on sex, and keeping your word is a good thing.
Author:  R.C [ Thu Nov 07, 2013 8:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is any of this beta behavior?
Well I was about to say you're doing fine ,before I read the sex part.


What do you do when she cooks for you ? Throw it out just because you can order pizza and don't need her food ?

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Am I being too easy, or should a man ALWAYS be horny to his girlfriend, as long as she isn't using sex as a bargaining chip.
Using sex as a bargaining chip ? That only happens when a woman feels that sex is a favor for the dude , a.k.a the sex is bad.

If you leave her convulsing , barely able to speak , all that good stuff , she'll never even attempt to bluff about taking sex off the table.

As far as the first part of your question , you should be always unpredictable , not always horny.
Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Thu Nov 07, 2013 4:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is any of this beta behavior?
She doesn't use it as a bargaining chip. She has never not had sex with me to get what she wants. She has joked before to get information out of me she has said "I am pretty sure I can find a few ways for the most part." And I said "it doesnt work that way :P"

One time when I wouldn't cuddle (I usually always do) she said "If I get naked will you cuddle with me?" and I said "what the heck does that have to do with anything"


Plus, she wants sex just as much as I do. I've read that if you LET HER use her sexuality as a bargaining chip, she will. But if you do not, and the sex is good (I am the only man to make her cum for cripes sake) then she has no leverage in this way.
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