Hey guys.
I've recently had a flake that kind of pissed me off. In a few words, HB says she'll be late, then later, then nothing. I think I handled this pretty poorly (though I never gave the impression it was pissing me off)
I was hoping you guys could give me a bit of advice on how to handle this kind of situation.
As a bit of information this is an online HB that gave me her FB, I only checked her profile pic and hardly ever got back to her because I totally misjudged it. She spent a couple of weeks doing all the work for my attention until I checked her FB again and picked up on the fact she was really hot by browsing her photos. I simply exchanged numbers and we agreed on a day and place but no hour.
(this is translated from french)
On the day.
Me: is 8PM good for you? (one liner fluff about head banging from party the night before)
HB: Yeah that's good for me!
At about 7PM she sends:
HB: I'm afraid I'm probably going to be late, my meeting/appointment/date (note she used a generic word in french that could mean any of those) is taking longer than expected. How about we get a drink same place but a little later.
Me: Take your time, I'm with friends anyway. You shouldn't skip dinner, we can always have a bite later. Just let me know when you leave.
HB: ok, no problem. What neighborhood are you in?
Me: blabla
HB: Oh cool I'm not far at blabla (her response was a little ambiguous in the phrasing which led to me asking her the following. Also note that these exchanges didn't follow each other immediately)
Me: Nice, does that mean you're leaving?
HB: Not yet, let me know if it's too late.
Me: No problem, but do you have any idea how long it'll be? (I'd rather cancel at this point if it's too long)
HB: I think I'll be leaving within 30 mn
An hour + later
Me: You managing? You aren't a woman for nothing
HB: Yeah
But I did offer to cancel, I knew it would take a while. (I did not call her out on the fact she never suggested canceling)Me: Don't worry about me.
After this no news. An hour and a half later (11PM) I sent her:
Me: Hey, My friends are heading back so I'm going to move onto something else. Lets cancel.
Me: You'll owe me a drink next time.
All this exchange happened on Friday. The next day she got back to me with
HB: Haha ok deal!
HB: Today I'm the one with the headache...
HB: I ended up starting my night at midnight and it ended around 7am ...
It is now sunday and I have yet to reply.
So first question: Should I have just cancelled straight out when she suggested the plan change?
Second question: What should I do now? I'd feel completely beta setting up another date. Since I've got plans with other women up until friday I haven't felt in any hurry to do something about it. I would like to give this another go before completely nexting her though.
What are your thoughts?
Thanks guys.