Ok, guys. First of all, I don't want to make this thread look like I am looking for a single advice. I would like it to be somewhat helpful to all those guys out there. But since I started it, I really am looking for an advice. Or two...
I have my usual places where I sarge, I never actually tried to hit on a bartender, but recently I started doing it, opening them, teasing them and It was just so much fun I can't stop now.
So - I focused on one specific HB, I was drinking with my friends. Making her laugh, teased her and neged her gently over the night. She wasn't the prettiest bartender there, she did not have the best butt, best hair, but for some reason I felt to her more attracted than to others. Why? No idea. (That is why I didn't give her a number.)
So after one night, she felt quite comfortable around me. I've read somewhere that when you hit on bartender, you must consider this to be long term shit. Going there often, make her feel comfortable. Simply just to make sure she won't consider you a stranger. I find this quite clever and logical.
So yesterday I went there again and, of course, she remembered me just well, but she seemed a little shy to approach. There were four other girls serving, but she still went to me. No smile, nothing. I knew my focus had to be on making her feel comfortable. Just to explain - this club is always crowded as fuck. I mean, I have 30 secs, 1 minute top for a conversation.
So she came up to me.
HB: HI,
ME: How you doing, my little star?
HB: *laguhs*
ME: Yup, smile a little. That's better. Gimmie a soda, please.
She gave me a soda and stood nearby eyeing me. I know this girl must be terribly unsocial and shy. So I drew a picture (I read it in some book. No idea what though). Her as a stick figure and wrote "Semi pretty waitress at a (club) and signed it.
As she served some guys I called her by name.
ME: Your beauty inspired me to a higher form of art.
She looked surprised, took the paper and laughed her ass off for like a minute.
HB: Oh my god. That is so adorable. Aaaaaw...
Instantly after that she became very opened. Started asking me what am I doing, with whom I came there and so on. We had a little conversation and then I told her I have to go, because my friends are waiting for me at another club - what actually was true.
Big problems here are:
-terrible noise
-customers
-lack of kino - bar board is pretty thick, I can't touch her without actually leaning over it. Damn..
also I can't deliver any DHV story since she is busy.
God, I love challenge.
What are your workarounds guys? How do you approach bartenders? What are your routines? I tried the stick figure picture again that night in other bar, girl laughed, but did not respond.
Also I am thinking - for the next time. I will tell her that she really inspired me just like last time and I made her a poem.
I am really good at them. Of course it won't be masterpiece to make her feel wanted. I will basically make it short and romantic describing a cute bartender and how we met.
And last verse will be something like that:
"And behind her stood (HB's name)." It sounds good in my native language, don't worry about it
I have to make sure I really stand out.
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