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| Author: | Lionheart9999 [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 2:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | GF is less interested in sex, honeymoon stage or attraction? |
We are 1 year, 4 months into our relationship. Literally for the first year and 2 months we had sex probably 2-3 times every time we'd see each other, which was 2-3 times a week. Now I see her about 3-4 times a week and spend the night 1 of those, and the other days have pretty much no contact with her. She always initiated a ton, I initiated some, the sex was great. Positions, variety, passion, "chemistry" as she put it. In her mind she describes me as spoiled (aka I demand alot from her/others), confident, and the best she has ever had in bed "and I am not just saying that." She said that sex was never boring for her and we hadn't reached our peak yet. We used to sneak sex when her parents are home, and say we were going to stop but kept going because it was so good. Now she says no more midway through. It used to be all I had to do was walk up behind her and tease her breasts or butt and she would moan and want sex. Now I do this and since she knows sex is coming she will say stop half jokingly or not let it build to sex. We used to get into bed and it was for sure that only touching her nipples or cuddling with her brought on sex. Now she will either say she is "too tired for sex", then I freeze her out, she comes onto me and wants it BAD, and we have it. The thing is, she says things like "wow, we didn't have much sex the past two days, that is not like us, am I getting fat? (laughs)" Last night this very thing happened. We got back from the bar, I got into bed and waited for her, we just relax and cuddle, I kiss her gently. She talks about the future, how she'd miss me if I moved away, ect. After turning her on a bit, and kissing her neck, she says "I am too tired for sex tonight just cuddle with me." I freeze her out, she starts licking my ear, jumping on me, going down on me, saying she will beg for it, lets just have sex, lets just have lazy sex if you want, I just want it inside me and we can fall asleep, basically ANYTHING to get me inside her. I respond with "just lay next to me" and she does, a bit bewildered, and says "make me feel annoying" but not in a bitchy way In the past I have used freeze outs, but rarely denied her advances. If I initiated I did so sensually or really dominant. We had sex all the time when she wanted to, and essentially all the time when I did. Occasionally I am sure she had sex with me when she wasn't in the mood but she never turned it down and got really into it as soon as we started. We had talks about sex after doing it alot recently. About how she has never had an orgasm with a guy or herself, how we are making progress with vibrator, how it is good all the time, ect. But she got self concious that I was putting expectations on her from my experience with other girls, a bit annoyed by communicating about it so much, and said things like "I don't want this to be an issue." We are over that now though. Is the honeymoon stage over or does this sound like an attraction problem? We would sext about having sex this whole time before we saw each other, I would wait for her to come to me and initiate alot, but did I give in too early? The dynamic was never really being sexually needy, as I waited for her to initiate. Was I just too easy and I should use challenge/sex denial to get her in the mood again? Is this fixable guys? |
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| Author: | Lionheart9999 [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 4:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF is less interested in sex, honeymoon stage or attract |
During the sex talks we had I asked her about her previous experiences with guys to see what her experience was with finishing during sex, and if her problems were across the board, with something WE were doing, ect. Her attitude was it was not just with me and I was giving her her best, and it was sincere. I generally make the plans, and if she asks me something like "where do you want to eat?" I always give my decisive answer, I usually drive, she does some of my laundry, we split bills alot, times she has been late to my house I make her make up for it or I leave and make HER wait, I don't react to her jealousy shit tests, ect. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 5:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF is less interested in sex, honeymoon stage or attract |
Ok you're gonna have to help me out a little bit here. What is the actual real problem ? That your girl sometimes says she's too tired for sex ? |
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| Author: | Lionheart9999 [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 7:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF is less interested in sex, honeymoon stage or attract |
Quote: Ok you're gonna have to help me out a little bit here.
Well, I have never heard that from her in the past, and recently she also has stopped me mid sex to cuddle (even though SHE initiated it after I said no). She WAS tired, but she has always pushed through that. And then when I froze her out, she was DOWN to get it on.What is the actual real problem ? That your girl sometimes says she's too tired for sex ? Basically what I am thinking happened was I used to be a little more challenging when she initiated a little more, but lately I've initiated more to make up for her getting past the honeymoon stage. Now I've noticed that when I've layed back a bit she turns into a horndog. Should I always wait for her to initiate, and tease her a bit? I used to alternate that with kissing her neck, and sensually touching her aka ME initiating. WHY IS SHE NOW MORE RESPONSIVE TO MY SAYING NO AND LETTING HER COME TO ME, AS OPPOSED TO ME INITIATING SEX? |
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| Author: | Lionheart9999 [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 8:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF is less interested in sex, honeymoon stage or attract |
she also said earlier in the day how good it is/was, "now our sex life is in the tubes......just kidding" but by the same token after the freeze out she said "I hate you" when I denied her sex. |
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