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Author:  bartm [ Sat Oct 19, 2013 10:03 pm ]
Post subject:  here is why I am not getting laid
When I approach a girl and she is a bitch to me, I want her more.
when I approach and the girl is nice, it's the opposite, I lose interest. If the girl shows any signs of being interested, or any signs that indicate to me that she wants me to like her, she quickly loses value in my mind and i feel like "she is too desperate, I dont want her"

just a few minutes ago I approached a girl who was walking on the street. She actually STOPPED. most girls walk away. She fucking STOPPED and wanted me to talk to her more. But this caused me to think "she has no value" and I said bye without getting her number. Then the next thing that always happens: after she is gone, I realize what a stupid mistake I have made, but it's too late, she is already gone.

is this a weird problem I have? psychologically speaking, what does this say about me? how can I fix it. dammit dammit dammit she was so hot.
Author:  Dragula [ Sat Oct 19, 2013 11:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: here is why I am not getting laid
It's quite common that new PUA's tend to sabotage themselves.

You are probably are petrified of making a move on to her... am I right?

Basically, you're finding excuses so you can avoid pulling the trigger..

You just need to have a few weekend's of being the sleazy, escalate on every girl type of guy,

Remember the actual goal of seduction.
Author:  OG_PlMP [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 12:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: here is why I am not getting laid
I'm the same but when it comes to getting a girlfriend. I usually escalate all the way to sex, then after we fuck I start to see every little imperfection she may have. Eyes too squinty, acts too needy, calls too much, acts too distant, too round of nose, too pointy of nose, too loose, too easy, not easy enough, you get the point. I find any little thing that I don't like about them, then move on to the next girl - because I want the absolute PERFECT girl when I settle down...A girl that really doesn't exist or is 1 in a million.

I haven't fixed my problem so idk if I can help with yours but I'm guessing its what PEBBLE said. You get too nervous around these girls and can't find the perfect way to close (no offense) so you make up excuses as to why you dont get any pussy. If she seems interested then go for her number and take her out. No reason not to. Pussy is pussy, it feels good, so do it.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 1:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: here is why I am not getting laid
Your case is different from OG_PIMP. OG got the goods while you still have to get it.

In this case, Pebbles is spot on. You're too used to failure you simply don't know how to react yet to a small success. Hence, some of us here always advice newbies to succeed via baby steps so you get used to success towards the f-close.

When you encounter the same situation again, force yourself to go for the next step. You'll probably get rejected several times towards the isolation to the f-place. Eventually, you'll get things right and successfully isolate a girl.

Afterwards, your next problem would probably be how to handle LMR.
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 1:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: here is why I am not getting laid
a lot of us fear success and we need to re-program ourselves. I was chasing a girl who kept playing games with me... while another girl (more beautiful and better personality) was right in front of my face. I had to really have to come to a realization how damaging my thinking was.... so eventually I picked the more attractive girl that actually wanted me.
Author:  bartm [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 3:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: here is why I am not getting laid
thank you guys,

Pebble and Hellhound are right. now that I am thinking about it, the reason I create all these excuses is because I am scared of moving to the next step which is to let her know i am interested in her sexually.
Author:  Dragula [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 8:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: here is why I am not getting laid
I remember this sexy girl offered herself to me..

It was at the start if my pick up career so I just didn't rest except it and just did not have that entitlement..

"Oh my god, she so hot, but I haven't read up on my escalation theory tactics, I'm not ready.. *REJECT HER*"

I man'd the fuck up and so should you :)

I remember in school.. I used to get girls interested in me all the time but I would instantly find a flaw even though I actually fancied them. But was just an excuse to not take it to the next level. Like defense mechansim
Author:  Tr@veler [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 2:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: here is why I am not getting laid
Is it really because of this "complex" you have or is it because of a fear of making the move? Think about this carefully.
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