Maybe we should lie to women?
Ok I'm quite experienced, so I'm no newbie
Whenever I meet a girl, I tell her before we have sex of my intentions , "just so you Know im not looking for a wife"
The reason I do this, is because I hurt a girl in the past .I basically told her AFTER I had sex that I'm not looking for anything serious and it really hurt her. Thus it hurt me that I hurt her so I changed my ways
But the flip side is that they appreciate the honesty BUT they end it on good terms because she is after a boyfriend. I have lost a few girls with this method but at least my conscience is clear.
Best case scenario, I have a fuck buddy that lasts for a long time with no drama and nobody falling in love with each other.
So for the past few weeks, I met a nice girl, got her number and arranged a meeting, I made out with her at the start like I usually do ,then as we have a good chat and get to know each other, I then talk about intentions...so I told her that I'm not looking for a wife. She gives the usual "oh so you just after a shag?"
I tell her the honest truth that I'm not just a shag, but it can't lead to anything serious.
Anyway, we have a great time and take her back to my house and I pretty much get LMR all night, I get as far as dry humping and rubbing her pussy on the outside of her clothes. She tells me she can't do this and leaves.
She still texts and tells me she wants my cock etc and masturbates over me.
(Side note, She then tells me she lied and that she has a kid)
We meet a again the following week and I paid for a nice meal , we had a good time. Later on I fingered her and she wanked me off but no sexy time.
Anyway. Following week I'm thinking , 3rd date its gonna happen! . Last night, we meet, she says it's her treat and we go to a restaurant and she says it's her turn to pay, as we order food, she tells me that she can't have sex with me because she doesn't wanna be just a shag and mentioned that her ex hurt her bla bla and she doesn't wanna be a casual encounter. I told her that I'm cool with that, but I told her she could of just told me that by text instead if wasting my (valuable) time. (I'm currently working in my business's so i'm actually busy )
She then mentions
Her - "don't you think it's about time you settle down?"
Me- " I told you from day 1 my intentions so you worry about what you want and let ME decide what I want ok?"
She tells me that I'm reacting like an ass hole. I really wasn't, I told her I understand. But I get the feeling everything she was doing was scripted (seemed rehearsed, like she has practised it to her friends)and she knew she would be having this awkward squabble, she gets her money out on table and she walks out of the restaurant without even eating, I lose my appetite so I go home. She then texts me:
Her -" Enjoy my pitty money! Your such a waste and your true colours showed I am SO HAPPY I didn't SLEEP with you! LOOOL. Better luck next time!! I pitty you
))))) Mwah!"
Me- "grow up, you're the one that lied to me in the 1st place, I've been honest this whole time."
Now, sometimes I just feel like I should of just of just told her what she wants to hear and lie....Shag her, THEN tell her I'm not looking for a girlfriend, because I'm getting drama either way so it might aswell be after sex.
I know this makes me sound like a misogynist prick. But i love everything about women, but Christ I'm getting punished for being honest.
It's just really annoying that my honesty is what fucked it up for me, so maybe I should just lie in the future?! Can't win either way.
Frustrating.
Any wisdom from the older experienced guys?
