Note* I posted this in the pua lounge but they told me it belongs in the General questions section, so here you go...


I find myself doing such beta make things, I haven't become full Alpha yet. Maybe it cause I feel I'm an Alpha with woman but not in my personal life.

Here's some things I noticed I do, tell me if their bad:
* I overly explain myself and my personality. E.g. "I'm so and so kind of person"
* I sometimes let her lead and give me directions and take control (even while being intimate).
* I open up to easy. E.g. I told her how my dad was never there for me and I had to teach myself how to be a man. Or that no one showed me Love but yet there's so much love in me to give.
* I give long explanations
* I use Pre-selection too much. **IMPORTANT** What happens is: I bring up other girls and they end up bring up other guys and it puts them in this mood of wanting that other guy. What would I do here?
* I make myself to available or needy
* I don't speak to her in a Alpha way, I pause a lot, thinking what to say.
* I give her the power in the relationship by saying I like her -- first.
** Important** I don't understand the basically rules of being alpha so in general conversation on what to say and how to handle things -- to demonstrate that I'm Alpha or attract her I fail.

That's all I could come up with. Please help me be one more alpha like some if you guys are. I so badly want what you guys have.

You have made the first important step. You've recognized the problem and you've listed the problem.

Now write down a plan of action to resolve each of your issues.

Brantley, Game, thanks for your replies...

Brantley, I'm trying to figure out the answers it's very hard to change these habits and idiosyncrasies that I've adopted for so long. I don't know how to fix them.

*Also, I just got off the phone with a girl who I like and when I talk to her I become too emotional and odd -- I be one needy. Maybe I'm wrong, this is what happen. I took her out, we ate at a fancy restaurant, I payed 50$! We held hands that whole night, and we kissed and all that. A few days passed and she didn't call me all she did was msg me on FB and we set up a date.

I called her and said jokingly, You owe me, I gave you a good time last night, I want chocolate, roses and a card. She said, "your kidding right? How about a bra too lol" I said, I take a Double D" and she laughed. It was playful. But than I said, I'm disappointed in her (in a joking way) you didn't call me, see if I ate, text me -- don't worry about me I'll be fine." She laughed and all that. I guess... I know... I messed up guys. But I hv a serious issue with a longing for affection and it makes me needy I suppose. It hurt that she didn't send me a nice text or phone call. I hope I explained it right.