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Author:  redzum [ Thu Sep 19, 2013 9:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Dumb question: Where to meet women?
I'm a bit older than a lot of you probably and am not in the college age anymore. So I'm done school, I don't meet people at work and dating clients is a no-no, my friends are all married or have no available, attractive, young single female friends (and neither do I), and I rarely do the bar/club scene, but occasionally.

Where is someone like me, who has passed the college age/scene supposed to meet anyone? I'm not into online "dating" - it's BS, so what is left? From what I've read on different sites, women hate being cold approached in the daytime, so pretty much everything is out, aside from the bar or club scene? That's really limiting, am I missing something?
Author:  GamesSN [ Thu Sep 19, 2013 9:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
Day game.

If you don't want to cold approach then force situations. Like having lunch in the park. See a girl that catches your eye? Go sit down and eat your sandwich beside her. She'll be reading a book or something just eavesdrop and act like you know it.

Also, women who have books out on their laps but not open just yet are waiting to be approached. They'll respond well even if they look a bit mean or unapproachable -- all the better, if she's unhappy you can follow up with this!

Take control and make use of these situations. Sitting on a bus/train and there's a woman across from you? Make sure you're happy and don't force a smile just before you talk to her. Just shoot the shit man! Don't think into it too much, just think of it as having a nice friendly chat to pass the time and if you find you like her then think about escalating/n-closing. Go in with the frame of mind of just wanting to talk to her as a person and not a hole to stick your dick into. That's your approach sorted out!

Or, you know, you could let your friends set you up with a single friend. Go to a party hosted by your married friends and mingle. You'll see other singletons there.
Author:  bartm [ Thu Sep 19, 2013 10:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
who said women dont like to be cold approached?
isn't that ALL simplepickup does?
I dont get it, i thought it shows balls and women like it?
Author:  GamesSN [ Thu Sep 19, 2013 10:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
Ever been approached in the day? It's quite uncomfortable. Doesn't matter though, where the importance is is just not being a creep when you approach and keeping it interesting after the opener.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Thu Sep 19, 2013 10:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
SN got it spot on.
  • Day game + Propinquity Sarging
Single women love to hangout at coffee shops, 7-11 (or equivalents), churches and at the malls. All you need to do is be a regular in these venues. However, you'll have to somehow standout (no overkill dressing please) and be very observant of approach invitation cues.

On your 3rd or 4th instance in these places as long as your grooming is good (no dirty shoes), you smell good, and your masculine vibe is good, you'll catch those eye signals that essentially means you'll have to approach the girl(s) giving you glances of interests.

When you close the distance and give them the eye fuck and the girl(s) eye fuck you back, say your opener. Nonverbal communication through the eyes is KEY. If you can't read the signs and don't know how to react, you'll miss out on a lot of opportunities to date good girls.

An approach is no longer a cold approach but already a warm approach if the girl gives you approach invitation cues and has seen you several times in the same venue.

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Author:  detox75 [ Thu Sep 19, 2013 10:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
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That's really limiting, am I missing something?
ya your missing something by self limiting beliefs, I would work on cold approaches, they work
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Fri Sep 20, 2013 6:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
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I'm a bit older than a lot of you probably and am not in the college age anymore. So I'm done school, I don't meet people at work and dating clients is a no-no, my friends are all married or have no available, attractive, young single female friends (and neither do I), and I rarely do the bar/club scene, but occasionally.

Where is someone like me, who has passed the college age/scene supposed to meet anyone? I'm not into online "dating" - it's BS, so what is left? From what I've read on different sites, women hate being cold approached in the daytime, so pretty much everything is out, aside from the bar or club scene? That's really limiting, am I missing something?
LOL how old do you have to be to be past the age where you can go to bars? No matter how old you are... There are bars/clubs/lounges for people your age. Stop making excuses. Women are everywhere.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Fri Sep 20, 2013 7:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
Not all women don't like being approached, they just don't like being creeped out.

Fly in under the radar, offer something unique and often times they'll be interested in getting to know you.
Author:  redzum [ Fri Sep 20, 2013 9:10 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
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LOL how old do you have to be to be past the age where you can go to bars? No matter how old you are... There are bars/clubs/lounges for people your age. Stop making excuses. Women are everywhere.
I didn't mean I was too old for bars. I'm 31 at the moment. I have found bars suck for meeting women, most people in the bars I frequent just keep to themselves, despite the noise. Clubs are good and I've even been approached by random chicks there in the past. But aside from clubs, what else is there?

I've tried online dating and it sucks ass. Not for me.

I just wondered if there was anything else out there, besides the club scene or private parties. People expect to get approached there, so the pressure is off.
Author:  Athylus [ Fri Sep 20, 2013 9:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
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I'm a bit older than a lot of you probably and am not in the college age anymore. So I'm done school, I don't meet people at work and dating clients is a no-no, my friends are all married or have no available, attractive, young single female friends (and neither do I), and I rarely do the bar/club scene, but occasionally.

Where is someone like me, who has passed the college age/scene supposed to meet anyone? I'm not into online "dating" - it's BS, so what is left? From what I've read on different sites, women hate being cold approached in the daytime, so pretty much everything is out, aside from the bar or club scene? That's really limiting, am I missing something?
LOL how old do you have to be to be past the age where you can go to bars? No matter how old you are... There are bars/clubs/lounges for people your age. Stop making excuses. Women are everywhere.
Let me tell you all a story.

One month ago me and some friends decided to go to the club, and there was this one girl standing out for a particular reason. She was shaking her ass like a wild animal (who would have guessed), I reckon she was like 18-22 and no one dared approach her. Ten minutes later two 30-40 year olds or so entered the bar, and one of them approached the girl and they started kissing in under one minute. One minute later she was practically riding him.

It was a cool experience.
Author:  hugge [ Fri Sep 20, 2013 9:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
Get yourself a cute dog. The dog will force you to go out, and you will meet people on the street who will start talking to you, just because of the dog.

You can meet people anywhere. In the food store for instance. So called "day game" on the street is quite hard since people are busy minding their own business, and they are usually in a hurry. Besides, it is quite weird to run up to busy people like that to start some small talk. You need to go to places where people are relaxed, sitting down or standing still.
Author:  Semimembranosus [ Sat Sep 21, 2013 9:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
haha, i think you are unexperienced. you can meet women anywhere where women are.
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From what I've read on different sites, women hate being cold approached in the daytime
where did you read that? who wrote it? give us a link
Author:  Gunfighter28 [ Sat Sep 21, 2013 12:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
one thing I found helped me is if you're at a mall and you're nervous about cold approach go into a store that has a hot girl working. When she comes to you to see if you need help try and get the convo on a more personal note. That's what I did anyway I've got a few #'s that way and it helped get me over my fear of cold approach. Just my opinion though good luck!
Author:  just-some-guy [ Sat Sep 21, 2013 12:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
imo women like all people are generally impatient with cold daytime approaches in the street.

like how do you feel when you get these sales reps or volunteers etc accosting you as you're on your way to a shop? you may see videos on the yoootoobz of 'MPUAs' being relatively successful doing this but those vids imo are either staged or its the 1 in 100 that didnt result in a fail.

tbh if it wasnt for day game id get nowhere with girls lol because when i go out its mostly just to get drunk and have a laugh with friends. and i end up rejecting a couple of girls' approaches most nights as i just couldnt be arsed tbh haha.


but anyway back to daygame it is best to use a genuine excuse to initiate a convo (if you didnt get any approach cues/IOIs), and any excuse really if you did get approach cues/IOIs. that way you avoid being a creep or an annoying accoster and you've shown you have all the balls thats needed.

example. you walk into a shop looking for those red cups for your party, and a girl who works there makes eye contact and smiles a little even though she isnt approaching you to see if she can help. thats an approach cue.
plus you have a perfect excuse to talk to her i.e. ask where are the red cups. if she interested she will ask about the party and then you can invite her.

and so forth
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Sep 21, 2013 1:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumb question: Where to meet women?
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one thing I found helped me is if you're at a mall and you're nervous about cold approach go into a store that has a hot girl working. When she comes to you to see if you need help try and get the convo on a more personal note. That's what I did anyway I've got a few #'s that way and it helped get me over my fear of cold approach. Just my opinion though good luck!
Ah, yes. I've finally seen two day game sargers here who are not doing those chase-skirts-down-the-street-like-a-dancing-monkey crude methodology; although I must admit that I went through this phase to polish my body language reading skills.

My rule of thumb for mall game is to build propinquity (propinquity sarging) with the hot babe hired guns (store clerks, restaurant managers and crews, promo girls, cashiers) for social proof and do cold approaches with the mall clients.

Sometimes I get to fuck the hired guns. But this strategy works more wonders with cold approaches when the hot babe mall clients realize that all of the hot girls in the mall know you and touch you here and there. It frames their mind that it's okay to touch you also at your chest or grab things near your cock.

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