When single, the PUA stuff I learned was really difficulty, but I managed to get it down. I met girls and had the kinds of experiences I always wanted. I started in my very late-20s after a pretty thin (women-wise) experience earlier in my life. I learned how to 'like' parties. I always loved clubs, but I learned to meet women at clubs, where before I was only just there for dancing and the music. I learned to talk to women during the day. I learned how to appear outgoing and social and alpha.

Now, I'm in a relationship for over one year. I'm in my late 30s, girlfriend in her early 40s. She's super cool, super hot, super outgoing, fun, loves parties and clubs and knows million people. The sex is great. However, my "PUA" self is starting to fade. I wasn't duping her in the beginning. I was exploring new things and getting out of my comfort zone. It was fun. But, now I know myself better. I don't mind parties, but I prefer 'deeper' conversations in small groups. I enjoy yoga and quiet activities more than she realized. I never went to wild parties (and still don't love them), but she partied hard and had/has a wild streak. I appreciate that about her, but we don't always relate on those levels. The relationship is still very good, but we are noticing how we are different. Some (but not all) of my genuine likes and personality is not what she expected it to be. She's feeling a little bummed out.

I don't need to learn to pick up chicks right now, but the whole philosophy and ideas behind PUA----there still might be something there for me to learn. She's wants a little bit of that go-with-the-flow-fun-social-outgoing-cool guy back. How do I do that without being fake?

When single, the PUA stuff I learned was really difficulty, but I managed to get it down. I met girls and had the kinds of experiences I always wanted. I started in my very late-20s after a pretty thin (women-wise) experience earlier in my life. I learned how to 'like' parties. I always loved clubs, but I learned to meet women at clubs, where before I was only just there for dancing and the music. I learned to talk to women during the day. I learned how to appear outgoing and social and alpha.

Now, I'm in a relationship for over one year. I'm in my late 30s, girlfriend in her early 40s. She's super cool, super hot, super outgoing, fun, loves parties and clubs and knows million people. The sex is great. However, my "PUA" self is starting to fade. I wasn't duping her in the beginning. I was exploring new things and getting out of my comfort zone. It was fun. But, now I know myself better. I don't mind parties, but I prefer 'deeper' conversations in small groups. I enjoy yoga and quiet activities more than she realized. I never went to wild parties (and still don't love them), but she partied hard and had/has a wild streak. I appreciate that about her, but we don't always relate on those levels. The relationship is still very good, but we are noticing how we are different. Some (but not all) of my genuine likes and personality is not what she expected it to be. She's feeling a little bummed out.

I don't need to learn to pick up chicks right now, but the whole philosophy and ideas behind PUA----there still might be something there for me to learn. She's wants a little bit of that go-with-the-flow-fun-social-outgoing-cool guy back. How do I do that without being fake?