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Author:  TiagoFigueiredo [ Thu Sep 12, 2013 5:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Nervous male friends ?
Good afternoon PUAS of the world, and thank you first of all for reading my topic. A good week to all.






Today i would like to leave a question that i have noticed happening for quite a while, which is whenever i approach a new girl, or i am seem talking to a new HN, or strange to my group of male friends, and especially if the HB is very attractive, it seems like all the males get more nervous or ansious and leading to a behaviour change. Some of them have made comments in a hight tone of voice and closeby, others passed their hands trough my hair while im talking to the HB, and others even tried throwing small things at me (all of thsese are very uncommon things to do when they are alone with me). I suspect i have myself suffered from this "nervous" behaviour in the past without noticing it. I honestly dont think going all the way getting new friends would be the solution because i ve felt this happen in other situations.




I supose the right way to deal with this is by being alpha and ignoring all of this, keep silence and keep doing whatever were are doing, but like when i started knowing about all of this PUa stuff, i read that our families and friends would criticise and try to avoid us to change in any way, because they would feel their "group", safety or confort could be at risk, could this be kinda what is happening in this situation?






What do you guys think, has anyone came across to something like this or am i going crazy or extra sensitive ?






Sugestions are very welcomed






:)
Author:  Droogo [ Fri Sep 13, 2013 7:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Nervous male friends ?
I am experiencing a similar thing.
Lately, whenever I hang out with friends they seem to be a bit depressed and they're not willing to share their time with people they don't know. I find it frustrating for two reasons:
1-I need to spend energy in cheering them up, this way I can't concentrate on sarging very well.
2-When I approach a group of girls for about the first 5 minutes I need to keep the conversation going both with the opened group and my friends (let's say I'm not backed up). After that they start to tease me and sometimes they even neg me.

Now, they're my friends and they are wonderful people, they just seem not to get the game. I even tried to introduce one or two of them into this world but without success.

What to do? I'm thinking to go sarging alone.

Every suggestion is of course welcomed!!!
Author:  AndreasJacobsen [ Fri Sep 13, 2013 11:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Nervous male friends ?
I don't think the solution here is to ditch your friends completely.

It is true; when you start to grow as a man, become more confident and start having success with women, the people you used to hang around will begin to feel uncomfortable with the change. They don't mean any harm with it; it's just the nature of change.

I heard a saying, I don't really remember where it is from: "you are the average of the people, you surround yourself with"

Look for other people to hang out with could be a solution; going out alone could be another solution. Actually, when you go out alone you might even meet some cool new guys for you to hang around, especially if you approach a mixed group!

But don't just dump your friends for being nervous, inspire them with your confidence and success! Who knows, perhaps they will grow as men just by being around you and then the problem is solved :D

- Andreas
Author:  Dolc3 [ Fri Sep 13, 2013 11:23 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Nervous male friends ?
Quote:
Good afternoon PUAS of the world, and thank you first of all for reading my topic. A good week to all.






Today i would like to leave a question that i have noticed happening for quite a while, which is whenever i approach a new girl, or i am seem talking to a new HN, or strange to my group of male friends, and especially if the HB is very attractive, it seems like all the males get more nervous or ansious and leading to a behaviour change. Some of them have made comments in a hight tone of voice and closeby, others passed their hands trough my hair while im talking to the HB, and others even tried throwing small things at me (all of thsese are very uncommon things to do when they are alone with me). I suspect i have myself suffered from this "nervous" behaviour in the past without noticing it. I honestly dont think going all the way getting new friends would be the solution because i ve felt this happen in other situations.




I supose the right way to deal with this is by being alpha and ignoring all of this, keep silence and keep doing whatever were are doing, but like when i started knowing about all of this PUa stuff, i read that our families and friends would criticise and try to avoid us to change in any way, because they would feel their "group", safety or confort could be at risk, could this be kinda what is happening in this situation?






What do you guys think, has anyone came across to something like this or am i going crazy or extra sensitive ?






Sugestions are very welcomed






:)
Here are some solutions for this. Ultimately though, you are the one who has to make the decision what to do.

1. Ditch these losers and find new friends (maybe some that are already into pick-up)
2. Establish a boundary and let your friends know that they're acting stupid. If they continue, go to choice number one.

I can't think of other things you could do. DO not IGNORE this! Never ignore things like that, instead- CALL THEM OUT.
Author:  TiagoFigueiredo [ Sun Sep 15, 2013 5:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Nervous male friends ?
Great feedback from all guys, pretty much appreciated since this is a very bothering question in evolving as a man.



In fact just out of curiosity i am always mentioning to my mother that i let people go to far, without drawing limits on them (and i am aware that if i ignore it will be much harder to comeback from, because people then get used to it)



My issue with drawing limits is just one: When i do it, they usually reply with something like... "Oh you are such a pussy...... or You are a wussy........... "





Do yous get those aswers aswell ?






:)
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