So 2 weekends ago I met this girl at a bar, we hit it off. I got her number, left to hang out with my friends and hit on more girls, randomly came back and made out with her for like 2 hours. Her friends loved me, she clearly liked me. I did everything right, text her after that night wishing her luck in her volleyball game... she ate it up.

last week i tried to set something up. telling her I was going to pick her up on this day... She is very busy, so I understand not being available. but overall she seemed pumped to hang out with me. she had mentioned hanging out Thursday earlier in the week, so Wednesday I called and left a hilarious voice mail about our impending "date". I argued with myself weather to call it a date or not, but I thought, she needs to know what I think it is.... no accidentally friendzoning myself.


Anyway she had a volleyball game that night and one of her players broke her ankle so she had to cancel so we rescheduled for labor day.

On labor day she text me and said "I don't think we should hang out tonight". She explained it that she was a mess and doesn't think i'd want to hang out if I knew the extent of it.

Honestly, I don't care the extent, since she doesn't have kids, past is past. But apparently she had got dumped, not sure when.

but apparently I freaked her out when I called it a date cause she doesn't like stuff like that. So I told her I have never been on a stereotypical "date" before and that I call everything like that a date. she felt better, I made her laugh and all was ok.

How do i go about actually hanging out with this girl? Obviously I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket but she was fun. I'm thinking about not texting her for a few days and then tell her we are going to get those drinks she owes me on tuesday. (She doesn't actually owe me drinks)

Any thoughts?

Ask her out and get a definitive answer about whether or not she actually likes you. Also in the meantime, focus on gaming other women.

So 2 weekends ago I met this girl at a bar, we hit it off. I got her number, left to hang out with my friends and hit on more girls, randomly came back and made out with her for like 2 hours. Her friends loved me, she clearly liked me. I did everything right, text her after that night wishing her luck in her volleyball game... she ate it up.

last week i tried to set something up. telling her I was going to pick her up on this day... She is very busy, so I understand not being available. but overall she seemed pumped to hang out with me. she had mentioned hanging out Thursday earlier in the week, so Wednesday I called and left a hilarious voice mail about our impending "date". I argued with myself weather to call it a date or not, but I thought, she needs to know what I think it is.... no accidentally friendzoning myself.


Anyway she had a volleyball game that night and one of her players broke her ankle so she had to cancel so we rescheduled for labor day.

On labor day she text me and said "I don't think we should hang out tonight". She explained it that she was a mess and doesn't think i'd want to hang out if I knew the extent of it.

Honestly, I don't care the extent, since she doesn't have kids, past is past. But apparently she had got dumped, not sure when.

but apparently I freaked her out when I called it a date cause she doesn't like stuff like that. So I told her I have never been on a stereotypical "date" before and that I call everything like that a date. she felt better, I made her laugh and all was ok.

How do i go about actually hanging out with this girl? Obviously I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket but she was fun. I'm thinking about not texting her for a few days and then tell her we are going to get those drinks she owes me on tuesday. (She doesn't actually owe me drinks)

Any thoughts?