PUA Forum :: When is it okay to get mad?

Well there was this girl i was with..

One day we had a date and she cancelled.

She told me something like (through text)

"Okay you are gonna kill me but its not my fault. My father wants me to accompany him to the store and he is really pissed off "

Me : " Okay"

Her " Okay... i would rather if you got mad and screamed and me .. dont okay me"

Me " I wont get upset about this , you know i wanted to meet with you . If you cant , you cant. Thats it"

Her " Fine"

texting silence until 1 am

Her " Are you mad at me? :s"

(and here is where i think i screwed up)

Me : Nah , maybe a little but i dont hold grudges .

Her : Good , i hate it when you get mad at me .

Author:	drivenby [ Wed Sep 04, 2013 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:	When is it okay to get mad?
I have read about brushing off like i dont care , but i think that sometimes its not okay to simply brush off. Couldnt this be a sign of a submissive personality?

Author:	Wolfwoodd [ Wed Sep 04, 2013 4:08 pm ]
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If a girl makes you really angry, then you should LEAVE (and soft/hard next). Getting in a fight just rewards the type of women who thrive on drama and strong emotions. The last thing you want to do is reward bad behavior. Just my 2 cents. -Wolf

Author:	GamesSN [ Wed Sep 04, 2013 4:14 pm ]
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Would you stay in a relationship with a woman who made you angry all the time? No. So why would you stay in a set if someone was making you angry? Just leave and move on. Dodged a bullet.

Author:	Gabriel Angelo [ Tue Sep 10, 2013 6:32 am ]
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Anger is a sign of uncontrollable emotion. That's where the sign of weakness comes in. Would James Bond ever get macho angry at a woman. He doesn't need to anyway. Brush it off yes, but be AMUSED by it like a little kid teasing it back on her is far more effective than brushing off.

Author:	TheFury [ Tue Sep 10, 2013 5:34 pm ]
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I don't get angry I just tell them the argument/conversation is over.

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Author:	GKS [ Wed Sep 11, 2013 2:00 am ]
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Depending on what you meant by "get mad". There is a big difference between throwing your tantrum (hitting, screaming, throwing stuffs, resort to violence, etc...) and putting them back to their places (calmly discuss what you don't like, punishing bad behaviors, etc...). If a girl engages in bad behaviors that I don't like, I will tell them I don't like it and they should stop. If the behaviors still persist, I'll just simple move on. I'd not waste my time getting in a fight with her or feel the need to prove my point. I don't like it, I walk away. Period.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Wed Sep 11, 2013 1:55 pm ]
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The key is to know yourself and know what your boundaries are. It's rare that I get mad because people generally respect me, but every once in a while they'll test me and I'll have to react to something just to bring them back to reality. However there is a difference between standing up for yourself and getting angry. You should always stand up for yourself, but for the most part "anger" is a weak emotion. Is there any situation in particular that you didn't know if you should let slide?

Author:	drivenby [ Fri Sep 13, 2013 1:07 am ]
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Well there was this girl i was with.. One day we had a date and she cancelled. She told me something like (through text) "Okay you are gonna kill me but its not my fault. My father wants me to accompany him to the store and he is really pissed off " Me : " Okay" Her " Okay... i would rather if you got mad and screamed and me .. dont okay me" Me " I wont get upset about this , you know i wanted to meet with you . If you cant , you cant. Thats it" Her " Fine" texting silence until 1 am Her " Are you mad at me? :s" (and here is where i think i screwed up) Me : Nah , maybe a little but i dont hold grudges . Her : Good , i hate it when you get mad at me .

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Fri Sep 13, 2013 5:00 am ]
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Quote: Well there was this girl i was with.. One day we had a date and she cancelled. She told me something like (through text) "Okay you are gonna kill me but its not my fault. My father wants me to accompany him to the store and he is really pissed off " Me : " Okay" Her " Okay... i would rather if you got mad and screamed and me .. dont okay me" Me " I wont get upset about this , you know i wanted to meet with you . If you cant , you cant. Thats it" Her " Fine" texting silence until 1 am Her " Are you mad at me? :s" (and here is where i think i screwed up) Me : Nah , maybe a little but i dont hold grudges . Her : Good , i hate it when you get mad at me . It's no big deal.. Her excuse was bullshit.. but you didn't say anything wrong - you're fine bro. If you're time is more valuable to you then she is cut her loose; no need to get mad. She doesn't owe you anything.

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