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Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 7:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
Hey fellas I've posted about this before, and it is driving me nuts! I have been given advice on techniques and they have not worked for me. My LTR of 1 year is young and only 1 LTR before me (they were teens at the time!):

-initiates sex more than I do, and we bang multiple times every time we hang out
-has said to me she has never had sex this frequently, there is so much attraction/chemistry, "that is MY dick", "that felt nice/good" after sex, said sincerely "sex is NEVER boring with you, I was worried having it this much with you would make it boring"
-has told me: "I am very insecure about this, but I have only finished a few times in all of my sexual history with guys"
-can masturbate herself to orgasm
-says she has once or twice with me in the past through intercourse and otherwise during foreplay she says "faster and I'll cum!", "if you stayed in that spot I would have cum", ect through different techniques, but when she moves I have come off her clit or she just couldn't get there


I have tried the following with her after all day build up, flirting, a bit of teasing, dominance and when she is horny/wet:

-ORAL: she says (and seems) that it is either too much or too little stimulation. I have gotten her close with this but when I did I was licking around where her clit was but not the clit itself. Other times I have tried this and got no response, and when I go for the clit itself it is always too sensitive. I lick softly too! I have also inserted my finger and stimulated her gspot but she eventually stops me from doing this. I have kept going in a manly way SEVERAL TIMES like I was advised here and she didn't finish and eventually she got a little mad saying I didn't listen to her
-GSPOT: I have tried just stimulating the Gspot with the come hither motion really fast. During this, I have made her play with her clit. she said it feels soooo good, says baby, ect but she eventually stopped doing it to herself and pulled my hand out!
-VIBRATOR: I have used a vibrator on her clit and she likes it a lot and squirms and loves it, but she eventually stops saying it tickles or just stops! I have used it on her clit where SHE says it feels perfect and stimulated the GSPOT with my fingers at the same time, still no luck
-INTERCOURSE: We go at it often, and she seems to want my dick more than any of the above. She dirty talks, says my name, ect, but eventually she asks where I am going to cum because she is overstimulated/tired. She has literally been on top and so fatigue she had to stop, almost overstimulated by my dick. She says I am like the energizer bunny. I HAVE HAD HER PLACE THE VIBRATOR ON HERSELF AS WE HAVE SEX, AND SHE didn't finish like this either!
-MASTURBATION: I say play with yourself and she doesn't really seem all too concerned with this during sex or when we are just sitting making out. She does for awhile then stops!

She never seems frustrated with me or the sex at all. After sex sometimes she wants to be close, other times no. She has said she gets frustrated with herself or it takes too long....

Guys...not to get too vulgar but she does anything and everything for me (swallow, anal, cook, laundry, cleaning) and even before emotions were involved wanted sex all the time.

What the heck is going on here? Does she not seem to care much about her own pleasure because she does not know her own body and more importantly NOT KNOW WHAT GOOD SEX IS? How can I possibly get her off if she can't help me at all?

Most importantly, if she was being truthful with me about her past difficulties, will she not know the difference between good and bad sex and be willing to continue to work on it with me?
Author:  TheFury [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 8:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
(1) Women can still greatly enjoy sex even without reaching orgasm. Her enjoyment is more important than whether or not she orgasms.
(2) I assume you asked her what she does to get herself to orgasm when masturbating?
Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 8:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
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(1) Women can still greatly enjoy sex even without reaching orgasm. Her enjoyment is more important than whether or not she orgasms.
(2) I assume you asked her what she does to get herself to orgasm when masturbating?

what she has said to me is she does it once or twice a week and that she goes slow, but I guess I just wanted her to take some ownership of her own pleasure when she is with me if she can finish when she is alone!
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 8:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
Leave $200 on the night stand before you begin.
Author:  Natty [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 8:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
Make sure she isn't too plastered.

Try getting rougher with her.

Doesn't work, try slowing down.

Butt plug.

Porn.

Fantasy stuff.

With most girls, orgasm is a very mental thing, so she's probably got something distracting her....maybe self confidence....she might be really out of shape which causes girls to have low test levels and they can't get off...

Good luck.
Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 8:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
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Make sure she isn't too plastered.

Try getting rougher with her.

Doesn't work, try slowing down.

Butt plug.

Porn.

Fantasy stuff.

With most girls, orgasm is a very mental thing, so she's probably got something distracting her....maybe self confidence....she might be really out of shape which causes girls to have low test levels and they can't get off...

Good luck.
probably half of the time or more our parents are home (early 20s here) so that could account for some, but other times we are alone. I am going to try fantasy....and she is very thin but I wouldn't say in incredible cardio shape
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 9:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
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-GSPOT: I have tried just stimulating the Gspot with the come hither motion really fast. During this, I have made her play with her clit. she said it feels soooo good, says baby, ect but she eventually stopped doing it to herself and pulled my hand out!
I think she had one at this instance. Some girls do not have well developed pubococygeus muscles as others. Some girls have more violent involuntary abdominal spasms; others not that much. Some girls manifest more intense vaginal twitches; others not that much.

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Author:  Natty [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 9:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
I've known many girls who can't hardly get one without screaming and hollering like they're dying. She may never feel like she can completely let go,so holding back is just a habit.

Get a cheap hotel with all that money you save from not paying rent.
Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 10:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
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-GSPOT: I have tried just stimulating the Gspot with the come hither motion really fast. During this, I have made her play with her clit. she said it feels soooo good, says baby, ect but she eventually stopped doing it to herself and pulled my hand out!
I think she had one at this instance. Some girls do not have well developed pubococygeus muscles as others. Some girls have more violent involuntary abdominal spasms; others not that much. Some girls manifest more intense vaginal twitches; others not that much.

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It is possible...she also froze up more than usual a couple times, clenched her teeth and got silent and hugged me real close...but still no abdominal/vaginal stuff

we went at it awhile and I can't see how she didn't when it felt great for her, she was doing it herself, and I was stimulating the gspot

not to mention other times when I've fingered her deep spot she has said faster and I'll come
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 10:23 pm ]
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It is possible...she also froze up more than usual a couple times, clenched her teeth and got silent and hugged me real close...but still no abdominal/vaginal stuff

we went at it awhile and I can't see how she didn't when it felt great for her, she was doing it herself, and I was stimulating the gspot

not to mention other times when I've fingered her deep spot she has said faster and I'll come
It's confirmed. She's been having orgasms with you. That's one of the signs. I had this fuck buddy once whose pussy emitted funny noises every time she had an orgasm. Something like, 'plok... plok... plok...' It sounded like a pussy fart. Never fucked another girl like her with those pussy sounds. A few girls will also have white gushes like coconut milk as their vagina twitched; just a few, not all.

Point is: There's no hard and fast rule with the signs but a combination of 3 to 5 signs is good enough.

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Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 10:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
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It is possible...she also froze up more than usual a couple times, clenched her teeth and got silent and hugged me real close...but still no abdominal/vaginal stuff

we went at it awhile and I can't see how she didn't when it felt great for her, she was doing it herself, and I was stimulating the gspot

not to mention other times when I've fingered her deep spot she has said faster and I'll come
It's confirmed. She's been having orgasms with you. That's one of the signs.

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Well, this was once recently (she also said keep doing that in that spot), then the other time or two she claims was when we first started dating and took the condoms off. Must have been an emotional spark up.

But damn, this one is a toughie! With my ex it literally took her 2 minutes to finish herself along with my hand
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 10:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
Some girls cum faster at certain times. Overall though, it takes time to make them cum with our cocks.

:twisted:
Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 10:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Guys, I can't make her orgasm, and I tried EVERYTHING
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Some girls cum faster at certain times. Overall though, it takes time to make them cum with our cocks.

:twisted:

Isn't her lack of willingness to help much a bit annoying? For example during intercourse not fingering herself.....or keeping the vibrator on the clit when it falls to the side for a sec.....
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 10:44 pm ]
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Isn't her lack of willingness to help much a bit annoying? For example during intercourse not fingering herself.....or keeping the vibrator on the clit when it falls to the side for a sec.....
When a girl cums, she loses all her senses for several seconds. It's like a sudden death. Yep, she's cuming and I think you've been giving her very intense, multiple ones.

:twisted:
Author:  Lionheart9999 [ Tue Sep 03, 2013 11:33 pm ]
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Isn't her lack of willingness to help much a bit annoying? For example during intercourse not fingering herself.....or keeping the vibrator on the clit when it falls to the side for a sec.....
When a girl cums, she loses all her senses for several seconds. It's like a sudden death. Yep, she's cuming and I think you've been giving her very intense, multiple ones.

:twisted:
no way man. did u read the original post?

I just don't get how she could be so tired without cumming
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