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| Author: | pocket_rockets [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 2:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | asked out a coworker text |
So I'm an intern at a major bank. I've gone out for drinks with this girl on another floor a couple times. We have some really good conversations. Sharing dirty stories and things. This was Thursday. I got her number and today I called her. Three hours later shes like hey did you call. I text her back and say "yeah I did. I wanna see you this week. When are you free?". Its been three hours she hasn't responded. I only have a week left for the internship. What should I have done and what can I still do? |
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| Author: | A Good Person [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 2:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Quote: So I'm an intern at a major bank. I've gone out for drinks with this girl on another floor a couple times. We have some really good conversations. Sharing dirty stories and things. This was Thursday. I got her number and today I called her. Three hours later shes like hey did you call. I text her back and say "yeah I did. I wanna see you this week. When are you free?". Its been three hours she hasn't responded. I only have a week left for the internship. What should I have done and what can I still do?
It sounds like you want her too much...
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| Author: | pocket_rockets [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 4:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Well I thought directly to the point would be seen as confident. Guess I was too direct. I dunno what to do now. I could email her at work or try to call her again. But that just screams desperation. |
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| Author: | JTQatar [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 5:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
I guess the mistake here was that you actually ASKED her. Dont ASK...TELL! Something like "im going to xyz on friday, feel free to join me"...Wait for her reply. |
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| Author: | pocket_rockets [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 11:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Yeah I fucked this up. What to do now? Wait a few days and try again? I live close to her so maybe I can still do something after I'm done my work term |
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| Author: | RealMe [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 4:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
From info you have given, I think you did just fine. Some reasons she might be ignoring you might be out of your control. It makes no sense to contact her more now. Its her turn to act. Be polite and wait for her to give you response. Dont get needy. |
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| Author: | Il-Cavalieri [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 4:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
About two months ago I was in your exact position, internship and everything, and now I'm dating the girl I was after, so there is still hope for you. One big difference, though, I worked togather and alone with the girl, so I had the chance to do a lot of fractioning, emotional rollercoaster, some kino, and even be myself. Don't know how you're at with that. Anyway, 3 hours without a response is not long, she may be playing hard to get, or she may just be busy. Wait until she says something; if she doesn't, in a few days send her the "going to *place* for a drink. Feel free to drop by" text. If that doesn't work you have two options: 1 - Star some textbook text game (pun not intended). "Ping" messages, roleplay, etc. There are lots of places where you can learn about text game. 2 (the scary option) - Come clean with her and text her something like "Really liked talking to you and I would like to know you better. Send me a text if you want to go for a cup of coffee someday". It's counterintuitive, but sometimes you have to forget the playbook and take a leap of faith. In my case, I asked her out to dinner when my internship ended, and she declined with some polite excuse. Then I moved on to the text game tactic and went back and forth with that for about one and a half weeks. Then I relized I was going nowere with that and decided to grab the bull by the horns and come clean. Conclusion: She was attracted to me from the start but I overgamed her and came off as a douche, wich made her reluctant to go out with me because she feared I was toying with her and would end up breaking her heart. All that to say, there are no guarantees and you just have to play it as you go. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 5:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
"Reply to me or il club a baby seal to death ;p " |
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| Author: | pocket_rockets [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 9:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Quote: "Reply to me or il club a baby seal to death ;p "
lol. Thanks guys and yeah maybe I'll come clean. So basically she texted me right before I got to work today. Maybe she's one of those girls who checks her phone twice a day. Unfortunately she said she's likely gonna be busy this week but she'll let me know, to which I haven't responded. Sounds like a polite rejection to me. I'm not gonna go emailing her around at work, and I don't think I should text her anytime soon again. What about calling her? Intuitively asking her out on the phone works a lot better. And did I already come clean with this "I want to see you this week. When are you free?"
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| Author: | Dragula [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 10:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Not sure if you were to call instead of text, I don't think it would suddenly make her less flakey.. It is fun to listen to the tone of her voice squirm when she tries to find a polite excuse to blow you off. Move on. Text her "OK THIS IS GOOD BYE FOREVR, *SNIFFLE SNIFFLE*" . (Joke) |
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| Author: | A Good Person [ Tue Aug 27, 2013 3:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
I just think you were a little too interested to start off. You can text her back. I wouldn't call. You can ask her "if you weren't busy would you want to hang out?" |
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| Author: | pocket_rockets [ Tue Aug 27, 2013 5:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Quote: I just think you were a little too interested to start off. You can text her back. I wouldn't call. You can ask her "if you weren't busy would you want to hang out?"
I'm sorry I don't see the logic in this. Everyone I talk to and every article I've ever read says calling to ask her out is better.
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| Author: | Dragula [ Tue Aug 27, 2013 7:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Disagree. Why not just do what YOU want to do. I asked a girl out by Facebook once, BOW TO ME |
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| Author: | OG_PlMP [ Tue Aug 27, 2013 7:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Here's where you went wrong: You asked her out on the very first text that you sent. What you should have done is for the first text send something that sparks some emotion, curiosity seems to work well for this one as it gets a high response rate. Then send a text that makes a connection/inside joke that only you two know about, she'll feel closer and more connected to you. Then on the third text you should ask her out, something like what the others said "Hey I'm thinking of going to *** tonight for happy hour, you should come!" |
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| Author: | A Good Person [ Tue Aug 27, 2013 7:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: asked out a coworker text |
Quote: Quote: I just think you were a little too interested to start off. You can text her back. I wouldn't call. You can ask her "if you weren't busy would you want to hang out?"
I'm sorry I don't see the logic in this. Everyone I talk to and every article I've ever read says calling to ask her out is better.The only reason I said text "if you weren't busy would you want to hang out?" Because that gets rid of her excuse and gets to the heart of whether she wants to hang out with you or not. If she makes the confession that she does you probably got her... Basically, it forces her to make a choice and not an excuse. |
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