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Author:  cunning_stunt [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 11:41 am ]
Post subject:  Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..?!
So I work in an office. We have a new girl who is delivering food to our office everday.
When she was training with the previous girl, I could see her looking at me and smiling when I came towards her. Hair touching aswell..

She is pretty and has a good body. With makeup, possibly a knock out.
Get the feeling she isn't that smart given the job she is doing, but then she is Eastern European.
(That wasn't meant to be snobbish, just an observation)..

So her first full day, I lured her away from others, gave my mobile and told her to text me about the food later.
So she text me 2 hours later .. the conversation goes like this..

Her: Hi It's X. So, have you created your perfect sandwich yet?
Me: To tell you the truth X, the sandwich is ok. I just wanted your number couldn't ask infront of the others. If you are interested to meet me for a drink, let me know. If not, it's ok and business as usual.
(4 hours later) Her: That was sneaky ;) So I'll let you know, when I make up my mind. Have a nice evening.
(4 hours later) Me: I understand. It's a very big decision ;) X


So I didn't hear back and then today she is in the office. This time she isn't really looking at me. Not/no eye contact until I went to buy from her (little smile).. but that was it.

Thoughts?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 11:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..
Very low-attraction level.

Her polite way of saying. "I'm not that interested. we will see what happens"
Author:  cunning_stunt [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 12:07 pm ]
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Very low-attraction level.

Her polite way of saying. "I'm not that interested. we will see what happens"
It just amazes me the way I can see her looking and smiling and seeming keen. Then the minute I ask her out.. she wont look at me anymore. Girls are a fucking joke. honestly..
If the attraction level is low.. then don't bloody smile at me.
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 12:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..
You have a really bad attitude. You get angry at women who are nice and friendly to you and smile but won't say yes instantly to a date.

Stop finding excuses to get a woman's number. Why not just flirt openly in front of everyone? Why didn't you just ask her out in person, you didn't even need her number. Her attraction level is low because your pickup lacked balls, then you were too eager to set up the date in only your first text. You chose to go for the text method. If that's your style then you should've built more rapport with teasing texts, sexual innuendos etc.

Stop being bitter and outcome-dependent and your success will follow.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 12:45 pm ]
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You have a really bad attitude. You get angry at women who are nice and friendly to you and smile but won't say yes instantly to a date.

Stop finding excuses to get a woman's number. Why not just flirt openly in front of everyone? Why didn't you just ask her out in person, you didn't even need her number. Her attraction level is low because your pickup lacked balls, then you were too eager to set up the date in only your first text. You chose to go for the text method. If that's your style then you should've built more rapport with teasing texts, sexual innuendos etc.

Stop being bitter and outcome-dependent and your success will follow.
That. To make girls want to spend time with you, you have to give them fun and make them horny. Learn to give fun and sexual excitement instead of taking a girl's time offering nothing but free food and drinks.

:twisted:
Author:  cunning_stunt [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 4:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..
Thanks for all the feedback. Kind of agree with most of it I suppose :(

Do you think that different girls have different ways they like to get with a guy?

i.e. some prefer straight in based on physical attraction, some want to get to know them on a friendly basis first, some are waiting until they see good social proofing.?

also as far as this chick goes.. whats my next best move?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 5:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..
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.. whats my next best move?
Bold and direct.

A direct and bold approach enables you to weed out women who are shy or conservative.

Have the balls to let her know you have a sexual level of interest.

As I was talking to an attractive woman in my office today, sideways for the files, she started applying dark red lip gloss while chatting. I turned my head, locked eyes, and said; "Ohhh you don't need to stop doing THAT! But I completely lost track of what you were saying."

She blushed a little, giggled like a school girl, AND THANKED ME!

There was clearly no mixed messages, in the innuendo.

Although you got her number using an indirect approach, it has to turn direct at some point to make anything happen.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Tue Aug 13, 2013 5:38 pm ]
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She picked up on your unsuredness "if you wanna hang cool, if not cool too"

Be more decisive in your language, now she's holding the frame on when and IF the two of you go out.

Women have this intuitive sense when a guy is beating-around-the-bush or worse yet MEEK, they DO NOT like it its a very unattractive behavior and can completely turn a woman off.
Author:  cunning_stunt [ Wed Aug 14, 2013 11:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..
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She picked up on your unsuredness "if you wanna hang cool, if not cool too"

Be more decisive in your language, now she's holding the frame on when and IF the two of you go out.

Women have this intuitive sense when a guy is beating-around-the-bush or worse yet MEEK, they DO NOT like it its a very unattractive behavior and can completely turn a woman off.

hmm..

She actually text me today.. I hadn't texted anything else since my last text.
her: ok, so as for now let's keep business as usual. See you soon!

as for now?.. what the hell does that mean?..
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Wed Aug 14, 2013 11:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..
You need to stop over-analysing everything a woman says. English is not her first language. Just decide what to do and lead her. You're not leading. You're reacting to her. She is in control which is making you look weak.
Author:  Skylar B [ Wed Aug 14, 2013 11:54 am ]
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Quote:
She picked up on your unsuredness "if you wanna hang cool, if not cool too"

Be more decisive in your language, now she's holding the frame on when and IF the two of you go out.

Women have this intuitive sense when a guy is beating-around-the-bush or worse yet MEEK, they DO NOT like it its a very unattractive behavior and can completely turn a woman off.

hmm..

She actually text me today.. I hadn't texted anything else since my last text.
her: ok, so as for now let's keep business as usual. See you soon!

as for now?.. what the hell does that mean?..
she doesn't wanna hang out,for now she wants to be friends/work colleagues.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Aug 14, 2013 12:47 pm ]
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her: ok, so as for now let's keep business as usual. See you soon!
Reply "Good we can just be friends, all my friends send me their boobs!"
Author:  puaninja [ Wed Aug 14, 2013 4:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked girl on date. She said she will 'think' about it..
Boy, you sure did screw up with your initial exchange. You don't tell them you just wanted their number so you can ask them out. That's like saying "I like you, do you like me too?!"

You came off as needy and easy and lost all appeal in her eyes. Better try a different route next time.
Author:  cunning_stunt [ Wed Aug 14, 2013 5:41 pm ]
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Boy, you sure did screw up with your initial exchange. You don't tell them you just wanted their number so you can ask them out. That's like saying "I like you, do you like me too?!"

You came off as needy and easy and lost all appeal in her eyes. Better try a different route next time.

I am so fucking useless with these things.
Author:  Don Horneone [ Wed Aug 14, 2013 8:14 pm ]
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I am so fucking useless with these things.
Most of us were once.

If anything the main thing you need to think about here is being less honest. She doesn't need to know all of your feelings. If a girl came to you and said "I'm a little nervous because I've been hurt, and I'm ultimately looking for a relationship and I think lots of guys are players and blah blah blah", would you be turned on or completely put off? Disclosure isn't always a good thing, and that's one of the mistakes I always used to make, telling girls stuff they never asked to know and didn't need to know.

Honesty is a good thing, but can also be a big fault if you don't get that shit under control.
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